Always buy the cheaper wine.

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    Oct 19, 2011 8:58 PM GMT
    Well, it's probably my own fault for not paying more attention to all the ads for Viagra, but romance does seem to be dead.

    Met a guy in a club, we chatted, 26 year old student in Global Health, so seemed the intelligent sort until all the subsequent texts to my Skype number asking "Are you top or bottom, are the clothes going to come off?".

    Then he's outside the door and wants to come in "for a minute". "Okay" is a big mistake. After twenty minutes of cuddling and letting him "play", the "date's still on, tomorrow" is really the passive-aggressive version of "No sex = get lost".

    I hope the cheese and wine keeps. It wasn't cheap but he made me feel cheap.

    When someone fancies you, it's a compliment. But when they treat you like a prostitute it feels wrong. Is there more to being gay than sex?
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    Oct 19, 2011 9:07 PM GMT
    you met a guy and instead of talking to him you texted each other? This post is confusing.
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    Oct 19, 2011 9:08 PM GMT
    Yep, dating is pretty much dead these days from what I hear. Everyone just hooks up or goes out in groups. If it makes you feel any better, that is what is happing to straight people too.
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    Oct 19, 2011 9:10 PM GMT
    other questions: How'd he find your door if you hadn't texted him your address. How'd he get INSIDE if you didn't open it up...

    This whole post just sounds a bit off... He's 26... You met in a Club. What do you expect? The Dalia Lama?
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    Oct 19, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    Also confused: your profile says "open relationship"... in what sense are you "dating" someone?
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    Oct 19, 2011 9:25 PM GMT
    Yeah, sometimes prince charming turns out to be a frog.

    Regarding wine though, there was a recent study out of UC Davis (the premier enology schools in the country) which clearly showed the average person, and even those who considered themselves connoisseurs, had a 50-50 chance of picking out the expensive wine over a cheap wine, in a blind tasting. So no point in casting your pearls before swine - either the wine or the per between you legs icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 19, 2011 9:39 PM GMT
    I'm confused what now?

    A 26 year old wanted to play, but you told him to get lost by withholding sex, after you 'played' for twenty minutes and now seem to be having a date the day after all the while you being in an open relationship and him hinting at you wanting to hook up?? See message "Are you top or bottom, are the clothes going to come off?"

    However, you can deduce the conclusion one must always buy cheaper wine? Can you explain the logic and method of deduction in all this?


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    Oct 19, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    Jeandeau saidyou met a guy and instead of talking to him you texted each other? This post is confusing.


    I had to re-read the post a couple times. It doesn't make much sense and I didn't really understand it.
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    Oct 19, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    Lux_ said[...]confused-demotivational-poster-122833280[...]

    Oh, that's the warning sign they need to put at the entrance to all gay meeting places. Pretty self explanatory. The "Good Luck" sign certainly is a considerate and nice addition.
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    Oct 19, 2011 10:07 PM GMT
    He texted. Later, the guy came to visit. The guy came on WAAAYYY too fast.

    I should be so lucky!!
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    Oct 20, 2011 12:41 AM GMT
    Jeandeau saidyou met a guy and instead of talking to him you texted each other? This post is confusing.


    We met, we talked and then later he text me on Skype. He came round a day before we were due to meet. After he left, I bought the cheese & wine for the next day, but then he text me to call it off.

    To be fair, he says he's ill due to a flu shot, so it may be a case of circumstance. My point is, however, that in the rush for sex, you may miss out on the person.
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    Oct 20, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    Kjonyou saidYep, dating is pretty much dead these days from what I hear. Everyone just hooks up or goes out in groups. If it makes you feel any better, that is what is happing to straight people too.


    Oh, will people please stop feeling sorry for themselves and their dating history?

    YOU get to set the standards in a relationship... if you don't want to fuck around (literally) on the first date, nobody is making you. Set high standards and people in many cases will even respect it!
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    Oct 20, 2011 1:37 AM GMT
    Brit_in_Canada said
    Jeandeau saidyou met a guy and instead of talking to him you texted each other? This post is confusing.

    We met, we talked and then later he text me on Skype. He came round a day before we were due to meet. After he left, I bought the cheese & wine for the next day, but then he text me to call it off.

    To be fair, he says he's ill due to a flu shot, so it may be a case of circumstance. My point is, however, that in the rush for sex, you may miss out on the person.


    Arrives the day before? Checking to see what you're about without preparations? ...

    The only way I will believe a gay man that cancels a date due to illness etc. is if he gets back to me (email, telephone, text) within several days after to show his noble intentions. In fact that has never happened to me. The phrase that always goes through my mind is that "It was not meant to be," and that it's just as well that I was spared meeting a douche. As a result I would have relished that wine and cheese as a kind of victory celebration, so it's just as well you seem not to have bought a cheap wine.

    This thread reminds me that we really need to improve our community by setting a good example, even if / especially if we ourselves are often confronted with dishonesty and flakes. Guys who are recently out (of all ages) need to know that the gay community shouldn't be known top and foremost for its' douches and jerkwads. ... And the more experienced should take pride knowing that by setting a good example our community will be more respected from within and from without.
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    Oct 20, 2011 10:59 AM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidAlso confused: your profile says "open relationship"... in what sense are you "dating" someone?


