Ok so i finally let my bf f@#! me after 4 months...it frightened me...what was his problem?

  • rogerfederer

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    Oct 12, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months and he's dirty talked, grinded me, etc but i've always told him no b4 we actually did anything. We were making-out at my house today all alone. We do this alot. Except this time when he put his hand in my pants i didn't swat him away or tell him no. But here's the thing: when i didn't he like almost lost his mind. He ripped off my pants and like almost came just from that. The only reason he slowed down was bc i told him to at first but after awhile (i was bottom) he like thrust so hard he broke my bed, he talked so dirty like a po-rn actor, and when he came he like yelled, shivered, and almost pulled down the curtains he was holding on to *sweat dripping down his face actual SWEAT and collapsed on me*. like im terrified. All the girls that said they been with him said he was gentle, calm, and very silent and delicate. What the hell!!!!! y was he insane! he was like dr. jekyll and mr hyde. And now he's sleeping
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    Oct 12, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    Some guys are like that. I guess the most important thing is to make sure he knows the word no and establish some boundaries.

    And it sounds like you are a little sex shy.. so maybe this kind of behavior isn't a good start. Most people have the sense to build up to it... so I guess you need to talk to him about it and tell him you prefer some other style.. maybe slow and gentle?
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    Oct 12, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    Sounds like you guys did what were supposed to do. Next time tell him to slow down and be gentle
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    Oct 12, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    4 months of seeing a guy and no sex? I'd have gone crazy like him too, lol
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    Oct 12, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    rogerfederer saidme and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months and he's dirty talked, grinded me, etc but i've always told him no b4 we actually did anything. We were making-out at my house today all alone. We do this alot. Except this time when he put his hand in my pants i didn't swat him away or tell him no. But here's the thing: when i didn't he like almost lost his mind. He ripped off my pants and like almost came just from that. The only reason he slowed down was bc i told him to at first but after awhile (i was bottom) he like thrust so hard he broke my bed, he talked so dirty like a po-rn actor, and when he came he like yelled, shivered, and almost pulled down the curtains he was holding on to *sweat dripping down his face actual SWEAT and collapsed on me*. like im terrified. All the girls that said they been with him said he was gentle, calm, and very silent and delicate. What the hell!!!!! y was he insane! he was like dr. jekyll and mr hyde. And now he's sleeping


    You lucky bastard!!!
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    Oct 12, 2011 6:36 AM GMT
    rogerfederer said *sweat dripping down his face actual SWEAT and collapsed on me*.


    Sweating like crazy is not that uncommon, I don't sweat a lot because I'm the bottom but tops always end up soaking wet after they fuck me icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 12, 2011 6:40 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidHi Bello..or 11337S or whatever the hell you're calling yourself today.


    LMAO

    I bet it's the same person behind the Adonis emo troll.
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:12 PM GMT
    I don't care if it had been a whole year. That was just wrong. There's no way around it. Sorry you had to go through that.
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    Oct 12, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    wildtype87 said4 months of seeing a guy and no sex? I'd have gone crazy like him too, lol


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    Oct 13, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    wildtype87 said4 months of seeing a guy and no sex? I'd have gone crazy like him too, lol


    Seriously, what did you expect? Just be thankful he was patient about it and didn't go hook up with another guy.

    Maybe after this experience, he'll go slower cuz all his built up sexual urge is gone now.
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    Oct 13, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    Chattman91 saidI don't care if it had been a whole year. That was just wrong. There's no way around it. Sorry you had to go through that.


    I see nothing wrong with the scenario he described. Then again, I LOVE rough animalistic sex icon_twisted.gif
  • rnch

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    Oct 13, 2011 10:16 AM GMT
    Pure said
    wildtype87 said4 months of seeing a guy and no sex? I'd have gone crazy like him too, lol


    +1



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  • rnch

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    Oct 13, 2011 10:39 AM GMT
    try it again with him this weekend; i suspect he will be not quite the "wild & crazy guy" he was last time.


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    P.S. do it in HIS bedroom next time. that way, if he destroys furniture and window treatments....it's HIS to repair the next day.


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  • rogerfederer

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    Oct 13, 2011 12:40 PM GMT
    rnch saidtry it again with him this weekend; i suspect he will be not quite the "wild & crazy guy" he was last time.


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    P.S. do it in HIS bedroom next time. that way, if he destroys furniture and window treatments....it's HIS to repair the next day.


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    lol ohhhhh will do! but i dnt think im having sex with him again for a long time cuz he made me bleed
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    Oct 13, 2011 1:01 PM GMT
    rogerfederer saidlol ohhhhh will do! but i dnt think im having sex with him again for a long time cuz he made me bleed

    Were you a virgin? A rough introduction indeed if your first time. Always use lots of latex-safe lube.

    And speaking of latex, I really, really hope that during this sudden burst of passion he didn't neglect to wear a condom. A lot of younger guys assume that since they haven't done much gay sex yet that it means they must be negative. It's assumptions like that that give you HIV and other STDs. Use a condom for anal ALWAYS.
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    Oct 13, 2011 1:35 PM GMT
    wait, so you broke up with him?
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    Oct 13, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    Mmm, that story was actually pretty hot.... Sounds like a blast.

    But if you like it a little gentler just let him know ;).
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    Oct 13, 2011 2:16 PM GMT
    rogerfederer said
    rnch saidtry it again with him this weekend; i suspect he will be not quite the "wild & crazy guy" he was last time.


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    P.S. do it in HIS bedroom next time. that way, if he destroys furniture and window treatments....it's HIS to repair the next day.


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    lol ohhhhh will do! but i dnt think im having sex with him again for a long time cuz he made me bleed


    You´re tormenting him! Srsly - 4 months and he´ll be going insane. Make sure that you heal up, leave it a week at least, and then try again gently. But just denying sex will destroy the relationship. You have to move beyond this
  • rogerfederer

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    Oct 13, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    toohottohandle7 saidwait, so you broke up with him?


    hahaha no i didnt break up with him. but im pretty sure he's going to. i keep telling him no to bj's and stuff. Can't he just jack off? to me its the same
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    Oct 13, 2011 4:40 PM GMT
    sounds really hot!!!! lol
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    Oct 13, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    rogerfederer saidhahaha no i didnt break up with him. but im pretty sure he's going to. i keep telling him no to bj's and stuff. Can't he just jack off? to me its the same


    Well, to him, it's obviously not the same.

    Can I ask, what's stopping you from having sex (oral, anal, any kind) with him?
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    Oct 13, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    rogerfederer said
    toohottohandle7 saidwait, so you broke up with him?


    hahaha no i didnt break up with him. but im pretty sure he's going to. i keep telling him no to bj's and stuff. Can't he just jack off? to me its the same


    ... Why are you saying no?
  • rogerfederer

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    Oct 14, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    rezdylan said
    rogerfederer saidhahaha no i didnt break up with him. but im pretty sure he's going to. i keep telling him no to bj's and stuff. Can't he just jack off? to me its the same


    Well, to him, it's obviously not the same.

    Can I ask, what's stopping you from having sex (oral, anal, any kind) with him?



    idk i think im really disgusting when i do anything sexual so i try to keep it to myself. Kinda like if u know u a terrible singer u only do it when you're in the house alone lol
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Oct 14, 2011 2:22 AM GMT
    He has been after you for 4 months without any sex, to me that means he finds you anything but disgusting.

    Now, if he does break up with a silly excuse after popping your cherry, he is a douche and you are better of without him.
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    Oct 14, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Yelling, moaning, porn related talking are all huge downers for me. Shut the fuck up already and quit calling me "daddy"....