Homelessness among LBGT persons

  • FRE0

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    Oct 11, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    Check out this article about the high percentage of homeless youth who are LGBT:

    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cyndi-lauper/give-a-damn_b_1000046.html?utm_source=DailyBrief&utm_campaign=101111&utm_medium=email&utm_content=BlogEntry&utm_term=Daily%20Brief

    To many of us, this is not new information. It's good that it is finally receiving more attention. It also shows why it is risky to come out before achieving financial independence.
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 11, 2011 7:00 PM GMT
    FRE0 said
    It also shows why it is risky to come out before achieving financial independence.


    http://www.huffingtonpost.com/cyndi-lauper/give-a-damn_b_1000046.html

    THANK YOU for posting this....I talk to younger guys all the time about the possible outcome of this. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 11, 2011 7:39 PM GMT
    There are so many! Every Thanksgiving and Christmas Day I get a group of my friends to donate and serve food at one of (there are a few) LGBT youth shelters here in the city. It makes me sad but feel good at the same time to help. I wish I could do more, but at least I am doing something. They seem to like to be able to talk to people that do not have to be there but are... it shows them that at least on some level there are some people out there that care.
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    Oct 11, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    Well, it is OBVIOUSLY a symptom of their sinful homosexual lifestyle.

    If Jesus wanted you to have a house, he'd give you one, just like how Jesus OBVIOUSLY wanted large corporations to get tax cuts so they could ship all those jobs to China or something.
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    Oct 11, 2011 9:30 PM GMT
    Its very sad and so real! And sad thing is, many of these youth, can expect the rest of their lives to be a struggle.

    The first people who find these youth, usually are predators... and being rejected by family or various people, only makes these youth turn to the wrong people because...

    no one's there for them... and you seek care or concern or even shelter, in one form or another.

    I was like this a year ago... and it was the toughest time of my life. So vivid! It will always be a part of my life too. I mean, like, as it drifts further away, it will always be apart of me cause it happened. But, these kids are usually the toughest cookies out there.

    To go through that and make it to the otherside, hopefully unscathed or not too terriblly emotionally damaged is a lot.

    Bless their hearts!

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    Oct 11, 2011 9:41 PM GMT
    C_J35 saidThere are so many! Every Thanksgiving and Christmas Day I get a group of my friends to donate and serve food at one of (there are a few) LGBT youth shelters here in the city. It makes me sad but feel good at the same time to help. I wish I could do more, but at least I am doing something. They seem to like to be able to talk to people that do not have to be there but are... it shows them that at least on some level there are some people out there that care.

    We do the same thing here. Thanksgiving is coming, and we always buy a number of turkeys for the HIV homeless. And for Christmas we buy toys, bikes & clothes for kids whose parents are destitute, due to HIV/AIDS.

    A number of RJ guys here are full of right-wing political attitude, but I wonder how many of them actually donate anything to the needy. And if you doubt what my partner & I do, I can link you to where our names are listed online as major benefactors.

    An old expression: Either put up, or shut up. A lot of guys here just need to shut up, agreed?
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    Oct 11, 2011 9:42 PM GMT
    I was almost put into a situation like that before when I was outed at 16. Fortunately, my dad was tolerable and didn't kick me or my brother (he's gay too) out. It was mostly our stepmom who wanted to get rid of us but our father protested.

    With that said, I feel horrible for the youth who aren't so lucky... And what FALLINLOVEAGAIN said is true about the predators. The youth are more susceptible to go to them because they feel that no one else cares for them and most of the time, want someone who cares about them even if it clouds their judgement... It really makes me feel even more bad for them...
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    Oct 11, 2011 9:45 PM GMT
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    C_J35 saidThere are so many! Every Thanksgiving and Christmas Day I get a group of my friends to donate and serve food at one of (there are a few) LGBT youth shelters here in the city. It makes me sad but feel good at the same time to help. I wish I could do more, but at least I am doing something. They seem to like to be able to talk to people that do not have to be there but are... it shows them that at least on some level there are some people out there that care.

    We do the same thing here. Thanksgiving is coming, and we always buy a number of turkeys for the HIV homeless. And for Christmas we buy toys, bikes & clothes for kids whose parents are destitute, due to HIV/AIDS.

    A number of RJ guys here are full of right-wing political attitude, but I wonder how many of them actually donate anything to the needy. And if you doubt what my partner & I do, I can link you to where our names are listed online as major benefactors.

    An old expression: Either put up, or shut up. A lot of guys here just need to shut up, agreed?


    I* personally don't have a lot to offer however, I did donate a few of my clothes last month to the needy. It may have not been much and mostly band t-shirts and old pants but it felt good knowing that they were going to be given to help people keep warm and such.

