Impotence caused by mental state

  • sbwlguy

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    Oct 16, 2011 9:04 PM GMT
    I think I maybe be suffering from this. I can get hard masturbating by myself, but for the past couple of months more often than not I couldn't get hard with guys.

    Another interesting element is that I can't seem to get hard with good looking attractive men. The lesser looking ones seem to not be a problem.

    So basically want to know if anyone could point me to some online reading material which might help me. Any other suggestions would be welcome too.

    Has anyone else suffered from this and did you get over it?
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    Oct 17, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    pics or it didn't happen
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    Oct 17, 2011 1:49 AM GMT
    First if you don't have ED you have more of a mental problem that is probably related to your feelings of vulnerability or perhaps some type of performance pressure. The key to what you said was that you said the more attractive a guy is the more difficult it is to lose you inhibitions. With lesser attractive guys if you fail or you don't see them again no problem.

    When I was 34 I went to the Canary Islands unable to speak Spanish. My first night there I was shocked at how sad and depressing all the gay tourist looked and worried that my vacation would be equally depressing. That night out I saw two young men who were both from the Islands. They were brothers and I befriended the older one. I spoke to him as best I could in the little Spanish I knew. I brought him back to my hotel but I couldn't get hard. He was too damn cute and all I could think was that I wanted to spend the whole vacation with him and not just one night. I felt the pressure of my entire vacation resting on that one night. I had to explain all this in what little Spanish I knew. He assured more he would be happy to show me around and we made plans the next day. Bingo. I was hard. I had a great week with him and enrolled in intermediate Spanish when I returned. He is still a friend to this day.

    Ten years later it happened again on a trip to Montreal. I ended up giving this guy my email and we had a summer romance.

    So I'm speaking from personal experience. It could be a whole different deal with you but look deep inside you to try and understand. It sounds to me that you inability to get hard is a self protecting mechanism to keep anyone from making you feel too vulnerable.