Well I just came out to my friend today..

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    May 23, 2008 4:01 AM GMT
    ya I was really afraid and I wasn't sure that I'm gonna tell I'm gay. But I did today and my friend say 'are you sure..?'

    well I couldn't say anything that time cuz I was just afraid.. and I don't want that school kick me out..(my school is christian school, so they don't allow gays)

    anyway ya I came out but I don't really know what should I do.. I'm just afraid after thing... if my friend, family leave me... I don't know ... HELP ME!!!icon_confused.gif
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    May 23, 2008 4:04 AM GMT
    king2139 saidya I was really afraid and I wasn't sure that I'm gonna tell I'm gay. But I did today and my friend say 'are you sure..?'

    well I couldn't say anything that time cuz I was just afraid.. and I don't want that school kick me out..(my school is christian school, so they don't allow gays)

    anyway ya I came out but I don't really know what should I do.. I'm just afraid after thing... if my friend, family leave me... I don't know ... HELP ME!!!icon_confused.gif


    How much pain we cause ourselves imagining what never happens.

    Calm down. Nothing bad has happened. Your friend didnt freak. Everybody knows about homosexuals these days. You can be discreet and start to feel your way beyond these feelings of fright.
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    May 23, 2008 4:10 AM GMT
    Good for you! I'm a native Oregonian and have had great support from family and friends - and I know you will as well. Have confidence in yourself and you will do well!
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    May 23, 2008 4:21 AM GMT
    Geez do I know how you feel. First time I told someone, last year, I was shaking like I just shot someone.
    It got me firmly rooted in the 'Fuck you' attitude.

    Father always said I needed an attitude adjustment. icon_lol.gif

    I would go for a jog or do something that gets you mind out of the depthless pit of envisioned pain. Go to your friend and clearly ask how they feel about it, one way or the other, it'll put you out of one misery.

    The reality is very rarely equal to what you envision.

    Hang in there! icon_smile.gif
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    May 23, 2008 4:26 AM GMT
    I've just started telling my friends as well. The first one is so hard for some people (myself included).

    I can say this though... I feel that every person I've told has become a better, closer, more connected friend because of it. I'm sure this will not be true for everyone I'll ever tell, but its really encouraging!
  • SFTraveler

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    May 23, 2008 7:49 AM GMT
    I agree with Caslon, Buckwheat and WyoLifter. Coming out is one of the most difficult steps a person can take, but much of that is due to our own fears. Most people we tell already knew, suspected or don't really care.
    One additional piece of advice: Now that you have come out to your friend, continue to live your life as you always have. That helps people see that you are still the same person you've always been. All that has changed is they know something new about you - like you're actually a blond or hate broccoli - all aspects of you that don't change who you really are.
    Relax and enjoy your freedom!
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  • HndsmKansan

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    May 23, 2008 11:53 AM GMT
    I agree with what was said above.

    You are to be commended for taking the step and telling your friend. Just make sure that whoever you
    talk to at this early stage is trustworthy. I would keep it limited however. Wait until you are in a more autonomous position before you take major steps.

    While I'm a proponent of taking some risk, I can tell it might tear you up. Little steps are the most prudent at this point. Good luck and keep us informed.
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    May 23, 2008 11:56 AM GMT
    Cheer up! I'm still trying to tell mine. icon_neutral.gif
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    May 23, 2008 7:51 PM GMT
    dude cheer up! everyone gets scared of telling their friends. a true friend will stick with you through thick and thin. besides, you sexuality has nothing to do with being a friend. if they do care about you being homo, than you know for sure they were not a true friend to you. i been through this and my friends would tell me that sexuality does not make you inhuman, it is a choice and that choice should not change you as a person and that person are stupid idiotic closed-minded bastards if they care. =]

    cheer up budd.
  • theONLYallan

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    May 24, 2008 1:33 AM GMT
    just go with the flow.. nobody's gonna leave you.. if anything, you'll have more friends... or even new friends..

    and don't worry about your school.. if you get kicked out, you're gonna save your parents a tonne of tuition money.. icon_lol.gif
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    May 24, 2008 4:33 AM GMT
    thank you icon_smile.gif Everyone. Well I still have a lot of things to do, but your comments helped me a lot.


    Thank you very much!