Rude to talk on phone + text / IM @ same time?

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    Oct 12, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    Would it bother you if you were talking to someone on the phone (whether friend, family or boyfriend) and they were texting or instant messenging with another person at the same time?

    I have some friends who think it's "OK" and the "norm" to do this. Personally, I find it rude if someone I'm talking to on the phone is texting or instant messenging other people during our conversation. As much as some people think they can successfully "multi task" and do a phone conversation and texting / IM-ing at the same time, I think you can tell when someone's attention is not fully there and they may seem a bit distracted by their additional texting / IM-ing.

    Your thoughts?
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    Oct 12, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    totally disrespectful
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    Oct 12, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    It shows that they might be hearing you, but they aren't really listening. Basically they're saying they don't care enough about you or what you have to say. Multi tasking my ass. It's just plain rude.
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    Oct 12, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    How does it negatively effect you in a quantifiable way?

    IT DOESN'T.

    It's the same non-logic that opponents of gay marriage use: "Well, I don't like it therefore it must be bad."

    Pax vobiscum

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    Oct 12, 2011 9:18 PM GMT
    BAMF said
    It's the same non-logic that opponents of gay marriage use: "Well, I don't like it therefore it must be bad."


    Seriously? icon_rolleyes.gif

    When someone is not giving their full attention to a conversation it is obvious - detrimental to the conversation, and disrepectful to the other party.
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    Oct 12, 2011 9:28 PM GMT
    yes. it's pretty annoying. i do it sometimes also, but i always let him know who i'm talking to. it does bother me when we're hanging out together and his phone is CONSTANTLY getting messages.. *BUZZZ*.. it gets annoying even when we're in bed watching tv getting ready for bed.. :/
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    Oct 12, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    showme said
    BAMF said
    It's the same non-logic that opponents of gay marriage use: "Well, I don't like it therefore it must be bad."


    Seriously? icon_rolleyes.gif

    When someone is not giving their full attention to a conversation it is obvious - detrimental to the conversation, and disrepectful to the other party.


    In person it's mildly annoying, but doesn't kill anyone.

    However, I believe the OP was asking about texting while they are talking to you on the phone.

    You are not even physically present. Perhaps you are HUNDREDS of miles away. Why would you let it effect you so?

    Now am I not allowed to type an email while on the phone? Where does one draw the line to avoid offending the sensibilities of our brethren?

    Are you such a delicate hothouse flower that you also get kerfuffled when someone is IMing online with more than one person?

    Goodness.

    FYI: I am listening to music while typing this, please don't have TOO much of a fit.
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    Oct 12, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    well, think of it this way. the only way you'd know the other person was texting while on the phone is if they obviously aren't paying attention to what you're saying. so the entire issue of successfully being able to multi-task is moot.
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    Oct 12, 2011 10:06 PM GMT
    I would be pissed if they did that all the time. But I have done it once or twice before. I apologized and said I really gotta send this text (it was regarding plans that were about to happen), but I stayed on the phone because I wanted to keep talking to them rather than hang up and call back. I feel like that isn't as bad