sounding girly in bed...a turn off??

  • rogerfederer

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    Oct 21, 2011 8:30 PM GMT
    i just have a naturally feminine and soft voice. Should i force myself to grunt or sound manly when a guy's fucking me?? this guy i hooked up with told me to shut up cuz i was distracting. How exactly should a guy moan?? or what should i do? They get angry if i just sit there but if i start being vocal and moving and stuff they say i sound too much like a girl or act like a girl and to stop. So im royally confused
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:11 PM GMT
    Then you're with the wrong guy. Criticizing someone's natural expression, while they're naked even is a dick thing to do.

    Don't try to change, just find someone who gets horny from the way you moan. There are a lot of guys who would get turned off by you faking a grunt.
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    Yes, don't force yourself to do anything, this guy had heard your voice before fucking right? and he wanted to sleep with you... so he's a douche for complaining.
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:14 PM GMT
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:17 PM GMT
    You are very sexy. If a dude criticizes you, hook up with someone better. His loss not yours.
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:28 PM GMT
    So do you sound like this?

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    Oct 21, 2011 9:30 PM GMT
    BAMF saidSo do you sound like this?


    Oh dear god.
    If a guy I was with sounded like that... I couldn't do it.
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
    Were you affecting a different way of speaking before the sex, and so your feminine moaning was a surprise to him? That happened with me once: on one of my rare hookups the guy sounded totally masculine but while we were at it he suddenly started sounding like a girl. :/ Huge turn off.

    But the replies here are right: just be yourself and if he knows what you sound like but still goes through with it, it's his fault.
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:34 PM GMT
    Did you say, "Fuck my man pussy"?

    'Cuz some guys hate that.
  • wellwell

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    Oct 21, 2011 9:43 PM GMT
    yes
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:54 PM GMT
    that sounds messed up to me........you're nice.....find someone better.
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:55 PM GMT
    Your hot ! So I don't care what you say or do .
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    endo saidDid you say, "Fuck my man pussy"?

    'Cuz some guys hate that.

    "AWE YEAH. FUCK MY BOY PUSSY!"
    Always turns me off and makes me laugh. I've told someone to leave because of that.
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    Oct 21, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    BAMF saidSo do you sound like this?



    Maybe Jake Benson can make a remake of this like he did with the NoNoNo cat icon_biggrin.gif
  • waccamatt

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    Oct 21, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    rogerfederer saidi just have a naturally feminine and soft voice. Should i force myself to grunt or sound manly when a guy's fucking me?? this guy i hooked up with told me to shut up cuz i was distracting. How exactly should a guy moan?? or what should i do? They get angry if i just sit there but if i start being vocal and moving and stuff they say i sound too much like a girl or act like a girl and to stop. So im royally confused


    You are hot as hell - any guy that would say that to you is not worth a damn. There are millions of guys out there who wouldn't care a bit if your voice is feminine or soft.
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    Oct 21, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    TrevorMark said

    "AWE YEAH. FUCK MY BOY PUSSY!"
    Always turns me off and makes me laugh. I've told someone to leave because of that.




    = guy mentioned in the first post
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    Oct 21, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    You shouldn't have to think about it, and don't fake it for anyone. I've had partners ask why I wasn't more vocal, it's just not me. Not that I'm being puritanical by any means, I just don't feel the need for all the extra pornish noise.

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    Oct 21, 2011 11:58 PM GMT
    rogerfederer saidi just have a naturally feminine and soft voice. Should i force myself to grunt or sound manly when a guy's fucking me?? this guy i hooked up with told me to shut up cuz i was distracting. How exactly should a guy moan?? or what should i do? They get angry if i just sit there but if i start being vocal and moving and stuff they say i sound too much like a girl or act like a girl and to stop. So im royally confused


    Gorgeous, I wouldn't give a damn what you sounded like in bed. If it bordered on laugh-inducing, I would just cover your mouth. icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 22, 2011 12:00 AM GMT
    I only sound girly when a straight guy's fucking me. icon_lol.gif!
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    Oct 22, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    hahaha.... fuck my man pussy. Nice. But I mean, sex is supposed to be natural, not acted out. You're not a porn star, so enjoy it. If he doesn't like it, then next.
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    Oct 22, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidYeah, I just can't get there. I'm a bottom and if my top is at all girly, it's just not gonna happen. I'll take bad B/O over girliness (and I won't take bad B/O, lol.)

    Bottom line: guys are allowed to like what they like; and you don't have to change for anyone. Find a guy who loves your little femmie squeaks and giggles....find that guy who just wants to grind you harder as you squeal in his ear "make me a baby! ...Oh, my vag is so wet!" ...the guy who hears your breathy wimpers and khoos and knows he's the one getting you to hit those high notes. icon_biggrin.gif

    He's out there....confused and lonely, lol.


    So conversation is not a big part of your relationships then, YourName2000?

    To the OP: He loves you when you are, in his eyes, perfect and unique. When you change who you are, both of you suffer.
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    Oct 22, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    Somebody told you to shut up? I prob would have thrown them out right there.

    You should do what makes you happy and if they can't tolerate them then they can pull out and find another garage to park their car in icon_razz.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    Oct 22, 2011 12:38 AM GMT
    I agree. If he was looking for a man to fuck, why did he bed you in the first place? You're not the problem. Be as fem as you want.
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    Oct 22, 2011 12:39 AM GMT
    endo saidDid you say, "Fuck my man pussy"?

    'Cuz some guys hate that.


    I had a guy say that while I was fuck'n him and I went from 0 to limp in 4.5?seconds. Grossed me out.... Actually he Said, "boy pussy"

    You have a nice tight ass, not boy pussy... Such a turn off!
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    Oct 22, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    SkinnyBitch said
    TrevorMark said

    "AWE YEAH. FUCK MY BOY PUSSY!"
    Always turns me off and makes me laugh. I've told someone to leave because of that.




    = guy mentioned in the first post



    Oh... God! Not again.... Ahhhhhhhhhh icon_eek.gif