Facing my unability to create a routine

  • Oct 21, 2011 6:08 AM GMT
    Hey Guys,

    I thought I will take advice from the community as I'm facing the annoying issue of being unable to commit in a fit routine.

    See :
    I work a lot
    I want to be fit
    I love food, wine, cheese, cream, desserts ( I'm french )
    I cant wake up early
    I m lazy
    I don't want to drink protein milk and energy stuff
    I don't have energy after work...

    So... I have a membership in a Gym, but I'm unable to create a routine, socializing, going out for dinner, chilling at home, meeting my friends is just too seductive. I tried diet... I tried crunches, I tried yoga ( but the mat turned dusty ), I tried running... FAILED FAILED FAILED

    What would be your recommendation to a french expat in Delhi who is, somewhow conscious that his style of life is not good for his health ( cardiac issue in the family ) and bones ( growing fat ... bouhouu ) and general happiness ( I dont want to look at me and be : yuck... is that you ? )

    For the stats maniac : I am 1m85 // 100 kg ( well built like a rugbyman, not an obese, in my family we are all like that ) ... but I just can get to the gym and move my ass or do crunches.

    So... I'm listening, be cruel, be direct, be clear : I need your support !!!!!! ( and maybe other guys in my situation !! )

    Thanks to all


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    Oct 21, 2011 10:51 AM GMT
    Go to the gym before you go to work.

    When there is something you need to do but you usually delay or avoid doing, do it as soon as possible. Otherwise you will always have an excuse to not do it.
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    Oct 21, 2011 1:02 PM GMT
    I think the main thing you mentioned is "I m lazy", if this is true and not a witty reparte to lighten the post then you'll really have to work on that.

    I find the best way to get into a routine is to just jump in. Force yourself to do it religiously for a couple of weeks and sooner than later it will become natural icon_smile.gif

    Oh and I'm Italian decent so I know your pain! Everything worth eating is a carb, buttered and fatty. >_<

  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 21, 2011 1:11 PM GMT
    I think you need to figure out the best way to "connect" to your fitness pursuits. Do you work better at home or at the gym? Do you do better by yourself or with a buddy... or a trainer? Are you confident in the gym, meaning, do you know how to use the equipment and ask prudent questions?

    Sounds you aren't that structured a guy. You must learn to be organized in your life if you are going to reach your goals.. and I'm not implying that you don't reach goals, my point is, how did you reach your others? Consider applying it here. Start out with small goals, like 3 or 4 exercises with or without weights. Achievement begets success. Make sure you know what you want to achieve as well. Be clear.
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    Oct 21, 2011 1:44 PM GMT

    I like this commercial because it's so true. It takes sacrifice, no matter how you approach it. You're either willing to do it, or you're not. As Tony Horton says: Nobody said this is easy.

    You should approach it like every other goal in life: What are your priorities, put them in order, and realize that things at the bottom of the list may have to be put on hold.

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    Oct 21, 2011 2:00 PM GMT
    QFT! ^^
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    Oct 21, 2011 2:03 PM GMT
    It's all about priorities. If being healthy and active isn't a priority, it isn't going to happen. You've got to enjoy and look forward to whatever exercise you choose. So find something you like. It can be lifting weights, playing squash, running marathons....whatever. It just needs to be something you want to do.

    The same goes with diet. You need to find healthy foods that you enjoy eating. Personally, I don't believe in "cheat" meals. I eat food that I enjoy eating.

    A lot of this is about conditioning yourself to certain things. If all you've ever know is fatty cheeses and desserts then that's what you're accustomed to enjoying. Set some manageable goals and knock them off. Try to just play a sport or go for a long walk three times a week for three weeks. You'll hopefully start making that a priority in your life and routine. You'd miss not doing it. Then pick your next goal and start eating lean proteins and fibrous veggies instead of fatty cheese and cake.....

    Don't try to make massive, drastic changes all at once. You'll get overwhelmed, slip up and spend days beating yourself up. Make your changes manageable and realize you'll mess up from time to time. It's not the end of the world.

    The measure of a man is not whether he gets knocked down but how he gets back up.

    Good luck.

  • Oct 25, 2011 5:17 AM GMT
    Hey guys,


    thank you for your answers !! the thing is, for example, i could create a routine for a couple of months or so... but then i fall sick, went to holidays, and get to a business trip... when I was back to Delhi : i could just not start from zero again !

    Another example, i had a coach, and well, when he trains me, it's good, because I feel i'm making progress, but then, he makes me do the same old boring exercises...

    I think i'd like to work out if I had a friend to do it with me and push me a bit... my own will can't do the job hihih...

    On the food side : i'm exagerating, i'm trying to eat properly. I love cheese and such stuff of course, but I have quite a balanced diet..

