How long was your longest LTR and when were you ready to seriously date again, if at all?

  • in_this_corne...

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    Oct 11, 2011 3:06 PM GMT
    Regardless of whether your relationship ended on good or bad terms, anyone who has been in a significant LTR knows how much work/nurturing/creativity goes into a successful relationship.

    Just curious to hear the duration of your longest relationship and when were you ready to seriously open that door again?

    Mine was 15 years and ended almost 12 months ago. While I enjoy meeting people and having conversation over dinner/drinks, I struggle with calling anything a date. I'm completely in 'friend' mode. I don't see that changing right now. I'm sure it will eventually, but I'm in no rush.
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    Oct 11, 2011 5:17 PM GMT
    Just take it one day at a time. 16 years and still going here.
    My heart goes out to you. I couldn't imagine starting again and don't think I would if this ended. Life would be just about me............LOL.
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    Oct 11, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    What puzzles me, after being in a long-term relationship, like 10 years, 15 years, why would it break up?
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    Oct 11, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    S60turbo saidJust take it one day at a time. 16 years and still going here.
    My heart goes out to you. I couldn't imagine starting again and don't think I would if this ended. Life would be just about me............LOL.


    Haha...yeah...it's all good. With obvious exception to some traumatic and difficult times at first, it's been a really great, introspective time. Definitely have taken a lot of 'me' time this past year for sure and I'm in a really great spot right now.

    I've known guys who've been in 2, 5, 10, 20 year relationships and have jumped into the next one with both feet in after weeks or months. I'm always like...WTF? I don't see how that's possible. I'd love to hear some perspective on that.
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    Oct 11, 2011 6:02 PM GMT
    Sulla saidWhat puzzles me, after being in a long-term relationship, like 10 years, 15 years, why would it break up?


    For the same reasons that straight married folks would get divorced even though they've been married for years. People grow and change - sometimes in ways they never anticipated. It can make sustaining a relationship that began under other assumptions somewhat challenging. Not impossible, just challenging.
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    Oct 11, 2011 6:12 PM GMT
    I've had two 2 year relationships and after each one ended I took over six months to myself. I just started dating again and I really missed the closeness and cuddling....the sex too!

    The current guy I'm dating is just adorable and sweet as can be, here's to new relationships.
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    Oct 11, 2011 8:34 PM GMT
    in_this_corner saidRegardless of whether your relationship ended on good or bad terms, anyone who has been in a significant LTR knows how much work/nurturing/creativity goes into a successful relationship.

    Just curious to hear the duration of your longest relationship and when were you ready to seriously open that door again?

    Mine was 15 years and ended almost 12 months ago. While I enjoy meeting people and having conversation over dinner/drinks, I struggle with calling anything a date. I'm completely in 'friend' mode. I don't see that changing right now. I'm sure it will eventually, but I'm in no rush.

    My ten year relationship ended ohhh a year and eight months ago, I'm still in "fuck everything that moves" mode.

    I'm not ready for a real relationship although I can handle dating just fine.