Alright, right now, I'm not feeling particularly healthy or whatnot, but I thought I'd chime in even though my own weightloss has stalled a bit.
First off, Kazeai, I highly recommend FitDay. It's a fantastic program that will help you monitor a lot having to do with your diet, exercise, and lifestyle. I use it and know exactly how I'm doing with my diet and exercise goals. It requires a committment to use, though, but you can really see your progress over time and forecast your progress upcoming.
Secondly, are you actually running a calorie deficit, or are you simply eating 500 less calories than you were before? There is a big difference between those concepts. So I'd want to know that first. Fitday has a program that helps you determine these things, but report back to us first and let us know if you know what a calorie deficit is so we can go over it if you need us to.
However, there's another thing I want to say. See, I'm right there with ya, buddy, in terms of being super busy. And I'm actually going to say some things here that some of the other guys on this board may not like.
I know how you feel in regards to being able to manage losing weight without focusing on it like a hawk. For many of the guys on this and other boards, their health and fitness are a hobby to them, and they are happy to indulge in that hobby often throughout the day. This includes exercise, eating right, and tracking their progress. Health and fitness are defining concepts in their lives and they enjoy it.
Is this the case for you? If it is, then good. A few changes to your eating and exercise, and you're all set really.
However, if this isn't the case for you, then I have some good news for you: accept that you're not a health and fitness focused guy. It isn't who you are at your core. Why is this good news?
Because acceptance is part of the process of change. As soon as you accept who and what you are, you can start making the small changes it takes to truly affect lifestyle changes.
It's going to be a little harder for you if you're not naturally focused on these issues as a person. So accept it, and know that it probably will take some extra time for you because it's not what you're focused on. This means that you will have to continue jotting down the calories and nutrition information. You can't give up, though. Accept that it's harder for you, and do it anyway.
It's your diet program. As you saw before, some guys on here are big whole foods people. I split my diet between whole foods and some processed things. It fits my lifestyle and makes my diet acceptable for my palate without rebelling and going off on a food crazed frenzy. It also is convenient for me for some things. Are these diet foods you're eating really what you want to be eating? What would you prefer? Accept what you really want to eat, and then start making small trade-offs and changes. It's all give and take.
What kind of exercise are you doing? That is going to be a big thing. Now, some of the guys on here say that losing weight has to include exercise. That is incorrect.
You can lose weight simply by adjusting your diet. However, it is very difficult to do this, as it requires a major calorie reduction, and this is usually very difficult for most people to accept long term. By mixing in exercise in addition to your normal daily lifestyle activities, along with trimming the calories, you can increase your calorie deficit.
So what kind of exercise do you do? Are you an exercise guy? Accept it if you aren't a big exerciser, and then start making small changes to start including it. Doesn't have to be major, but it can really maximize the results.
The reason I say all of this is that I know the kind of frustration you're feeling. And I know how helpful it is to hear from another gay man "hey, this was all greek to me too!" So accept you're frustrated, accept you're doing something wrong, and we'll all figure out how to fix it together. The guys here are great.
I'll let you go...I hope this helps and wasn't overbearing. I think we need to look at your calorie deficit first and foremost though. Why? Because if you run a weekly deficit of 3500 calories, it is nearly impossible that you won't lose one pound of weight. 3500 calories equals one pound generally. If we can figure out what your calorie deficit is, we can start planning how many pounds you want to lose per week - almost guaranteed.
Keep ur chin up,