hawkeye7 saidWhen we stand up for ourselves................they run away. sometimes not at first but sooner or later they run away.
Be the man your mother is proud of and be the man you want in your life.
^^ this +10
The one time I stood up, it was easy and it was SSOOOO satisfying. Granted, I really haven't gotten much flack from anyone. I dont hear much from anyone. But the one time I did it felt great. Actually, here is my advice:
1. Dont be clever. (Str8 guys think that is too gay. Be direct. )
2. Talk forcefully. (Cesar Milan has it right: 80% of it is tone of voice. Deep, commanding and forceful voice without sounding strained and without yelling.)
3. Keep it short. (I swear it won't last long. They WILL back down.)
Mine was a fat woman and her fat redneck husband in a restarant who said to themselves as my friend and I sat down, "I think they are a couple"... he put his fatfaced head in his stubby fingers and said, "Oh lordddd....." and shook his head as if "This worll is fawlin part!"
So on the way back from the bathroom later, when they looked up at me, then looked at each other and then looked at me again, I stopped and folded one 20" biceps over the other and said, "Yes? Did you want to say something?"
They were stunned.... I purposely invaded their space, also... I was right at their table. The stammered and stumbled and said some bullshit and I said, "My buddy over there thought you were trying to say somethign to us earlier. Well? What is it?"
The woman leaned back and looked about to say somethign and the dude, said, "nothing, we didn't want to say nothign" and I said, "Ok... have a nice day" and walked away.