Am I Attractive?

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    Oct 14, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    I realize from the get go this is very self serving and will come off as incredibly shallow, but its something I have to ask.

    I have had an image complex most of my life from being bullied and have always been considered ugly. I always think the reason why people weren't interested in me was because of my looks and more recently I was struck a heavy blow when a guy I REALLY liked for years confessed that he doesn't find me attractive at all.

    So I simply would like to know, despite personal taste, where do I even stand in the looks department. Is there anything you would recommend I'd change if I wanted to? Would you say you would go out on a date with me on looks alone?

    Again, I apologize for the rather self serving topic. icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 14, 2011 10:53 PM GMT
    Smile more... your pictures look wan and ambivalent. Nothing will up your attractiveness more quickly than a sincere smile.
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    Oct 14, 2011 10:57 PM GMT
    @Larkin_PLR Good point! I'll keep that in mind the next time I take pics. Thanks.
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    Oct 14, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    Yeah agreed. More smiling. But then I know you said despite personal taste, but I figured I would throw it out there...a haircut?

    I personally like shorter hair on a guy. Is there any reason why you choose to keep it long?
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    Oct 14, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    @PaintDude I feel it balances out my nose. With short hair I feel more conscious about my nose since it sticks out more.
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    Oct 15, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    You've got to be kidding.

    As for some guy saying he wasn't attracted to you means nothing other than he wasn't attracted to you for whatever reason not necessarily that you're ugly, which you aren't. For example if some perfectly built, big cocked blond haired blue eyed Norse god was after me I'd tell him the same thing.. I didn't find him attractive because I don't. It's not that he's ugly by any means, the total opposite, I just am not attracted to blond guys period.
  • Stin7

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    Oct 15, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    No, you're not ugly.

    If I were you, I would get a different haircut, shorter hair... leave your beard grow, try different things. I love beards haha icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 15, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    Wow, Africa looks so beautiful in your profile!

    Oh, umm anyway...beauty varies by country. I was mentioning this in another thread.

    The long hair thing, I agree that is somewhat of a niche. I'm not really into it, but I met a guy the other day that looked pretty hot and masculine with his long hair. It doesn't work for everyone though and I'm curious to see how you would look with a different haircut.

    As for the guy not liking you, happens all the time. That's why with gay people, if you aren't fucking each other within 24-72 hours after meeting...there's no attraction. Pretty simple concept however vulgar.
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    Oct 15, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    Yes, maybe change your hairstyle and fake tan a little, and you'll look more attractive IMHO.
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    Oct 15, 2011 4:35 AM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidSmile more... your pictures look wan and ambivalent. Nothing will up your attractiveness more quickly than a sincere smile.

    Says the guy whose default pic is not smiling. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 15, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Hypnotico saidYes, maybe change your hairstyle and fake tan a little, and you'll look more attractive IMHO.


    Go for spiky short hair.
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    Oct 15, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    I agree that a shorter haircut would look nice on you.
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    Oct 15, 2011 8:48 AM GMT
    Funny how both first and second repliers recommend smiling but in there pics I don't see a smile.. Maybe some kind of face expression, a haircut would have to go with that, maybe a fade..
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    Oct 15, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    I think you have attractive qualities....but I'm agreeing with people saying to smile more.
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    Oct 15, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    Attractive is a lot more than looks; it's how you move, how you speak, how you smile, how you frown, how you laugh, how you cry, and how you think. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 15, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    Are you kidding me? You're very very cute, even great looking, and I'd date you in a second.

    I've looked at your pics twice and I'm baffled as to why you would consider yourself ugly, or anything like it.



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    Oct 15, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    Wow, didnt know there would be such a consensus for a haircut! I should definitely organize to have a cut some time soon.
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    Oct 16, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    beneful1 saidYou've got to be kidding.

    As for some guy saying he wasn't attracted to you means nothing other than he wasn't attracted to you for whatever reason not necessarily that you're ugly, which you aren't. For example if some perfectly built, big cocked blond haired blue eyed Norse god was after me I'd tell him the same thing.. I didn't find him attractive because I don't. It's not that he's ugly by any means, the total opposite, I just am not attracted to blond guys period.


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    Oct 16, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    You're cute buddy! I advise you to get out more, you seem way too self focused! icon_smile.gif

    Now what do you think about the people who responded to your post? Do you think we're attractive? icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 16, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    Cute/handsome. Nice body too.

    Now go hit the gym.

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    Oct 17, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    Advice on smiling is pretty obvious now. Still kind if sceptical of cutting my hair, but I guess it will always grow back.

    And yes lots of attractive guys replying to this thread.