Damn, what in hell does he wants from me?

  • kemoze

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    Oct 15, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    Guys, I bet most of you know about me, and my pathetic story of trying to travel to a gay tolerant country ..., .... , ....., ............., .. Anyway . These days my manager at work is asking me every time, Kareem, When are you going to get married?.. then i feel so uncomfortable and i respond saying Sir, i am still young as you know i will be 23 on December, so i am NOT THINKING of getting married now. .. But guys what if i could not get out of here so what, my boss will fire me because maybe he think i am gay or what?

    Shit.. i have to get out of here, i don't wanna people here kill my privacy.icon_mad.gif
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    Oct 15, 2011 5:28 PM GMT
    Well... your situation is a difficult one, man. One strategy that closeted guys use in the US (and it's sort of a cliche, but it can work) is to tell your boss that you have a girlfriend... but you met online and she lives in some other country. Maybe you're saving up money to go see her? Maybe you can't wait for a holiday and you can visit? Who knows! And that's the good part: far away girlfriend never has to make an appearance, and people can assume you're in love with her and all that without having to meet her.
  • kemoze

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    Oct 15, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidWell... your situation is a difficult one, man. One strategy that closeted guys use in the US (and it's sort of a cliche, but it can work) is to tell your boss that you have a girlfriend... but you met online and she lives in some other country. Maybe you're saving up money to go see her? Maybe you can't wait for a holiday and you can visit? Who knows! And that's the good part: far away girlfriend never has to make an appearance, and people can assume you're in love with her and all that without having to meet her.


    waw, that was really a good thought, but i cant make up stories. i cant lie at all. anyone can easily figure this out. I CANT LIE.

    But thanks for the this trick. i may think about it. till i get my flight to an open country.
  • waccamatt

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    Oct 15, 2011 5:52 PM GMT
    Just stay focused on your goal to move - put away some money every payday until you can make a move to somewhere that's more gay friendly. Good luck and keep your eyes on your goals.
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    Oct 15, 2011 6:03 PM GMT
    you can always say that you haven't met the right 'person' yet. because then your not lying, because the right guy is a person. win, win. Then you move. haha.
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    Oct 15, 2011 6:06 PM GMT
    kemoze saidGuys, I bet most of you know about me, and my pathetic story of trying to travel to a gay tolerant country ..., .... , ....., ............., .. Anyway . These days my manager at work is asking me every time, Kareem, When are you going to get married?.. then i feel so uncomfortable and i respond saying Sir, i am still young as you know i will be 23 on December, so i am NOT THINKING of getting married now. .. But guys what if i could not get out of here so what, my boss will fire me because maybe he think i am gay or what?

    Shit.. i have to get out of here, i don't wanna people here kill my privacy.icon_mad.gif





    That an easy one. Use the classic ," I'm not making enough money to get married" ...excuse especially to a boss.
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    Oct 15, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    Egypt is very religious, like The Bible Belt. There's no obligation, even on the part of straight men, to get married. You could politely tell your manager it's none of their business and you will devote yourself to someone when you're good and ready. It's not dishonest, but you're not volunteering any information that could get you fired.
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    Oct 15, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    I just say that I'm not marriage material! I like to be living alone and when I find the right woman who can adapt or accept my lifetstyle, then I will reconsider but otherwise, It's not my thing and let them think what they think, the fuck to everybody!!!
  • sonuus

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    Oct 15, 2011 7:22 PM GMT
    Man I work in heart of Chelsea, New York, I still face such issues from my colleagues and nosy bosses.
    Even after repeatedly telling them I do not wish to marry, they keep on asking the same question again and again.
    I guess its the same everywhere!
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    Oct 15, 2011 7:28 PM GMT
    just be upfront and tell him that you have no intentions of getting married now. You like your freedom too much and don't want to get locked down. It's not lying, really.
  • suedeheadscot

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    Oct 15, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    This isn't going to help much but I do really feel for you. I hope that you somehow get out of Egypt and get to an LGBT tolerant country sooner rather than later.
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    Oct 15, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    A good friend of mine was getting some similar flack when he became a high officer in the Navy. (Don't start with the DADT stuff, please.)
    So we took some photos of him and my wife together. We even have a rather cute one of the two of them kissing. It worked like a charm and now his colleagues think that's his wife and they don't bother him about it anymore.
  • KissTheSky

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    Oct 15, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    Nosy Boss: "When are you going to get married?"
    You: "When I save up enough money. Want to give me a raise?" icon_smile.gif
    Nosy boss leaves the room.
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    Oct 16, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    I like the answers above about needing a raise before being able to get married. Another one is to say there isn't a girl alive that is hot enough to take you away from your work (you're so dedicated to the company!) One more thing I'd say if I were straight is this: "I'm not even thirty years old, boss. Come on. I'd rather get married when I'm past thirty five or even forty. That way I've got time to play the field, and meet a bunch of women (men!) before settling down."

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    Oct 16, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    I like your name, its my fourth name ^_^
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    Oct 16, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    Maybe he likes you... just a thought.
  • kemoze

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    Oct 16, 2011 6:42 PM GMT
    waccamatt saidJust stay focused on your goal to move - put away some money every payday until you can make a move to somewhere that's more gay friendly. Good luck and keep your eyes on your goals.



    Thank you a lot, that is exactly what i am doing now, i have been saving money and paying for my family cost of living too for about one year and half. and i have contacted someone agencies here in kuwait and after long day dreaming i guess i will go to australia on a study visa. i hope i could meet good gays there that they may help me out to settle there
  • kemoze

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    Oct 16, 2011 7:03 PM GMT
    Eddie03 saidyou can always say that you haven't met the right 'person' yet. because then your not lying, because the right guy is a person. win, win. Then you move. haha.


    this is another good thought . i will try this one but not with my boss but with my father who also started to ask me about my future WIFEicon_eek.gif
  • kemoze

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    Oct 16, 2011 7:06 PM GMT
    Alpha13 said
    kemoze saidGuys, I bet most of you know about me, and my pathetic story of trying to travel to a gay tolerant country ..., .... , ....., ............., .. Anyway . These days my manager at work is asking me every time, Kareem, When are you going to get married?.. then i feel so uncomfortable and i respond saying Sir, i am still young as you know i will be 23 on December, so i am NOT THINKING of getting married now. .. But guys what if i could not get out of here so what, my boss will fire me because maybe he think i am gay or what?

    Shit.. i have to get out of here, i don't wanna people here kill my privacy.icon_mad.gif





    That an easy one. Use the classic ," I'm not making enough money to get married" ...excuse especially to a boss.


    damn, why did not i think about it ? but maybe my boss thinks that i have a bit enough money as i have been here in kuwait for about year and half working with no vacations.. hard work i know .
  • kemoze

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    Oct 16, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    GreenHopper saidI like your name, its my fourth name ^_^


    thanks . a lot..
  • kemoze

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    Oct 16, 2011 7:22 PM GMT
    Thank you guys a lot and i really appreciate every one here. you guys are really amazing and i am not paying any attention to my boss at all even today he have had a car accident and he could not come to the work. and i do not care about those people who raise women for sexual reasons and fire some qualified guys just because they do not like them. i will move one day and i know very well that i am going to meet someone awesome to start all over again.