new here and i need some advice .

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    Oct 14, 2011 9:30 AM GMT
    I don't want to mislead anyone so Ill tell you I am a wife who loves her husband.We are older than most of you I think. I am 50 and he is 66. Before i start just let me know if anyone could give me some advice.Know this, I am not asking if he gay. After 25 years if I can't figure that I have bigger problems!
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:34 AM GMT
    There are many guys between the ages of 40 and 60 here.

    There are also young guys who are willing to give advice if they have any knowledge on the subject.
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:44 AM GMT
    thank you so much for the reply. To make a real long story short my husband told me a couple of months ago he wanted to see if h would like getting oral from a guy. I said great. I am all about people doing what makes them happy. today it happened he enjoyed it said he enjoyed it. when we had sex later he talked about it. Then several hours later became very upset. said he wasn't going to do it again it wasnt him and is just upset with himself. i asked him if he was upset he did i or upset he liked it? now he says he didnt like it.I can assure you he did, so is it normal to question yourself
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:48 AM GMT
    This one is beyond my expertise because I've never really questioned my sexuality.

    I hope someone can help answer your question soon.
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:51 AM GMT
    thanks I am just worried about him. He was raised n a different time and place and I don't know exactly how to tell him it's fine to enjoy it
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    Oct 14, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
    Don't take my reply as a definite answer, but it reminds me when I fooled around with this one guy. He enjoyed it, but then he told me, a bit after, that he regretted it. He didn't like it. Perhaps it was the guilt on his end. All I could tell him was that next time he shouldn't think with his penis.

    He probably did enjoy that one encounter. And I'd think it's normal for him to question himself. I've read plenty of posts of guys, from various forums, saying they've had oral from a guy and were just confused about it. Some continued pursuing it while others figured it wasn't for them. Just be there for your husband. He can take this as a lesson. He tried oral with a guy. Nice but he didn't enjoy it. It already happened, so he should try and move on.
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    Oct 14, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    He may not be able to open up completely with you. You would have to accept that he has these wants and you sound really smart about it. But he is afraid to be totally open with you. You have to give him some space to keep his most private thoughts. If your relationship is solid enough - he might eventually be more honest aboput his conflicts.

    I bet he is also having a hard time with the fact that he is late in life to indulge in same sex activity. Gay culture is very youth obssesed and older people have a hard time dealing with not having the youthful looks that gays desire. It is often a shallow sexual urge. When you are 66 you probably feel you missed the boat because your days of good looks may be behind you. That will make him have all kinds of ambivalence about repeating it because he feels not attractive enough.
    He will be frustrated.

    People that spend a long time together will grow sometimes in different directions. Sex is hard to manage in a LTR - as sexual creatures our needs will change. Not necessarily in synch with each other. The emotional attachment has to be healthy enough to compensate for the divergences.
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    Oct 14, 2011 6:52 PM GMT
    ss4476 saidI don't want to mislead anyone so Ill tell you I am a wife who loves her husband.We are older than most of you I think. I am 50 and he is 66. Before i start just let me know if anyone could give me some advice.Know this, I am not asking if he gay. After 25 years if I can't figure that I have bigger problems!
    What's the question Mrs?
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:00 PM GMT
    I'm not going to weigh in on this issue. I'm just going to state that I've been on other sites and seen questions like this asked. The posters are usually trolls. I'm not accusing this poster. I'm just saying that's what I've seen. That is all.
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidI'm not going to weigh in on this issue. I'm just going to state that I've been on other sites and seen questions like this asked. The posters are usually trolls. I'm not accusing this poster. I'm just saying that's what I've seen. That is all.


    Oh we all know it's a troll, but it gets boring to just post "Troooolll poooost!!!" over and over, so instead we play along and try to have fun ridiculing the troll.
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:02 PM GMT
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    DudeInNOVA saidI'm not going to weigh in on this issue. I'm just going to state that I've been on other sites and seen questions like this asked. The posters are usually trolls. I'm not accusing this poster. I'm just saying that's what I've seen. That is all.