    QFT!

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    Oct 20, 2011 12:53 PM GMT
    So what it is the big deal? He wanted to have sex, that doesn't make him any less "nice" or "intelligent". Just because you were not in the mood for a hook up doesn't make him the bad guy.
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    Oct 21, 2011 7:43 AM GMT
    Lux_ saidI'm confused what now?

    A 26 year old wanted to play, but you told him to get lost by withholding sex, after you 'played' for twenty minutes and now seem to be having a date the day after all the while you being in an open relationship and him hinting at you wanting to hook up?? See message "Are you top or bottom, are the clothes going to come off?"

    However, you can deduce the conclusion one must always buy cheaper wine? Can you explain the logic and method of deduction in all this?



    There's a significant difference between letting someone play and catching AIDS. It worries me this confuses you, Lux.
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    Oct 21, 2011 7:49 AM GMT
    Brit_in_Canada said

    There's a significant difference between letting someone play and catching AIDS. It worries me this confuses you, Lux.


    o_O I'm sorry but AIDS came into the equation when..and why...? Are you under drowsy medication?
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    Oct 21, 2011 7:56 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    Brit_in_Canada said

    There's a significant difference between letting someone play and catching AIDS. It worries me this confuses you, Lux.


    o_O I'm sorry but AIDS came into the equation when..and why...? Are you under drowsy medication?


    For sane people this has always been part of the equation, Ariodante.

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    Oct 21, 2011 8:02 AM GMT
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    Lux_ saidI'm confused what now?

    A 26 year old wanted to play, but you told him to get lost by withholding sex, after you 'played' for twenty minutes and now seem to be having a date the day after all the while you being in an open relationship and him hinting at you wanting to hook up?? See message "Are you top or bottom, are the clothes going to come off?"

    However, you can deduce the conclusion one must always buy cheaper wine? Can you explain the logic and method of deduction in all this?



    There's a significant difference between letting someone play and catching AIDS. It worries me this confuses you, Lux.


    It worries me this makes sense to you Brit_in_Canada.

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    Oct 21, 2011 8:03 AM GMT
    Brit_in_Canada said
    Ariodante said
    Brit_in_Canada said

    There's a significant difference between letting someone play and catching AIDS. It worries me this confuses you, Lux.


    o_O I'm sorry but AIDS came into the equation when..and why...? Are you under drowsy medication?


    For sane people this has always been part of the equation, Ariodante.



    So then how is it relevant to you?
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    Oct 21, 2011 8:04 AM GMT
    Brit_in_Canada said
    Ariodante said
    Brit_in_Canada said

    There's a significant difference between letting someone play and catching AIDS. It worries me this confuses you, Lux.


    o_O I'm sorry but AIDS came into the equation when..and why...? Are you under drowsy medication?


    For sane people this has always been part of the equation, Ariodante.




    Sir, you led him on by letting him play around with you before your date... He canceled because you're insane.
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    Oct 21, 2011 8:04 AM GMT
    Cash said

    For sane people this has always been part of the equation, Ariodante.



    So then how is it relevant to you?


    Trololol. Beat me to it.
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    Oct 21, 2011 8:05 AM GMT
    Cash said
    Brit_in_Canada said
    Lux_ saidI'm confused what now?

    A 26 year old wanted to play, but you told him to get lost by withholding sex, after you 'played' for twenty minutes and now seem to be having a date the day after all the while you being in an open relationship and him hinting at you wanting to hook up?? See message "Are you top or bottom, are the clothes going to come off?"

    However, you can deduce the conclusion one must always buy cheaper wine? Can you explain the logic and method of deduction in all this?



    There's a significant difference between letting someone play and catching AIDS. It worries me this confuses you, Lux.


    It worries me this makes sense to you Brit_in_Canada.

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    So you are saying that only gay people who want sex are welcome on RJ, Cash? Isn't that like saying that women should be excluded from gay nightclubs?
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    Oct 21, 2011 8:06 AM GMT
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    So you are saying that only gay people who want sex are welcome on RJ, Cash? Isn't that like saying that women should be excluded from gay nightclubs?



    Your train of thought was not clear. You're totally missing the point, I think you're good at that.
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    Oct 21, 2011 8:10 AM GMT
    Brit_in_Canada said
    Cash said
    Brit_in_Canada said
    Lux_ saidI'm confused what now?

    A 26 year old wanted to play, but you told him to get lost by withholding sex, after you 'played' for twenty minutes and now seem to be having a date the day after all the while you being in an open relationship and him hinting at you wanting to hook up?? See message "Are you top or bottom, are the clothes going to come off?"

    However, you can deduce the conclusion one must always buy cheaper wine? Can you explain the logic and method of deduction in all this?



    There's a significant difference between letting someone play and catching AIDS. It worries me this confuses you, Lux.


    It worries me this makes sense to you Brit_in_Canada.

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    So you are saying that only gay people who want sex are welcome on RJ, Cash? Isn't that like saying that women should be excluded from gay nightclubs?


    No, what I am saying is that vegetables are sometimes green because when I drive a Cadilac it seems like the sky is upside down so I have to yell at the birds that live in my mouth to flip the burgers because there is too much cranberry juice in the stereo.

    WTF are you talking about Brit?!!??!!?!??!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!