Dating sucks: Part infinity:

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    Oct 15, 2011 4:13 AM GMT
    So couple weeks ago I met with a guy from OK Cupid (who after flaking on me twice I probably should have seen the signs)...we met at a restaurant. After the date he sent me a text that he was happy to meet me, and that I was very sexy and we should TOTALLY do this again.

    Well since then there was no 2nd date, just a couple texts and I finally probed more to see if he was interested, only to find out, "I just recently met someone and we agreed not to see anyone else."

    Why would someone lead me on like that icon_confused.gif And thing was we were chatting for like 2 weeks prior to meeting. That's just so fake. But you know what isn't fake? This:

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  • starboard5

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    Oct 15, 2011 12:18 PM GMT
    Consider the bullet dodged.
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    Oct 15, 2011 2:18 PM GMT
    waaaaa.bmp
  • NerdLifter

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    Oct 15, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    Online dating almost always sucks. Period. Even on dating oriented sites such as OkCupid.
  • Diceroll

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    Oct 15, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    I went through a similar thing earlier this year. These days I assume that something like this WILL happen if I go on a date, then if it doesn't it's a nice bonus lol.

    OP, If this guy flaked on you twice it sounds like he could have met the other guy around the same that he met you and he was waiting to see which one he liked more. It's shitty when people do this and aren't honest about it I agree, just gotta try and not take it personally I guess.
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    Oct 15, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    He was dating multiple people and you didn't win. Game over.
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    Oct 15, 2011 5:43 PM GMT
    It's typical. Folks have elevated the term "dating" to mean
    some major form of commitment. It didn't mean that in my day and it causes untold frustration and disappointment now.

    You can't meet the man of your dreams if you don't socialize. And you won't be able to determine what you want until you meet lots of guy. "Hanging out" with friends is not gonna quite do that.

    So the guy that dumped you is dating a lot. But his definition of dating is not yours . He is not committing to socialize or fuck one guy. The kind of expectation of commitment a gay guy wants after one date is unrealistic. That used to be called engaged to be married.
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    Oct 15, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    OMG it has started again, so soon too Mocha. Same toon over and over again. And you wonder why we consider you a troll?
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    Oct 15, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidIt's typical. Folks have elevated the term "dating" to mean
    some major form of commitment. It didn't mean that in my day and it causes untold frustration and disappointment now.

    You can't meet the man of your dreams if you don't socialize. And you won't be able to determine what you want until you meet lots of guy. "Hanging out" with friends is not gonna quite do that.

    So the guy that dumped you is dating a lot. But his definition of dating is not yours . He is not committing to socialize or fuck one guy. The kind of expectation of commitment a gay guy wants after one date is unrealistic. That used to be called engaged to be married.


    I agree and disagree to a certain extend. I find the dating phase should last roughtly around 2 months before it can become exclusive (again, it really depends on the people) but to go from casually dating to engaged, its kind of missing some steps in between.

    At the same time, one date isnt even the point where he owes you an explanation to drop out. After 3 dates is when he usually should say "it aint working" but thats for men not boys.
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    Oct 15, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    In my humble opinion online dating is never good.
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    Oct 17, 2011 5:05 AM GMT
    Studinprogress saidOnline dating almost always sucks. Period. Even on dating oriented sites such as OkCupid.


    Man, til this day adam4adam has given me more dates (ironically, fuck site!) and closer relationships than anything like POF, OKCupid and the defunct Connexion.org. I've just met really weird, flaky guys from those sites. If he's talking to someone, WHY IS YOUR PROFILE STILL UP?

    But the good news....I changed my mind, I love dating!!! LOL. I'm just too dang persistant.Right after that guy sent me that text, I got on adam4adam and met me a guy that same night!

    I didn't even respond to his message, I just told myself that I will not waste another minute with him. Whenever people do stuff like that, it just means someone else is waiting for me.