My fag hag has a weight issue

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    Oct 20, 2011 11:28 AM GMT
    Hi guys,

    I have the following problem... my best friend, who is obviously a fag hag, is a very fun and smart girl. She is loyal, she is a great party person, we get along perfectly. BUT... she is fat. And I love her just the way she is. In my opinion she looks pretty and she has a very elegant style etc.

    But I know that guys (straight or gay) mainly see sex. And this is why very few guys like her, she doesn't date anyone, she doesn't have sex - she is constantly partying with gay guys to compensate for the lack of heterosexual males in her life but I am sure she feels incomplete.

    So I want to help her, I really do.. but her weight is something that we have never talked about, not even remotely. First because I don't care how much she weighs and second because she pretends she feels good in her skin... but I know that nobody can feel good if they look like this. And she is really big... icon_lol.gif


    Sooo... anyone else who has a fat fag hag and has a tip for me? icon_smile.gif

    Thanks!!!
    V.
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    Oct 20, 2011 11:52 AM GMT
    I made a similar thread recently "Fat Friends". Some decent advice in there.
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    Oct 20, 2011 1:03 PM GMT
    Isn't in the official definition of a fag hag that she must be fat?

    Sorry, I suck at helping people with stuff like this. I feel like no matter what, you will offend them if you bring it up. But you can try!
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    Oct 20, 2011 1:22 PM GMT
    Well, what do you do to exercise? Maybe you could bring up what you do and then move into inviting her to go with you one time?
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    Oct 20, 2011 1:22 PM GMT
    Don't they all?
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    Oct 20, 2011 1:29 PM GMT
    JackNWNJ saidDon't they all?


    +1

    I've always thought females who become fag hags do so because they can't get a man of their own so they latch on to gay men for some sort of emotional connection with the opposite sex. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 20, 2011 1:46 PM GMT
    it's funny that you posted this because i've been going through a similar situation. The thing i've realized about people, in any situation that requires change, is that you cannot change or try to make someone better. the person has to want to do it.

    so i guess my advice is that if your friend comes to you and says she wants to change, make and effort or whatever, then you can be her go-to-person.

    seeing as how it's never been brought up, it could cause some hurt feelings and awkward situations. holy shit, can it ever. trust me.

    good luck, man.
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    Oct 20, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    I saw a similar situation to this on The Tyra Banks show, except the hag was dating the fag..
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    Oct 20, 2011 2:31 PM GMT
    khocomel saidI saw a similar situation to this on The Tyra Banks show, except the hag was dating the fag..


    Then the fag wasn't a fag..was he...
  • mybud

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    Oct 20, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    Dude...If she tells you she's happy with the status quo...Why would you question it?Live and let live....
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    Oct 20, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    You sorta answered your own question. You know what the problem is and so does she. She elects not to fix the problem (as you see it) of her own will. She seems contempt being exactly who she is the way she is so until she feels there's a need to fix it then just let her be. Just be a friend I guess. Clearly you do care otherwise you wouldn't post something like this to begin with.

    You can only help those who want to be helped. Nothing is stopping her but herself from fixing the situation she is in (again, as you see it).

    Best thing for you to do would be to address the problem with her and see how she actually feels about it since you guys haven't touched the subject. Go from there and don't assume you know how she feels if you haven't spoken to her about such things.

    Best of luck to you.
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    JackNWNJ saidDon't they all?


    My fag hags are all hot...
  • dhinkansas

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    Oct 20, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    Why does someone need a fag hag? Can't you just have good friends?

    Throw a co dependent fag hag in the mix and good luck having a relationship.
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    KardioKing said
    JackNWNJ saidDon't they all?


    +1

    I've always thought females who become fag hags do so because they can't get a man of their own so they latch on to gay men for some sort of emotional connection with the opposite sex. icon_lol.gif


    +2

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    Oct 20, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR said
    JackNWNJ saidDon't they all?


    My fag hags are all hot...


    +1 haha.

