Am I shallow?

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    Oct 11, 2011 11:21 PM GMT
    In line with most gay men, I prefer young ( under 30, over 18 ), in-shape (ie goes to a gym religiously), 5'9" or taller. My friends say I have passed up on a lot of allegedly "great guys" because of my preferences.

    I doubt that I have because in the end, I just want what we all want: Perfection and youth. Does that make me shallow? I don't think so, but I'm interested in what others think.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:38 PM GMT
    I think these baby carrots I got from Walmart taste funny.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidAnd yes, it does make you shallow, not that I imagine that disturbs you.


    No, it doesn't bother me at all, it's actually one of my better qualities since the vast majority of gays are indecisive, flaky, at best. Then there's me, but because I know what I want, I'm labeled "shallow". I never thought of myself as that, just incredibly confident and decisive.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    jpBITCHvaI think you're a pictureless sock account.
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    You make it sound like that's a bad thing...
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    I'm very shallow too but in a weird way, because I have very high standards for myself, my teeth have to be really white, my skin has to be perfect, my body has to be smooth and smell nice, etc. but I'm not shallow at all when it comes to the guys I find attractive, I like old men in their 50s, chubby men, men with back hair, men whose teeth aren't white, men with a lil bit of acne, sweaty men, hairy men icon_twisted.gif . I'm weird icon_lol.gif.
  • LJay

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    Oct 12, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    OP, shallow perhaps. Picky, definitely. Thinking you are cute wanting to pick a fight, absolutely certainly.

    Worth the time of day, certainly not.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:03 AM GMT
    Why do you need validation?

    Like what you like and don't make apologies for it. Your expectations don't sound so unrealstic to me. You like young, tall, in-shape guys...
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:04 AM GMT
    Lots of people are shallow. But you gotta drop these expectations. I used to kinda be the same way as far as age. I have met some very hot/good guys that are quite a bit older than 30. The last one was 38. I actually now prefer older guys to younger ones.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:08 AM GMT
    who cares? next
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    KSUOWL saidLots of people are shallow. But you gotta drop these expectations. I used to kinda be the same way as far as age. I have met some very hot/good guys that are quite a bit older than 30. The last one was 38. I actually now prefer older guys to younger ones.


    I agree I met a chill older guy who is like 35. He is in incredible shape and I am not so I often question why he always wants to hang. He is incredibly snuggly though so it works.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:13 AM GMT
    OP, you can like anything you want. You can even exclude people because their hair is not blue. Attraction is not a debt, feel free to exclude anyone you want, and I'm not being cynical at all, I really mean it.

    A shallow thing would be complaining about not attracting the perfect guy when you are not perfect yourself. To expect more than you can offer is the shallowest thing of all.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:13 AM GMT
    Hypnotico saidI'm very shallow too but in a weird way, because I have very high standards for myself, my teeth have to be really white, my skin has to be perfect, my body has to be smooth and smell nice, etc. but I'm not shallow at all when it comes to the guys I find attractive, I like old men in their 50s, chubby men, men with back hair, men whose teeth aren't white, men with a lil bit of acne, sweaty men, hairy men icon_twisted.gif . I'm weird icon_lol.gif.

    Why don't you try to be more like the guys you find attractive then? I'm sure there are a lot of guys who prefer scruffy guys more than the perfect looking metro guys. I'm one of those guys as well and I don't get why a lot of people try making themselves look perfect. It just doesn't look natural imo.

    A guy like this is more attractive than
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    a guy like this
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:14 AM GMT
    IS SHE WEIRD?


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    Oct 12, 2011 12:14 AM GMT
    I'm, in short, the greatest thing to happen to gay men. I am perfect in every way possible: Looks, personality, fashion sense...guys, really, I am that awesome and I know it! I will not associate myself with or even acknowledge the existence of others who not not fit my criteria. I am better than the vast majority of people out there. You know it, I know it, the homeless guy on the corner knows it.

    Like all gay men, I am looking for perfection. Men 18-29, tall, handsome, nice body/proportioned, financially secure, and great in bed.

    If you do not meet this exact criteria, you are not to contact me in any way, shape, or form. You will abide by that because I am simply that much of a catch and will not be disrespected by having anyone lower than myself contact me.


    LOL, that's all pulled from his profile. What a joke, such a failure attempt at trolling. Hey bud, if you're going to troll don't make it so obvious next time. You can log off and get back on your regular account now.

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    Oct 12, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    Kardio is so hot. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
    bachian saidOP, you can like anything you want. You can even exclude people because their hair is not blue. Attraction is not a debt, feel free to exclude anyone you want, and I'm not being cynical at all, I really mean it.

    A shallow thing would be complaining about not attracting the perfect guy when you are not perfect yourself. To expect more than you can offer is the shallowest thing of all.


    Thank you!
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:20 AM GMT
    Dont stress, you are NOT shallow.. you just have preferences, we all have them and we normally cant help it..
    maybe those guys were "great" in your friends eyes, but if they werent in yours, then you obviously had a good reason for passing them up..

    i personally am not interested in white guys, i only like asians, latinos, etc..
    if a white guy was interested in me, i wouldnt be a jerk about it, but i would definitely pass him up.. that doesnt make me a bad guy, it just means i know what i want, and i wont waste time with someone im not interested in just because of what others think..

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    Oct 12, 2011 12:25 AM GMT
    b11111 saidi personally am not interested in white guys, i only like asians, latinos, etc..if a white guy was interested in me, i wouldnt be a jerk about it, but i would definitely pass him up.. that doesnt make me a bad guy, it just means i know what i want, and i wont waste time with someone im not interested in just because of what others think.


    Very well-stated. Thanks!
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:26 AM GMT
    Well, the sad part is that I've met people like that out there. He probably isn't kidding.

    Perfect? "Men 18-29, tall, handsome, nice body/proportioned, financially secure, and great in bed" is a great start. Physical and facial symmetry, prominent zygomatic buttresses, prominent masseter muscles, prognathic chin preferably with a Angle Class I or neutroocclusion (Class III is OK, definitely don't want a retrognathic profile), a full buccal corridor, high smile line, no rotation or tipping of the incisors, and preferably a Shade A1. Good clear skin free of blemishes, major scarring, stretch marks, and large birthmarks. Proper posture that is neither kaiphotic nor lourdortic, with broad shoulders and medium skeletal build...
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    BlondOverBlue saidIn line with most gay men, I prefer young ( under 30, over 18 ), in-shape (ie goes to a gym religiously), 5'9" or taller. My friends say I have passed up on a lot of allegedly "great guys" because of my preferences.

    I doubt that I have because in the end, I just want what we all want: Perfection and youth. Does that make me shallow? I don't think so, but I'm interested in what others think.


    I'm out

    Sucks to be 5' 7

    But you ain't gonna see me crying....
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:28 AM GMT
    Really? If you have to ask you already know the answer.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:30 AM GMT
    joe122 saidWhy don't you try to be more like the guys you find attractive then? I'm sure there are a lot of guys who prefer scruffy guys more than the perfect looking metro guys.


    Hey buddy, we can't all be scruffy even if we wanted. icon_lol.gif I know many people of eastern european and indigenous ancestry (including myself) who are naturally smooth (including guys who have no beard)
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:31 AM GMT
    TalShiar saidReally? If you have to ask you already know the answer.

    Good pointicon_cool.gif