Starting a hot list

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    Oct 11, 2011 11:23 PM GMT
    Does anyone find hot listing disrespectful or creepy? I feel like I should start a hot list as an attempt to deter interest from folks I am not sexually interested in from hitting on me; the intent is that they'll see my obvious type and hopefully realize it ain't them.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    What people care about is eye-candy and satisfying their own desires when it comes to online interactions, so they'll hotlist/contact you regardless what you say in your profile or who you have hotlisted.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:54 PM GMT
    FrostedFlakes saidDoes anyone find hot listing disrespectful or creepy? I feel like I should start a hot list as an attempt to deter interest from folks I am not sexually interested in from hitting on me; the intent is that they'll see my obvious type and hopefully realize it ain't them.


    calling all bears.
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    Oct 11, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    Why is this a topic? icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:00 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said Why is this a topic? icon_confused.gif
    Because he ran out of other stuff to bitch about.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    wtf
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:04 AM GMT
    und3rdog saidI don't have a "hot list", but I'm nothing but flattered by anyone who decides to add me to theirs. I'm not sure why you'd find it disrespectful or creepy.


    Refer to Paul's answer. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:05 AM GMT
    First of all, I don't understand how the ego can be stroked via digital communication through a keyboard, but I suppose desperation has caused some to use the internet for that satisfaction. Basically, there's not much validity in flirting through the internet.

    A hot list shows visually what stimulates you. It shows nothing but the fact that you have an animalistic reflex built on sexual desires. We all have one; Humans are physical reflexes and emotional reflexes. Unfortunately, some men find it unattractive to point out the obvious and redundant.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    deltalimen saidFirst of all, I don't understand how the ego can be stroked via digital communication through a keyboard, but I suppose desperation has caused some to use the internet for that satisfaction. Basically, there's not much validity in flirting through the internet.


    I dont think its desperate; its still a human connection, and because its done trough the internet doesnt mean it couldnt be sincere.
    If its done with desperate intentions, im pretty sure the recipient can tell.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:16 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes saidDoes anyone find hot listing disrespectful or creepy? I feel like I should start a hot list as an attempt to deter interest from folks I am not sexually interested in from hitting on me; the intent is that they'll see my obvious type and hopefully realize it ain't them.

    Just forget it. To many things need to fall into place for this to work.

    1) people would actually have to look at your profile with their analytical capacities in on-mode.
    2) folks then have to realize that they actually do not look like the people in your hot-list.
    3) and they have to give up hope that you will make an exception for them.

    Ain't gonna happen.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:21 AM GMT

    Lego your Ego...



    ...also,

    I agree with the above. You're giving people WAY too much credit...




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    Oct 12, 2011 12:50 AM GMT
    i love it especially when someone i hotlist hotlists me back icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    If I hot list someone, it is merely a compliment and not a solicitation for anything else. If the recipient thinks that it's creepy, that is their own insecurity talking. Not everyone here has butt rape on the brain.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:54 AM GMT
    It's nice to be hotlisted, and many guys are generally hot and deserve to be, but I don't want people to develop opinions about me from whom I choose, or be intimidated by my choices when attempting to message, thus I leave it up to the imagination, and simply just buddy list people I chat to.

    I think that's a good way to chat with genuine people.
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes saidDoes anyone find hot listing disrespectful or creepy? I feel like I should start a hot list as an attempt to deter interest from folks I am not sexually interested in from hitting on me; the intent is that they'll see my obvious type and hopefully realize it ain't them.


    Do you really think that all horny guys on this site actually think that systematically and logically?
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    Oct 12, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    GigoloAssassin said Why is this a topic? icon_confused.gif
    Because he ran out of other stuff to bitch about.


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    Oct 12, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    hoosier_daddy saidIf I hot list someone, it is merely a compliment and not a solicitation for anything else. If the recipient thinks that it's creepy, that is their own insecurity talking.
    Not everyone here has butt rape on the brain.


    NO?! icon_cry.gif...
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:08 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    hoosier_daddy saidIf I hot list someone, it is merely a compliment and not a solicitation for anything else. If the recipient thinks that it's creepy, that is their own insecurity talking.
    Not everyone here has butt rape on the brain.


    NO?! icon_cry.gif...


    well, maybe not all the time icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:08 AM GMT
    Feel free to add me to your hotlist! I won't find it creepy or disrespectful! icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    How about making a thread about who's the most-hot listed guy in your list. That will be more creepier than this one.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:28 AM GMT
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:37 AM GMT
    deltalimen said...
    A hot list shows visually what stimulates you. It shows nothing but the fact that you have an animalistic reflex built on sexual desires...


    While I suspect this is true for the most part it is not entirely true in my particular case (and I am curious if any other guys feel this way too).

    For the guys on my hot list it was because of something they posted in the forums that caught my attention. If I found their post witty or wise or empathetic, etc AND then upon clicking on their profile I find their pictures attractive I will add them to my hot list.

    I have never added someone on just glancing at their photos (and not having seen something that they had written on the forums that resonated with me). In my estimation, being attracted to someone is far more than just what meets the eye.