You ever feel like the oddball around your straight friends for being gay?

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    Oct 16, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    Even tho I'm comfortable with my sexuality and the few friends that know about me are accepting, I often feel like the oddball because being gay is such a minority and just about everyone I know is straight and this world is so straight oriented.
    Like when I go to the club with my friends for instance I feel like the oddball cuz while they're there on the floor hittin on and grindin with girls and checking out every chick that walks buy and trying to get them to come back with them, I'm standing there on the side discretely looking at all the guys. And when they try to get me to come talk to chicks and set me up I have to think of excuses why I can't.

    U ever feel this way?
  • commoncoll

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    Oct 16, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    If you aren't out to these friends, you will continue to be in this situation.

    As far as oddball, I only feel that way a little. In these kinds of situation, I would feel a little out of place, but not usually. I realise that me liking men sexually is only a little part of me, and doesn't define me as a whole.
  • easterndude69

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    Oct 16, 2011 5:22 AM GMT
    It can be a bit awkward at times. When my friends joke around about gay sexual things especially with me it can get somewhat awkward especially since you would wish it could happen but you know it won't. However, we sometimes think with our dicks get a little too excited and try to pursue. That's where things can get complicated.

    It's when my straight friends start talking about girls and also try to get me with girls is where I feel so disconnected from them. At dances and clubs I'm trying to look for guys rather than girls to grind with(though i dont actually grind with any).
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    Oct 16, 2011 5:24 AM GMT
    Yes I do feel odd.. Im the only gay person in my whole school (of about 30 people, but still!)... its one of the few things that seriously puts you in a tiny tiny minority
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Oct 16, 2011 6:02 AM GMT
    not to much we r jsut who we r is the way we see it. there was trouble at first but when they saw i wouldnt back down it was good.
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    Oct 16, 2011 6:18 AM GMT
    Despite my questionable sexuality, I'm always the oddball regardless.
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    Oct 16, 2011 6:48 AM GMT
    I dont fit in 100% anywhere so I always feel out of place from time to time, but the nice thing is it does give me the ability to fit in almost anywhere to some degree. I do sometimes change pronouns when I am talking about being actritived to someone
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    Oct 16, 2011 7:10 AM GMT
    On a regular basis I feel like the odd one out. However, my orientation plays no part in feeling like the oddball; it is my personality and subtle differences that I seem to display. (And I am just fine with not "fitting in...")