    Oh we all know it's a troll, but it gets boring to just post "Troooolll poooost!!!" over and over, so instead we play along and try to have fun ridiculing the troll.


    Some responses seemed serious. Just didn't want people to waste their time. I'll sit back and watch the fun. icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    We get a lot of people posting fake stories here, that's why some of the responses have been rude, so if you are real you can ignore them.

    Assuming it's a legit question. I'd say there's no rush. Don't push him to have answers for you. It's a high-pressure emotion and he needs to slowly let his emotions decompress. Just make him feel like it's easy to talk to you about it. I think you're already pretty cool to think the way you do.
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:40 PM GMT
    The question, gentlemen, is: Is it normal to question yourself?

    Yes, it is. It is normal for any self-aware adult.

    Next question, please.
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    ss4476 saidI don't want to mislead anyone so Ill tell you I am a wife who loves her husband.We are older than most of you I think. I am 50 and he is 66. Before i start just let me know if anyone could give me some advice.Know this, I am not asking if he gay. After 25 years if I can't figure that I have bigger problems!


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    Oct 14, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    This is clearly a troll topic. Why would anyone over 40 want to have sex?

    EWWWW!!!
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
    Perhaps you should explore a three way. This way you and the hubby cAn take it up the ass and then have something to talk about during murder she wrote reruns
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:49 PM GMT
    Ok, so if you are real, how long have you been married?
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:52 PM GMT
    ss4476 saidthank you so much for the reply. To make a real long story short my husband told me a couple of months ago he wanted to see if h would like getting oral from a guy. I said great. I am all about people doing what makes them happy. today it happened he enjoyed it said he enjoyed it. when we had sex later he talked about it. Then several hours later became very upset. said he wasn't going to do it again it wasnt him and is just upset with himself. i asked him if he was upset he did i or upset he liked it? now he says he didnt like it.I can assure you he did, so is it normal to question yourself


    NO! NO!! For the love of GOD NO!!!!

    This is HIGHLY abnormal. And SICK.

    You should leave your house immediately and try to assume a new identity and a new life. Although this evil will follow you til the day you die.

    You are both being punished for your many disgusting sins. This is simply the price you must pay.

    Your husband is most likely a threat to society now. He should be institutionalized ASAP. I will pray for the children in your neighborhood.




    RJ. Our Trolls are professionals. Amateurs need not apply.

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    Oct 14, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    You're 66 and know how to use the internet?

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    Oct 14, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    LJay saidThe question, gentlemen, is: Is it normal to question yourself?

    Yes, it is. It is normal for any self-aware adult.

    Next question, please.


    How much would you say your tits are sagging these days? Like belly button? or do you to toss them over your shoulder so you can pee?
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    adam228 saidYou're 66 and know how to use the internet?



    Hubby is 66. READ
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:57 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Cash saidRJ. Our Trolls are professionals. Amateurs need not apply.
    I love how each of us specializes in a variant of trolling.


    Whats my specialty?
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:07 PM GMT
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    Chainers said
    Trollileo said
    Cash saidRJ. Our Trolls are professionals. Amateurs need not apply.
    I love how each of us specializes in a variant of trolling.


    Whats my specialty?
    Douche bag trolling.


    Thats the best kind of trolling!
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:09 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    Chainers said
    Trollileo said
    Chainers said
    Trollileo said
    Cash saidRJ. Our Trolls are professionals. Amateurs need not apply.
    I love how each of us specializes in a variant of trolling.


    Whats my specialty?
    Douche bag trolling.


    Thats the best kind of trolling!
    Debatable. I guess you could also be considered a blunt troller.


    Thats true, I am kind of in your face. But I like the idea of being that guy who thinks he is great for no apparent reason, which is dbag trolling in my book.