My mom just got a message on her phone that I'm gay :-(((

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    Oct 14, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
    I'm in shock, someone sent her a message that she has a gay son. she just called me 10 minutes ago. she still tries to find the complete number, she's not very good with the phone.

    I'm shaking....what the fuck will I do now?
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
    If you're ready to tell her yet, you can always tell her that it was a prank text that your friends played on you.
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:47 PM GMT
    waimea saidIf you're ready to tell her yet, you can always tell her that it was a prank text that your friends played on you.


    what if that person will insist.

    gosh, i'm fucked
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:48 PM GMT
    Buckyou said
    waimea saidIf you're ready to tell her yet, you can always tell her that it was a prank text that your friends played on you.


    what if that person will insist.

    gosh, i'm fucked


    Just say "Mom, this is the 21st century. Pics or it didnt happen."
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    So what's the big deal? Just tell her it's true. Some of us have had to come out to parents probably far worse than yours.
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    Don't lie. Don't do that to yourself. Be authentic and be genuine. There is a high cost to lying about who you are.
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    Admit it. Tell her you're no different, you just never really had an infatuation for females. It's just like her being attracted to men, one day... you just noticed it and tried to hide it because it had so much shame behind it.
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
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    Buckyou said
    waimea saidIf you're ready to tell her yet, you can always tell her that it was a prank text that your friends played on you.


    what if that person will insist.

    gosh, i'm fucked


    Just say "Mom, this is the 21st century. Pics or it didnt happen."


    LOL in this case it's actually helpful.
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:51 PM GMT
    Some people are just not ready to come out. Don't force him guys.
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
    waimea saidSome people are just not ready to come out. Don't force him guys.


    In my current situation I'm not, yes. With my college i can only get a 2 day job and if I do that I have to abandon my research projects, scholarship and I won't make enough money to live........this is not America. She will cut me off, it's a very different culture here...
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    waimea saidSome people are just not ready to come out. Don't force him guys.

    Clearly he's in a relationship that makes him happy... if his parents are going to find out in a terrible way... he could at least weaken the blow.

    It's not America? Gay-ness isn't even accepted in America yet. We have more states that allow cousins to marry over homosexuals. I've been there, done that. You have to make the best decision for you ultimately... just know you're not going to be able to live your lie forever.
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    Oct 14, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    Buckyou said
    waimea saidSome people are just not ready to come out. Don't force him guys.


    In my current situation I'm not, yes. With my college i can only get a 2 day job and if I do that I have to abandon my research projects, scholarship and I won't make enough money to live........this is not America. She will cut me off, it's a very different culture here...


    Before coming out make sure you are financially stable. Did you see my wisecrack? Try it out, it might work for ya...
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    Buckyou said
    waimea saidSome people are just not ready to come out. Don't force him guys.


    In my current situation I'm not, yes. With my college i can only get a 2 day job and if I do that I have to abandon my research projects, scholarship and I won't make enough money to live........this is not America. She will cut me off, it's a very different culture here...


    Before coming out make sure you are financially stable. Did you see my wisecrack? Try it out, it might work for ya...


    That's what I was waiting for. Clearly my plan is ruined now, wtf...who would do this.

    There was this jew that i fucked once who said he'd kill me if i wont be his bf and said he has my mom's number (he either stole it from my phone or found it through some friends, he has important friends, but that was 2 years ago and he laid off why would he come back right now, if it's him.
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    Buckyou said
    Chainers said
    Buckyou said
    waimea saidSome people are just not ready to come out. Don't force him guys.


    In my current situation I'm not, yes. With my college i can only get a 2 day job and if I do that I have to abandon my research projects, scholarship and I won't make enough money to live........this is not America. She will cut me off, it's a very different culture here...


    Before coming out make sure you are financially stable. Did you see my wisecrack? Try it out, it might work for ya...


    That's what I was waiting for. Clearly my plan is ruined now, wtf...who would do this.

    There was this jew that i fucked once who said he'd kill me if i wont be his bf and said he has my mom's number (he either stole it from my phone or found it through some friends, he has important friends, but that was 2 years ago and he laid off why would he come back right now, if it's him.


    Who knows maybe he saw your new boyfriend? Either way unless he has a pic of you with a dick in your ass you have nothing to worry about. Brush it off, say it was a joke, or say some gay guy hit on you, you turned him down, and now he is obsessed with you. That might work too.
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:32 PM GMT
    Was going to render assistance until the thinly veiled antisemitism made an appearance. Now I am just going to sit here with my popcorn, point, and laugh. Karma: not just for Carson Daly and Earl J. Hickey any more. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:42 PM GMT
    If you're not ready, tell her you're not gay.
    Lying isn't a good thing, but considering the way society only gives you 2 choices "lie or be forceably exposed", I believe you would be aquitted because Self-Defense is an acceptable reason to do something bad.

    In any case, get your armor on, start thinking strategically about how to make sure you're safe and housed. Work backward from that goal.
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    Oct 14, 2011 8:44 PM GMT
    Buckyou said
    waimea saidSome people are just not ready to come out. Don't force him guys.


    In my current situation I'm not, yes. With my college i can only get a 2 day job and if I do that I have to abandon my research projects, scholarship and I won't make enough money to live........this is not America. She will cut me off, it's a very different culture here...


    Okay I understand, given your situation. However, why do you think she WILL cut you off?

    And in America it just depends on who your parents are, it's not necessarily more accepted here.
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:17 PM GMT
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    Buckyou said
    waimea saidSome people are just not ready to come out. Don't force him guys.


    In my current situation I'm not, yes. With my college i can only get a 2 day job and if I do that I have to abandon my research projects, scholarship and I won't make enough money to live........this is not America. She will cut me off, it's a very different culture here...


    Okay I understand, given your situation. However, why do you think she WILL cut you off?

    And in America it just depends on who your parents are, it's not necessarily more accepted here.


    I know what my family thinks about homosexuals and how conservative they are. I really don't trust their way of thinking
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    You'll damage your stability more by continuing to try and make excuses for yourself...

    Why do you think there's such a large population of young homosexuals struggling financially?

    You can NOT carry on as the person you are supposed to be if you feel you need to lie to keep your life in order, you will lose yourself in the process.

    I can understand waiting for an opportune time, but your mother likely knows.

    I don't care how many girlfriends you've had, football trophies you've acquired, and Pabst you've choked down. SHE KNOWS.

    How do you know this text even exists? Maybe she wants a non-confrontational way to appease her nagging curiosity....

    However nauseous you are now, it will only get worse if you leave her questioning...
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:26 PM GMT
    she probably knows anyway.
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:28 PM GMT
    Why do closet stories always remind me of Dexter?


    dexter-morgan-1574.jpg

    I'm not sure if it's all the parallels, or simply Dexter's twisted hotness...
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    I know when I told my Mother starting the conversation was the hardest part... you've had a door opened for you, maybe you should take the opportunity and run with it!
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    might want to swap out that pic of you making out with a dude. Might be a clue.
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:34 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidDon't lie. Don't do that to yourself. Be authentic and be genuine. There is a high cost to lying about who you are.


    Yeah, good advice. And I suppose he could move in with you if his parent(s) kick him out of the house?
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    Oct 14, 2011 9:35 PM GMT
    Might as well tell her the truth. Being a mother, she might take it hard at first (IDK why), but she'll come around eventually and will still love you. icon_smile.gif