    I understand what you are saying though.
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    Oct 11, 2011 9:46 PM GMT
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    C_J35 saidThere are so many! Every Thanksgiving and Christmas Day I get a group of my friends to donate and serve food at one of (there are a few) LGBT youth shelters here in the city. It makes me sad but feel good at the same time to help. I wish I could do more, but at least I am doing something. They seem to like to be able to talk to people that do not have to be there but are... it shows them that at least on some level there are some people out there that care.

    We do the same thing here. Thanksgiving is coming, and we always buy a number of turkeys for the HIV homeless. And for Christmas we buy toys, bikes & clothes for kids whose parents are destitute, due to HIV/AIDS.

    A number of RJ guys here are full of right-wing political attitude, but I wonder how many of them actually donate anything to the needy. And if you doubt what my partner & I do, I can link you to where our names are listed online as major benefactors.

    An old expression: Either put up, or shut up. A lot of guys here just need to shut up, agreed?


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  • commoncoll

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    Oct 11, 2011 10:38 PM GMT
    Art_Dec0 saidA number of RJ guys here are full of right-wing political attitude, but I wonder how many of them actually donate anything to the needy. And if you doubt what my partner & I do, I can link you to where our names are listed online as major benefactors.

    An old expression: Either put up, or shut up. A lot of guys here just need to shut up, agreed?


    It is a custom of charity that your left hand must not know what the right hand gives. The right-wingers donate more to charity than others at the national level and the local level. It is a fact that church members donate to some of the best run charities: churches.

    Thank you for the article FRE0.

    Are there particular reasons why there are more LGBT homeless teens? Is it because they are not accepted in their homes? They are more likely to be from poor or broken families? They were from foster homes/state agencies? They are more likely to be troubled/involved in prostitution/involved in crime/drugs? What other reasons are there?
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    Checking in. I'm one of them.

    Most of us, or at least ones like me that I encounter try to make ourselves not seem homeless or in-need. We want to be accepted and normally integrated into society, plus if you're trying desperately to become employed and such... you don't want to be known as "that homeless guy" because your chances come down.

    It's a fight, that's for sure. I've thought about writing a blog about it.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:15 PM GMT
    TrevorMark saidChecking in. I'm one of them.

    Most of us, or at least ones like me that I encounter try to make ourselves not seem homeless or in-need. We want to be accepted and normally integrated into society, plus if you're trying desperately to become employed and such... you don't want to be known as "that homeless guy" because your chances come down.

    It's a fight, that's for sure. I've thought about writing a blog about it.

    Why are you homeless? What led up to it? How have you made a home that you have access to computers and internet?
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
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    Why are you homeless? What led up to it? How have you made a home that you have access to computers and internet?

    Why? My parents simply do not accept me for who I am. It had always been a hostile environment but it became violent as soon as my parents had been persuaded their failing marriage was my fault in some way by being gay.

    A lot lead up to it, my entire life... really.

    How have I? I fled here that night to my best friends mom's house, crying and calling my then boyfriend and everyone I trusted. It's temporary and recognized by the state and backlogged homeless shelter as a "place of reconnaissance". However, my story varies from the usual. My parents and my sister both know where I am and try to randomly instill some sort of chaos here and there. My fight still isn't over and I barely manage attempting to pay rent, eat at least once a day and find a way out of this hell.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:25 PM GMT
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    commoncoll said
    Why are you homeless? What led up to it? How have you made a home that you have access to computers and internet?

    Why? My parents simply do not accept me for who I am. It had always been a hostile environment but it became violent as soon as my parents had been persuaded their failing marriage was my fault in some way by being gay.

    A lot lead up to it, my entire life... really.

    How have I? I fled here that night to my best friends mom's house, crying and calling my then boyfriend and everyone I trusted. It's temporary and recognized by the state and backlogged homeless shelter as a "place of reconnaissance". However, my story varies from the usual. My parents and my sister both know where I am and try to randomly instill some sort of chaos here and there. My fight still isn't over and I barely manage attempting to pay rent, eat at least once a day and find a way out of this hell.

    You pay some percentage of your living expenses and the state pays others? Are you employed? What field do you hope to go into? Do you own a vehicle or use public transportation?

    I am sorry you have been having these difficulties.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:29 PM GMT
    TrevorMark saidChecking in. I'm one of them.

    Most of us, or at least ones like me that I encounter try to make ourselves not seem homeless or in-need. We want to be accepted and normally integrated into society, plus if you're trying desperately to become employed and such... you don't want to be known as "that homeless guy" because your chances come down.

    It's a fight, that's for sure. I've thought about writing a blog about it.


    You should blog about it.

