Am I getting old?

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    Oct 15, 2011 9:06 PM GMT
    So here I am, on a Saturday night, sitting at home watching some rather crap tele and browsing through real jock. My bf is working a night shift and my mates asked if wanted to go out and drink, but I'm a bit happier just chillin tonight!

    I'm only 25, but for some reason lately I've been enjoying spending nights cooking a meal and relaxing, having a few drinks, or hitting the gym.

    At what age/time in your life do you reach the stage where you feel like you are starting to become more 'settled', or am i just boring icon_eek.gif

    Josh
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    Oct 15, 2011 9:11 PM GMT
    Yes you are old. At the ripe old age of 25, you are 20 years past due for a retirement home.

    Jesus fucking christ.
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    Oct 15, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    Oh I´ve always been like that... I´m really boring.

    Apart from the sex. That is mind blowing.

    But otherwise I´m pretty boring icon_rolleyes.gif

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    Oct 15, 2011 9:16 PM GMT
    Life stops having meaning after 21.
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    Oct 15, 2011 9:18 PM GMT
    Chainers saidYes you are old. At the ripe old age of 25, you are 20 years past due for a retirement home.

    Jesus fucking christ.


    I can't believe you used the lords name in vain
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    Oct 15, 2011 9:19 PM GMT
    charmingexpat saidSo here I am, on a Saturday night, sitting at home watching some rather crap tele and browsing through real jock. My bf is working a night shift and my mates asked if wanted to go out and drink, but I'm a bit happier just chillin tonight!

    I'm only 25, but for some reason lately I've been enjoying spending nights cooking a meal and relaxing, having a few drinks, or hitting the gym.

    At what age/time in your life do you reach the stage where you feel like you are starting to become more 'settled', or am i just boring icon_eek.gif

    Josh

    You are neither "settled" nor older. You are being selective. And I think you're rather in love with your BF. It's his absence that makes you disinterested in the scene. I'll bet you'd go out with him, wouldn't you? icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 15, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
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    charmingexpat saidSo here I am, on a Saturday night, sitting at home watching some rather crap tele and browsing through real jock. My bf is working a night shift and my mates asked if wanted to go out and drink, but I'm a bit happier just chillin tonight!

    I'm only 25, but for some reason lately I've been enjoying spending nights cooking a meal and relaxing, having a few drinks, or hitting the gym.

    At what age/time in your life do you reach the stage where you feel like you are starting to become more 'settled', or am i just boring icon_eek.gif

    Josh

    You are neither "settled" nor older. You are being selective. And I think you're rather in love with your BF. It's his absence that makes you disinterested in the scene. I'll bet you'd go out with him, wouldn't you? icon_wink.gif


    That makes sense icon_biggrin.gif Love is such a scary word though!
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    Oct 15, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    charmingexpat saidSo here I am, on a Saturday night, sitting at home watching some rather crap tele and browsing through real jock. My bf is working a night shift and my mates asked if wanted to go out and drink, but I'm a bit happier just chillin tonight!

    I'm only 25, but for some reason lately I've been enjoying spending nights cooking a meal and relaxing, having a few drinks, or hitting the gym.

    At what age/time in your life do you reach the stage where you feel like you are starting to become more 'settled', or am i just boring icon_eek.gif

    Josh



    Are you getting old, you asked ? OF COURSE YOU ARE !! JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE !! Ha Join us in aging, and mark it down, the older you get the faster it goes. This week went so fast I lost a day, ha !! Don't know where it went, but the day I was determined was Wednesday all day long, turned out to be Thursday and I didn't even find out until near midnight when a fellow RJ'r informed me. LOL

    Its normal in your twenties to start enjoying a peacefull evening with nothing in particular to do or nothing planned. The energy level to always have something 'hi speed' going on seems to start disappearing. Enjoy it, there's a lot of pleasure in a quiet evening. In your later 30's and 40's, you'll get to the point of feeling robbed of your quiet time at home, if there are very many evenings planned for activities or time away from home.

    Its all good at every stage, so enjoy !!!
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    Oct 15, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
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    Art_Deco said
    You are neither "settled" nor older. You are being selective. And I think you're rather in love with your BF. It's his absence that makes you disinterested in the scene. I'll bet you'd go out with him, wouldn't you? icon_wink.gif

    That makes sense icon_biggrin.gif Love is such a scary word though!

    Agreed, love is both scary and wonderful. So don't use the word, lest you scare him. And maybe scare yourself!

    Love is passing, love is permanent. Yah never really know, until some time goes by. At this moment I SUSPECT (though I have no way of really knowing) that you kinda like this guy. See where it goes.

    And spend your quiet evenings at home, which don't make you old. You're only old when you have no BF at all, and no longer care to look for another.
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    Oct 15, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    If you crochet together it probably means you should consider going to a rave. Seattleites not only crochet, they do it outside Starbucks, which I think is obscene.
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    Oct 15, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    Brit_in_Canada saidIf you crochet together it probably means you should consider going to a rave. Seattleites not only crochet, they do it outside Starbucks, which I think is obscene.


    ::puts crochet away::

    Crochet? what's that!
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    Oct 15, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
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    Agreed, love is both scary and wonderful. So don't use the word, lest you scare him. And maybe scare yourself!

    Love is passing, love is permanent. Yah never really know, until some time goes by. At this moment I SUSPECT (though I have no way of really knowing) that you kinda like this guy. See where it goes.

    And spend your quiet evenings at home, which don't make you old. You're only old when you have no BF at all, and no longer care to look for another.[/quote]

    I think would scare both him and myself!

