The coworker issue

  • JTEvans

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    Oct 20, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    Looking for a little input on this. I work in an office for a mid size company in a midsize town. I have my own set of friends so I don't socialize a ton at the office. Consequently I'm not super "out" at work. It just rarely comes up. Recently I've become friends with a new first it was mostly based on the fact that we're the only twenty something guys in a company of mostly older women. There are a few other young people who socialize on the regular but I usually do my own thing. The issue is that Scott is gay and I totally have a work crush on him. We started out as work friends but then came facebook, and happy hour, and he's currently texting me while on vacation in florida. I'd like to ask him out but I'm a little concerned about dating a guy I work with. It's touchy and I like keeping my personal life out of the office. However, he's really cute and it's not easy to meet wothwhile guys around here. I guess what I'm asking is, should I got for it and risk awkward times at work or should I just forget it. Anyone have any experience, good or bad, with office romance?
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    Oct 20, 2011 12:58 PM GMT
    Go for it icon_smile.gif Just make sure if things don't work out, to end it in a decent and non-dramatic way icon_smile.gif
  • djzilla

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    Oct 20, 2011 1:29 PM GMT
    I would say go for it as well...

    Seems like everyone in my office hooks up at some point...LOL
    except me of course! DOH!!!!!
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    Oct 20, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    i didnt have this experience my self but i have seen two cases of this. on both cases they were my friends one of them it was bad the guy starting calling her names and talking about her behind her back. the other case was another friend they both agree that it wasnt working out and went they different ways but they still talked and stuff and nothing bad came out of that one.
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    Oct 20, 2011 1:36 PM GMT
    A lot depends on how gay-friendly your employer is, and whether Scott is in your department.

    Generally, it's a good idea not to date in the workplace. It's a serious ethics violation, though, if he is your direct report or your personal relationship could influence his career with the organization.

    If you decide that dating is worth the risks involved, consider talking with your HR department about the matter. Transparency is a good thing, and your employer may have policies about situations such as this.

    Lastly, you may want to size up the situation in light of how you both will handle things if they don't work out. The last thing you need is an angry co-worker spreading rumors about the situation--or worse, claiming that you coerced him. So, be careful.