    So if I sum up :
    Organization : setting measurable goals
    Motivation : finding the exercice that motivates me
    Priorities : know why i'm doing it, and do it :-)

    Thank you.

    I think i'll try again with that in mind and maybe picture myself also, to measure the progress weeks after weeks

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    Oct 25, 2011 5:34 AM GMT
    Nothing that we say is going to change your mentality. I've given out of shape people advice on what to do and none of them listened to me. It has to start with you. If you want to get into shape badly enough it will happen. Instead of worrying about creating a routine right now, you have to worry about just changing your lifestyle and getting yourself in the gym. Once you officially changed your lifestyle, you could worry about creating a routine. To start off I'd say change your eating habits and do 30-45 minutes of cardio for 3 days a week. That's how I started losing weight and getting into decent cardiovascular shape.
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    Oct 25, 2011 6:35 AM GMT
    Write it down. Make a calendar and put it up in every damned room of your house.

    I am going to work out X amount of times this week, NO MATTER WHAT.
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    Oct 25, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    There's no "outside" solution - - nothing you will get from this thread or someone else. When you actually want to do it (not just say you do) you'll do it.
  • dancedancekj

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    Oct 25, 2011 6:43 AM GMT
    Here's how I got into my current working out routine.

    1. Simplified my life. Got rid of entertainment except internet. I was able to streamline my routines so things like cooking, laundry, sorting mail, dishes, were all streamlined for maximal efficiency. Leaves more room for the rest of the day to do other tasks.

    2. Started eating differently. I found I had a gluten intolerance, so I cut that out. Then I started cutting more carbs, until I found just the right level. By eating more protein and less carbohydrates at each meal, I found myself without an insulin crash, and with high levels of energy.

    3. When my energy levels rose, I was able to enjoy my work and feel energized by it. I feel tired but a happy tired when I get off work.

    4. I then either work out after work, or work out a couple hours afterwards. I bought heavy resistance bands so I can do resistance exercise, stretching, and cardio all from my home (decreasing the amount of effort needed to work out - you just need to grab the bands and do it!)

    5. Then, once I started seeing myself slimming down and muscle forming, everything keeps accelerating together! I eat well, feel more energetic, and am able to work out more, and it just goes together.
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    Oct 25, 2011 7:08 AM GMT
    I was a little bit the same actually.
    What I did and hopefully it might help you a little is start off really small.

    Like I mean really small. Do 10 minutes of exercise and commit to it 3-4 times per week. Then as you get more used to that particular routine bump it up 5 minutes whenever you feel comfortable.

    Also set a simple goal, that way achieving that will help you feel motivated to continue and try something a little harder.
    Baby steps mate, it's hard to get into a full routine from previously doing no routine at all.

    For cardio, provided that you're knees are good for it, running outside rather than on a treadmill I find is more stimulating in that you can find more distractions to keep your focus off the actually running while you run.
    Look at houses lol, see what you think of them, but you would've done different to the front lawn etc.

    For me, cardio is such a pain in the ass (literally haha) that I need distractions to continue. Again with this start of small. Run 10-15 mins and then walk. If you want you can run again but at least you know you've done at least 10-15 mins. After you can add on time on by running longer or running more than once in the day.

    Lastly, it doesn't matter what exercise you do if you ar eating more than you are burning off but it will help at least slow it down enough that you can catch up eventually as you take bigger steps in time.
    Plus you do after a while get used to forcing yourself to do it.
    That's how it was for me anyway.

    Hope this helps in any way.
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    Oct 25, 2011 7:11 AM GMT
    You've pointed out some health issues that are compelling you, and some mild self-loathing.

    However, I don't hear that you want it enough. You could dodge the bullet (maybe you'll live longer than your ancestors), and you aren't truly disgusted by your appearance.

    If you felt as though all of those other things could be sacrificed to achieve your goals, none of our responses would matter; you'd be already working to create your new body. Without discarding those other distractions, you'll never get the body you want.

    So here's your new routine. Change these:
    1. Wine, cheese, cream, desserts
    2. Not waking up early
    3. Being lazy

    1. Water, vegetables, meat/protein
    2. Going to bed one hour earlier
    3. Starting a physical hobby (biking, blading, jogging) that you can partake with friends.

    And try this: make new friends who look and behave the way you wish you could.
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    Oct 25, 2011 7:26 AM GMT
    frenchexpatdelhi saidHey Guys,

    I thought I will take advice from the community as I'm facing the annoying issue of being unable to commit in a fit routine.

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    I want the results without the work. CanĀ“t be bothered. Self defeating

    Please do this for me. kthnxbai


    There. Any clearer to you now what you need to do?
  • realdeal86

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    Oct 25, 2011 7:57 AM GMT
    Go paleo with your diet!! You"ll notice a huge change in your energy level. Paleo is the best, it's great to wake up each morning and feel like your could rip the head off a grizzly bear with your bare hands.