Politely say "Why the hell are you talking to me?"

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    Oct 14, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
    I can't believe I'm writing such a trivial thread, but anyway

    There's a guy who whenever I saw him, would make a face, like in disgust that I glanced his way. He needed to fix his face. He was in my class last semester. I don't care what people think and act silly and he always had some joke about me. I'm the type that doesn't give negative people attention. Now whenever he sees me, it's similar to the face in my profile pic-trying not to laugh/smile. I guess I look silly icon_rolleyes.gif

    Anyway, he's one of those "popular" guys who have a following on campus. Highschool never ends. Whenever I pass by a group of him and his groupies it gets quiet. Hey. I shut shit down I guess.

    This week I passed him as he was hanging some signs in the university center. He saw me, turned to hang something and said 'Hello sir, how are you doing?" For some reason I responded right away and said I was okay. And he asked how my break was, weekend was, etc. It was very "WTF" I've never spoken to him before and he annoys me a bit. I got the vibe he wasn't fond of me. I asked if he was talking to me (there were a lot of people passing by)and still turned away(so damn rude) he said "Of course" and tried to engage me in conversation like we were good friends. I said "Oh, I see", genuinely shocked and said bye.

    So why the hell am I writing about somebody talking to me? I want to know how to ask him why he's talking to me without being rude? I'm very blunt and would say "So we're on speaking terms now?" or "Why are you talking to me?"

    I know you're "supposed" to let bygones, be bygones, but I'm wary of his sudden friendliness. He hangs with weird people who don't talk to me but add me on Facebook, which I've now deleted. I've been told I'm that "mysterious guy" nobody knows anything about on campus. Okay..I'm here to get a degree, it's not Wendy Williams

    So no, this isn't an I'm in love with a straight guy thread. But yes, I will admit that he is cute. It's been bothering me and I don't know why.

    Holy crap, I wrote a damn book haha
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:30 AM GMT
    Sorry, I can't hear anything you've written cos all I can hear is this loud voice in my head going, "IN LOVE WITH STR8Y!"
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    Oct 14, 2011 1:11 PM GMT
    Admit to him maybe your perception of him is wrong, but you always got the vibe he was rude to you. And while you're not one to harbor a grudge, and open to makin pals, you'd really like to know... WTF. Why the change of heart?

    You can say all that in a shwag, cool, college speak, right? Besides.. Countless times People make friends with others they used to hate. Or hate someone who used to be a friend. How many times have you been sitting around, cracking up with a bud and somebody says.."man, when I first met you, I thought you were such a dick! I'm glad I was wrong."

    Then you can admit your love for him and have straight gay naked time.
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    Oct 14, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    Take it for what it is, man. It's really not that big of a deal. He extended his hand after being somewhat off standish (I'm being polite) with you for reasons unknown. Just enjoy it and be civil. It's not like he's asking you to prom or something.
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    Oct 14, 2011 1:36 PM GMT
    jpBITCHva saidGood heavens, twentysomethings, don't overthink this.

    He ignored you previously for reasons that you will never know and don't matter. Then he decided he wanted to get to know you.

    Do you want to spend your time being butthurt, or would you rather spend it over a cup of coffee with him?

    Is it that simple? Yes, IF YOU LET IT BE.



    Now I'm disappointed, Jeff... what the hell happened to Margaret?
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    Oct 14, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said
    jpBITCHva saidGood heavens, twentysomethings, don't overthink this.

    He ignored you previously for reasons that you will never know and don't matter. Then he decided he wanted to get to know you.

    Do you want to spend your time being butthurt, or would you rather spend it over a cup of coffee with him?

    Is it that simple? Yes, IF YOU LET IT BE.



    Now I'm disappointed, Jeff... what the hell happened to Margaret?



    I'm waiting for an avatar pic of Ms Davis.
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    Oct 14, 2011 1:40 PM GMT
    Don't over think this like others said just be receptive of him being friendly.

    Be glad he's being nice to you, maybe your perception of him isn't quite right, maybe he was flirting, maybe he want's everyone to like him... who knows? Sometimes we don't know other people as well as we think.

    No need to over think this but for what it's worth half of my friends in the past have been people I didn't like initially until I got to know them/ they got to know me.
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    Oct 14, 2011 1:55 PM GMT
    WOW!
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    Oct 14, 2011 1:58 PM GMT
    Maybe he is running for some oncoming elections on the campus and doesn't want to loose any vote icon_smile.gif. Just a thought.
  • ohioguy12

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    Oct 14, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    You sound like you're from Boston. It's the only place I've been were people get weirded out by others making small talk.