    I do have one friend who always complains about her weight when she is only a little chubby...mainly in her core area. Every time she is with me and is drunk...she always complains about her weight and wants to be skinny like me (i don't consider myself to be THAT thin). I told her to do it in the healthy way and give her some tips but she doesn't listen to me.

    For your situation OP does she complain to you about her weight? Or does she not seem to care?
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:52 PM GMT
    AlexanderB said
    Larkin_PLR said
    JackNWNJ saidDon't they all?


    My fag hags are all hot...


    +1 haha.

    I do have one friend who always complains about her weight when she is only a little chubby...mainly in her core area. Every time she is with me and is drunk...she always complains about her weight and wants to be skinny like me (i don't consider myself to be THAT thin). I told her to do it in the healthy way and give her some tips but she doesn't listen to me.


    Haha, right? My one friend is like that.

    My hags are mostly hot because they were the hot girls in my classes who thought I was straight, would hit on me constantly, then became "friends" once I told them I was dating a guy.
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    Oct 20, 2011 4:56 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR said
    AlexanderB said
    Larkin_PLR said
    JackNWNJ saidDon't they all?


    My fag hags are all hot...


    +1 haha.

    I do have one friend who always complains about her weight when she is only a little chubby...mainly in her core area. Every time she is with me and is drunk...she always complains about her weight and wants to be skinny like me (i don't consider myself to be THAT thin). I told her to do it in the healthy way and give her some tips but she doesn't listen to me.


    Haha, right? My one friend is like that.

    My hags are mostly hot because they were the hot girls in my classes who thought I was straight, would hit on me constantly, then became "friends" once I told them I was dating a guy.


    This. Also fag hags have changed from girls so ugly they couldn't get a date to girls so hot they bat straight guys away constantly but like male attention so they latch on to gay men.
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    Oct 20, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    There is no helping her. She is not looking for a straight male companion. She has you. The reason why she's with you is because you don't judge her, and around you it's OK to be fat. Where's she going to find that?

    Oh, you're secretly looking out for HER life?

    No. Just stop. She's an adult, and apparently you have a messiah complex (how could you not...after all, she worships you).
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    Oct 20, 2011 9:06 PM GMT
    Hi icon_smile.gif

    First of all - thanks for the replies. They've been quite useful!
    Some of you mentioned that I should just let her be and decide on her own.. that's probably a wise advise, but what kind of a friend am I if let her be something that is obviously sopping her from having many beautiful experiences? Isn't it my job to tell her the hurting truth? It's better to hear it from me than have some loser call her "fat ass".

    @cxb7, could you tell me more about what happened in your situation?

    @mickeytopogig... I really don't know why you are telling me this... messiah complex, seriously?

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    Oct 20, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    "My fag hag has a weight issue"

    Triple distileled irony.
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    Oct 20, 2011 9:23 PM GMT
    dhinkansas said
    Throw a co dependent fag hag in the mix and good luck having a relationship.



    ^^^^This^^^^

    Problems can ensue if/when the fag hag becomes to immersed in YOUR gay life to the point that she becomes consumed with it because it is a substitute for what she lacks in her own life. I have seen this played out so many times I can't count, where the fag hag is basically living vicariously through her gay troupe of friends, and she becomes increasingly dependent on them to fill the void in her own life.
  • josephmovie

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    Oct 20, 2011 9:24 PM GMT
    All the overweight, slightly lonely fun fag hags I knew in my twenties are still overweight, slightly lonely fun fag hags now we're in our 40s.

    Ain't nuthin' you can do unless the hag wants to.
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    Oct 20, 2011 9:26 PM GMT
    All of my girls are stunners, they keep their shit tight and keep bringing in that dollar dollar bill y'all icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 20, 2011 9:30 PM GMT
    Fag hags are always fat or just dirty or ugly or any combo of the three
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    Oct 20, 2011 9:54 PM GMT
    Defenseon saidFag hags are always fat or just dirty or ugly or any combo of the three


    That's not true at all, maybe where your from, but here in Manchester you get some really stunning girls clinging to their gay mates.