    But we do like each other and I think we're just going with the flow and seeing what happens. It's going really well so far and I care about him a lot already, so I'm happy icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 15, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    charmingexpat said[quote]
    It's going really well so far and I care about him a lot already, so I'm happy icon_biggrin.gif


    You're happy, ergo you are young enough to appreciate life and old enough not to be dissatisfied with what you have ;).
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    Oct 15, 2011 10:14 PM GMT
    charmingexpat saidBut we do like each other and I think we're just going with the flow and seeing what happens. It's going really well so far and I care about him a lot already, so I'm happy icon_biggrin.gif

    Well, then I think you got it made. I mean, what else can you want?

    So you spend a night alone without him, and don't feel like going out by yourself. DUH!!! What does that tell you?

    That's a very good sign that you probably miss him. The danger sign is when you're with him and you DON"T wanna do something together.

    I think you're doing just fine, all systems normal. This has nothing to do with age (my God, only in your 20s? I hate you!), but all to do about this guy in your life. Permanent or temporary I can't predict, but I think for the moment you are smitten by him. All the signs are there. My best to you both! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 15, 2011 10:16 PM GMT
    Brit_in_Canada said
    charmingexpat said[quote]
    It's going really well so far and I care about him a lot already, so I'm happy icon_biggrin.gif


    You're happy, ergo you are young enough to appreciate life and old enough not to be dissatisfied with what you have ;).


    I think people especially in our [gay] world tend to move from guy to guy quickly always trying to find the next best thing. If gay guys could appreciate what they have more then there would be a lot more gay couples.
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    Oct 15, 2011 10:17 PM GMT
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    charmingexpat saidBut we do like each other and I think we're just going with the flow and seeing what happens. It's going really well so far and I care about him a lot already, so I'm happy icon_biggrin.gif

    Well, then I think you got it made. I mean, what else can you want?

    So you spend a night alone without him, and don't feel like going out by yourself. DUH!!! What does that tell you?

    That's a very good sign that you probably miss him. The danger sign is when you're with him and you DON"T wanna do something together.

    I think you're doing just fine, all systems normal. This has nothing to do with age (my God, only in your 20s? I hate you!), but all to do about this guy in your life. Permanent or temporary I can't predict, but I think for the moment you are smitten by him. All the signs are there. My best to you both! icon_biggrin.gif


    Awwwww cheers icon_biggrin.gif And I think you're bang on
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    Oct 15, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    That's cute. You're probably just into your man.

    And sometimes I feel like that too...just staying in. Maybe you're introverted too?
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    Oct 16, 2011 12:48 AM GMT
    There is a difference between "getting old" and "growing older".

    I have no problem with growing older. I refuse to "get old".

    As we grow older we have the choice of trading the gifts of youth for the gifts of maturity.

    From my observations, those who resist the trade usually become unhappy and pathetic.
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    Oct 16, 2011 9:14 AM GMT
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    Chainers saidYes you are old. At the ripe old age of 25, you are 20 years past due for a retirement home.
    Jesus fucking christ.
    I can't believe you used the lords name in vain
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    Oct 16, 2011 9:45 AM GMT
    charmingexpat saidSo here I am, on a Saturday night, sitting at home watching some rather crap tele and browsing through real jock. My bf is working a night shift and my mates asked if wanted to go out and drink, but I'm a bit happier just chillin tonight!

    I'm only 25, but for some reason lately I've been enjoying spending nights cooking a meal and relaxing, having a few drinks, or hitting the gym.

    At what age/time in your life do you reach the stage where you feel like you are starting to become more 'settled', or am i just boring icon_eek.gif

    Josh


    You're a bit boring but mostly insecure...sorry to say :/
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    Oct 16, 2011 12:15 PM GMT
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    charmingexpat said
    Chainers saidYes you are old. At the ripe old age of 25, you are 20 years past due for a retirement home.
    Jesus fucking christ.
    I can't believe you used the lords name in vain
    2qd4zs3.jpg


    (I'm Jewish it was sarcasm, guess that doesn't come across well in forums)
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    charmingexpat saidSo here I am, on a Saturday night, sitting at home watching some rather crap tele and browsing through real jock. My bf is working a night shift and my mates asked if wanted to go out and drink, but I'm a bit happier just chillin tonight!

    I'm only 25, but for some reason lately I've been enjoying spending nights cooking a meal and relaxing, having a few drinks, or hitting the gym.

    At what age/time in your life do you reach the stage where you feel like you are starting to become more 'settled', or am i just boring icon_eek.gif

    Josh


    You're a bit boring but mostly insecure...sorry to say :/


    Thanks for the kind words....
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    Oct 16, 2011 12:22 PM GMT
    In the UK, worry when you start to look foreward to hearing 'book at bedtime' followed by the shipping forecast on Radio 4! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 16, 2011 12:44 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidOh I´ve always been like that... I´m really boring.

    Apart from the sex. That is mind blowing.

    But otherwise I´m pretty boring icon_rolleyes.gif



    I'm with Lostboy... bars are boring... I enjoy spending time alone or with my BF as I get older... or good friends. But being alone is nothing to be ashamed of... just don't become a hermit! LOL

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    Oct 16, 2011 12:51 PM GMT
    Not getting old, just growing up... a big difference. I was in the bars at 18. By 25 I realized it was the same faces, same names, and the same conversation. I still go, but its an occasional event, vs a 3 night a week ritual. Most guys in those clubs, are looking for what you have. Enjoy!