Truth telling...

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    Oct 14, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    This is a branchoff relating to a previous topic of mine, different question however.

    So I have this guy I'm planning to go on a date with. We seem to be getting along well, and he sounds awesome. He seems to be attracted to me, said I'm cute and gorgeous (I assume he's being truthful) and offered to take me out.

    The problem, again, is below the belt (icon_rolleyes.gif ik I talk about it too much, but its my biggest obstacle... so sorries!) I've got a 5 incher. Idk what his size is, but Im caught in a debate. I dont know if or when I should tell him how small my dick is.

    Part of me wants to tell him before sexual or emotional attachment devlops, that way he can choose to dump me without either of us being seriously hurt. Of course, I have no acceptable way of letting him know without sounding weird. I dont want him to find out in bed, since that would not only be a turn off for him, but totally awkward and unfair. I feel he has a right to know in advance, so he can terminate the relationship if he feels its necessay, which I wouldnt blame him.

    So I'm kinda stuck. I would be in a better place if I knew his size as well (if he's 5-6 inches, im prolly fine waiting, 7+ im screwed) but I dont know how to get that information without telling him my size or coming off sounding like a size queen.

    What do you all think? When should I tell him? When would YOU prefer to know when dating a guy?
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    Oct 14, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    Ok, what do you see your role in this potential relationship. If you/he sees you as a bottom, then I don't think your size is going to matter because you are not gonna fuck him anyway. Even if he's a bottom or versatile, if he offers to take you out, then he's probably interested in YOU and your 5 inches cock. Get it? So get over your insecurity because he will dump you for your INSECURITY and not because of your size.

    Also you sound like a girl with small cups who wants a boob job. Get over it. icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 14, 2011 6:34 AM GMT
    This is a variation of the same question that you asked the other day that I, along with many other guys, gave you some sound advise on. I'm not sure if you didn't read them or if you are looking for someone to validate your irrational obsession... So I'll say one more time, it's not your dick that's your problem, it's your obsessive nature. Make peace with yourself and don't hoist this non-issue onto a new relationship.

    If you hook up with a guy that dumps you over your dick, then he's doing you a favor. Though I think you are more likely to get dumped for appearing utterly self depreciating. If you're the guy in your pictures then I assure you that there are going to be plenty of guys that could care absolutely less what's in your pants. But that's just the physical aspect. There's so much more to a relationship than that.
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    Oct 14, 2011 6:43 AM GMT
    CHILLAX! You haven't even gone on the date yet. It's not like he's going to ask you to whip it out.

    Worst that could happen is you make out and he slides his hand down and cops a feel.

    If you tell him beforehand, he might see you as insecure....don't bring it up, just let him find out when you get to the stage where he rips your pants off.

    God forbid he DID have a problem, he's not the kind of guy you want.

    If it helps, Shia LeBouf, Ben Affleck (Tom Cruise?) are known to be on the "smaller side" and it doesn't stop people from drooling over them.

    BE POSITIVE even when you can't find a reason to icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:44 AM GMT
    Slow down, stud

    If you're like me, then you're a grow-er and not a show-er

    THAT means that though your dick might be small when flaccid, it tends to grow exponentially depending on how excited you are. And this growth happens both in terms of length and thickness. But if you're in self-doubt/anxiety, it won't grow.

    My dick, for example, is a verifiable tower when I'm about to top a guy (and I get compliments on how it continues to expand and elongate even once it's inside the person, like a cobra flaring. Funny thing is it NEVER does that when I'm just wanking.

    But if I'm showering at the gym, or sleeping with a guy I don't trust, or having doubts etc. then it's extremely disappointing

    Think about it
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    Oct 17, 2011 5:41 AM GMT
    Dude, I am no slut, but trust me there is absolutely nothing wrong or unusual about a 5 inch dick. Don't judge your size on porn (they're porn stars for a reason) or what you see on the internet. I've seen all shapes and sizes, and 5 inches is actually pretty average.
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    Oct 17, 2011 5:50 AM GMT
    Think of it this way - If he hasn't seen you naked, or with a big bulge in your shorts, he has no reason to expect that you might have a big dick. So he must be attracted to other aspects of you - such as your personality or cute appearance. Since he not expecting to find a large dick, the odds are very great that if you two get in the sack, he is not going to notice or care about the size of your dick. So relax already.
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    Oct 17, 2011 6:12 AM GMT
    Bro, size don't matter. Sex is not necessarily "Insert Tab 'A' into Slot 'B'" There is so much more to sex than inches. If he skips you over because he doesn't like your dick, then he's a superficial and shallow douchebag and you'd be better off without him anyhow.
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    Oct 17, 2011 6:23 AM GMT
    Skhokho1987 saidSlow down, stud

    If you're like me, then you're a grow-er and not a show-er

    THAT means that though your dick might be small when flaccid, it tends to grow exponentially depending on how excited you are. And this growth happens both in terms of length and thickness. But if you're in self-doubt/anxiety, it won't grow.

    My dick, for example, is a verifiable tower when I'm about to top a guy (and I get compliments on how it continues to expand and elongate even once it's inside the person, like a cobra flaring. Funny thing is it NEVER does that when I'm just wanking.

    But if I'm showering at the gym, or sleeping with a guy I don't trust, or having doubts etc. then it's extremely disappointing

    Think about it


    Oh my GOD that's hot.