What the hell do men want

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    Oct 18, 2011 9:22 PM GMT
    I get messaged by a lot of good looking fellas. The problem is that it seems to be hard to have a decent conversation. I can't tell if I'm bad at it, or if they're just award. I don't seem to have this problem in person.
  • mizu5

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    Oct 18, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    SOmetimes it's hard to connect online?
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    Oct 18, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
    Half of a conversation can be inflection. I sometimes find it hard to connect with others online because I want to know how they say it just as much as what they say.
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    Oct 18, 2011 9:36 PM GMT
    Well...I want the weather to warm back up.

    I want for the weekend to be here already so I can go to Sloss Fright Furnace! (fuck yea!!)

    I want a massage.



    Any of these things will do. Thanks in advance!
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    Oct 18, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    I want good food and lots of sex.
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    Oct 18, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    Like any conversation, you need a good ice breaker.


    When talking with people online, I generally start with something outlandish and overly awkward.... The bar is much higher, the ice much colder online. Gotta whip out the gas-powered jackhammer to break it.


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    I feel that you can get more unadulterated true insight into the person's mind online, but in person, you get the person they present them self to be (Which, really is who they are... You are who you pretend to be.) So both have their strengths. I think you can get to know a person's motivations and philosophy faster online, but you can never truly "know" someone unless you've spent time with them.


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    Oct 19, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    Welcome to the Internet.

    It's hit and miss. You have to weed through lots and lots of bad ones to find the good ones.
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    Oct 19, 2011 4:01 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI want good food and lots of sex.


    THISSSSSSSSSSSS
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    Oct 19, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    Dey wanna get dey dicks wet.
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    Oct 19, 2011 4:04 AM GMT
    This
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    Oct 19, 2011 4:08 AM GMT
    a big dick and a bigger check book. Bascially what women want too.icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 19, 2011 6:19 AM GMT
    mikeinslc saidI get messaged by a lot of good looking fellas. The problem is that it seems to be hard to have a decent conversation. I can't tell if I'm bad at it, or if they're just award. I don't seem to have this problem in person.


    Maybe this is a start? Are you making sure you spell words correctly to be understood fully?

    In addition, I have to say you're in SLC. Salt Lake is like equidistant between space and the point of nowhere. Many of the guys I've met out there seem kind of shy and reserved. So meeting them online would kind of exasperate that type of personality.

    It's the old, mountain west, isolated way of communicating. Since you don't have the issue in person, try other venues since online may be attracting ultra-reserved types. Which is pretty typical for even the larger cities actually.
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    Oct 19, 2011 7:36 AM GMT
    mikeinslc saidI get messaged by a lot of good looking fellas. The problem is that it seems to be hard to have a decent conversation. I can't tell if I'm bad at it, or if they're just award. I don't seem to have this problem in person.


    This is an internet phenomenon... Of course out of all the hot guys I have messaged back and forth with, only two have managed to hold a conversation, and in person too. A lot of really, really attractive guys attract others with their physical appearance, not their social skills or grace. There are plenty of shallow guys drooling over them, so why would they need or posess conversational skills ? If you can, stick with talking to people in person. Weed out the weirdos :-)
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    Oct 19, 2011 10:13 AM GMT
    Lack of tone and online faculties turn some ppl here into one dimensional beings. But as for your topic question, some of us just wanna fuck :/
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:04 PM GMT
    i'm in quite the opposite pickle. I've never had much luck getting noticed online. Which of course leads me to worry about whether its my profile turning guys off (so i end up re-writing it constantly). But when i do message someone I too get a little worried whether or not I'm doing it wrong. A combination of the self-doubt my parents instilled upon me and Aspergers.

    Its actually WORSE for me IRL. We don't have smoking ordinances here (except for restaraunts) so all the bars are incredibly crowded and smokey. I can only handle it for about an hour before my eyes start to water. But in my whole life i've maybe been hit on, i dunno, once?
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    I've just come to realize, I am going to be single for the rest of my life. You can't get hurt without any expectations. It's hard to know what men want. Just when you think you have it figured out, surprise! you don't! lol
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
    RoadsterRacer saidi'm in quite the opposite pickle. I've never had much luck getting noticed online. Which of course leads me to worry about whether its my profile turning guys off (so i end up re-writing it constantly). But when i do message someone I too get a little worried whether or not I'm doing it wrong. A combination of the self-doubt my parents instilled upon me and Aspergers.

    Its actually WORSE for me IRL. We don't have smoking ordinances here (except for restaraunts) so all the bars are incredibly crowded and smokey. I can only handle it for about an hour before my eyes start to water. But in my whole life i've maybe been hit on, i dunno, once?


    You're a very attractive young guy so it's not your looks. Relax. Worrying has obviously gotten you no where. Time to try not worrying. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:23 PM GMT
    To the OP, guys want all different things.

    I have found that some guys are really bad communicators, sometimes just online and sometimes in all aspects of their lives. I try to take some time to get to know someone by asking questions about them, what they do, what they like, etc.

    After awhile, if all I get back is one or two word answers and no interest in me, I move on.

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    Oct 20, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    idk, i thought i'd b easier with guys. it's not. i've only had decent convos with 4 guys online. 1 of those disappeared on me (like completely disappeared from all the sites, email, ym, etc. as in deleted his accts). yeah, i'm kinda intense and i write what i'm thinking. maybe not a good combo? only met 1 guy in person, and he is...intimidating, and i'm not easily intimidated. so, yeah, idk.
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    steak
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:38 PM GMT
    I want trolilleo's blood at room temperature. And some vanilla frozen yogurt.









    And gummy bears
  • dancedancekj

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    Oct 20, 2011 4:38 PM GMT
    Hah. It's not what men want. All gay men, I believe, want to be in a loving caring romantic relationship on some level (even the most stalwart single guy will at least entertain the possibility). It's what they don't want that's an issue - attachment, possibility of being vulnerable, commitment at this time, distractions from career or self, etc.
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:41 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidsteak


    I would be more than happy to provide steak seeing as I'm quite adept at cooking/grilling/broiling it. Should i wear a button that says "I have steak" ?
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
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    Ariodante saidsteak


    I would be more than happy to provide steak seeing as I'm quite adept at cooking/grilling/broiling it. Should i wear a button that says "I have steak" ?


    Push button, receive steak?
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    Ariodante said

    Push button, receive steak?


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    No no no no, it's push button receive BACON. Ariodante, you of all people should know this. I'm disappointed.

    Steak from a button? That's just ridiculous.