    I was in a similar situation. It was horrible, and though I'm well into my 40s, not a day goes by that I don't think about it.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    I've been on the board for a local group in Atlanta, which really serves the southeast for homeless LGBT kids.

    The main scenario usually involves the parent(s) kicking their child out after finding out the child's gay. The kid may have told the parent or the parent found out on their own. The other scenario is that the LGBT kid runs away because the abuse (physical/emotional/sexual) got to be too much to take.

    The best result is to be able to work with the parent to gain enough acceptance where the living situation isn't toxic. But more often, the program gets the kids into an environment where they can learn to live independently, while working and going to school. They started with separate LGBT living areas, but the program has so many, it's been more successul to integrate and make sure all the other kids learn tolerance and diversity.

    They really need these programs because shelters are horrible and there is no institutional support for gays and lesbians. There are great success stories (James on my profile page went on to join the board of Atlanta Pride and finished college), and I hope TrevorMark gets some good guidance and support.
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 11, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    Everyone who has ever criticized someone because they didn't "come out" and "have lived a lie" needs to read this. For some it works fine, for others....it's a nightmare. icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    Yeah, when I get my license I definitely want to do charity work for the GLBT groups in the city that help homeless and mentally ill GLBT
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:57 PM GMT
    i'll come out when i can afford 2. this even has me thinking of taking my face pic down on here....
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:36 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    commoncoll said
    Why are you homeless? What led up to it? How have you made a home that you have access to computers and internet?

    Why? My parents simply do not accept me for who I am. It had always been a hostile environment but it became violent as soon as my parents had been persuaded their failing marriage was my fault in some way by being gay.

    A lot lead up to it, my entire life... really.

    How have I? I fled here that night to my best friends mom's house, crying and calling my then boyfriend and everyone I trusted. It's temporary and recognized by the state and backlogged homeless shelter as a "place of reconnaissance". However, my story varies from the usual. My parents and my sister both know where I am and try to randomly instill some sort of chaos here and there. My fight still isn't over and I barely manage attempting to pay rent, eat at least once a day and find a way out of this hell.


    I am so sorry to hear that man! I also applaud your bravery to stand up to be who youself! These are times when I think you will find out who your true friends are. Thank whatever power that there my be that your friend and his family has stepped in. You seem like a bright and honest individual so I am sure this is a temporary setback that in hindsight you will see made you a much better and stronger person.

    This song comes to mind... love her or hate her, the lyrics are very true!

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  • commoncoll

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    Oct 12, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    Why are more people not interested in this?
  • str8hardbody9

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    Oct 12, 2011 3:33 AM GMT
    Oh my gosh! I'm blindsided w/ the homelessness in LGBT. I want to help and volunteer. It's sad to see these youth being homeless at an early stage of their life. Thanksgiving, Christmas & New Year are coming and I want to help. Where?
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    Oct 12, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    str8hardbody9 saidOh my gosh! I'm blindsided w/ the homelessness in LGBT. I want to help and volunteer. It's sad to see these youth being homeless at an early stage of their life. Thanksgiving, Christmas & New Year are coming and I want to help. Where?

    You live in fairly gay friendly place. You can contact the local PFLAG or another LGBT organization, they can direct you to a place. You can also donate/volunteer at any homeless shelters or food banks/pantries that accept donations.
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    Oct 12, 2011 5:53 AM GMT
    commoncoll said
    You pay some percentage of your living expenses and the state pays others? Are you employed? What field do you hope to go into? Do you own a vehicle or use public transportation?

    I am sorry you have been having these difficulties.

    Actually, since I do not have any children and even the public housing is full... the state only gives me food stamps/EBT Food Card.

    I am employed as a part time retail worker. It's not so bad, but once winter rolls around I have no idea what I'm going to do about getting there and back. I do not have a working vehicle and walk 3.1 miles to work, 3.1 there and 3.1 back currently. A 9 minute car ride takes about 1 hour-ish to walk. I can't even think about doing it in the scathing cold.

    I really actually want to get into the criminal field. Where at is still to be determined... but my goal was to be in the FBI division with Trafficking or Solicitation.

    If we had public transportation, I wouldn't be worrying about the future as much as I am right now. lol.
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    Oct 12, 2011 5:55 AM GMT
    RiverRising said
    You should blog about it.

    I was in a similar situation. It was horrible, and though I'm well into my 40s, not a day goes by that I don't think about it.


    I currently read a girls blog who is in a similar situation as mine, except she lives in a parking lot near a Starbucks where she steals the wifi from. Otherwise it's like we're living the same life except she graduated with a Bachelors, lives in a bigger city and wasn't disowned because she's straight. Hahaha.