Ask a black guy ANYTHING YOU WANT

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    Oct 22, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    At the request of an RJ buddy from Germany... ask a black guy ANYTHING YOU WANT... without fear or embarrassment. No judgement! No name calling and No accusations about racism or bigotry. This is mostly for fun and information.

    Feel free to send a private message if your too embarrassed to post publicly. Other African Americans are encouraged to participate.

    If I don't know the answer.. I simply say "I don't know" icon_smile.gif

    PLEASE LIMIT IT TO NO MORE THAN 1 QUESTIONS PER POST
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    Oct 22, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    So, black guy, why are you not verified?
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    Oct 22, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    How are you?
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    Oct 22, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    why do blacks like to blame everything on white people? lol jk

    why do black people have ashy skin in the winter time?
    do black women wear weaves or wigs? and why do they spend all their money on it instead of paying bills?

    lol jk. why would u wanna act as a representative for "the black man" and have people ask u stupid questions about being black?


    is malcom x considered a radical nutcase or a legit respected african american?

    do u think blacks have an extra tendon on their leg that makes them better at most sports than white people?

    how come black people can run so fast?

    why do blacks not like to swim?
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    Oct 22, 2011 8:08 PM GMT
    Flamebait.
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    Oct 22, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    Is it true that black men are born with criminal records?

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    Oct 22, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    are you more attracted to black men, white men, or asian men?

    what do you value more, intelligence or looks?

    tell me - what scares a black man the most?

    rank the three in order of overall importance:
    rihanna, fried chicken, basketball

    fuck, marry, cliff:

    jennifer hudson
    janet jackson
    pre-crackhead whitney houston
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    Oct 22, 2011 9:31 PM GMT
    @ Hypnotico I'm not verified because I just haven't taken the time to do it. but I promise you by the end of the week. I will be verified.. just because you asked icon_smile.gif

    @GreenHopper. I'm doing great...thanks for asking.

    @Import
    1. Perhaps it seems that way but many blacks don't blame white people. Most blacks want to take full responsibility for their lives, community and problems but find it difficult it not impossible to end or overcome a powerful system that appears to purposely work against them. According to American capitalism and democratic government... if someone is going to be on top in America, then someone has to be on the bottom. If their is a winner, then there must be a loser. Some Black feel that Whites.. because they make up the majority and have held power in this country the longest and are the wealthiest... are the ones working to keep black people poor and underprivileged. If your serious about know more behind the history of your question, I would seriously suggest reading The Hidden Cost of Being African American: by Thomas M. Shapiro

    .2. Black people have "ashy" or dryer skin because our bodies/skin do not produce as many natural oils as other racial groups. For example, whites generally wash their hair more often than black because their scalp produces oils faster thus making their hair a skin "greaser". However this "ashyness" is not experience by all black people. The better term is "dry skin" instead of "ashy" dry is actually more accurate

    3. black women and wigs and weave. Many black women wear wigs and weave but so do many white, Latino, Italian etc. Hair for women is a sure sign of beauty. Longer hair is simply valued more in American culture
    In my humble opinion... On a personal note: I think some in our country enjoy criticizing black women and making them the butt of the joke because their look, style, names, presentation etc are so different. One assumes that all black women are loud, ghetto, etc. Trust me, black women understand this stereotype and many simple don't care because their focus or concern is not with their critics.

    4. Black women spend money on hair and not bills. Black people are still considered to be of one mind or one people. So it is actually wrong to think or believe that black women spend money or hair products instead of bills. This is simply not true. This is another stereotype and critic of black women. I believe its simply more entertaining to believe this stereotype than to see the boring truth. Its like assume that every gay person is effeminate or HIV+. There nothing particular wrong with being effeminate or HIV+ but it would be wrong to assume this about every gay person just as it would be to assume black women care more about hair than bills

    5. I don't believe there are any stupid questions. Even when a question is asked out of malice, hatred or sarcasm... it moves the conversation forward.. in other words.. once the "stupid" questions are asked... its done and out of the way and then a smarter more valuable question can be asked.

    6. I am doing this because I received a series of private messages all asking basically the same thing. I also want to geniully help people move past race so we can all spend more time enjoying life and focusing on other things. In addition to being a Professor, a Diversity Trainer and a Minister, I am asked all kinds of questions about EVERYTHING. My german RJ buddy suggested and dared me to start a forum like this so....I did.

    7I don't claim to represent all black people. Immediately I knew someone would assume that what I was doing. Note, I encouraged other African Americans to participate. The hope is that if you knew that I was not going to be offended then one could ask whatever question they fear might be rude or offensive to blacks... its called a "safe space" smile

    8. Malcolm X is a legitimate and well respected figure in the black community. This does not mean many black people don't consider him controversial. In fact; many black people still do, but we still respect him and he is not considered a nutcase by any means.

    9.Extra Tendon. wow.. your full of questions Import. No, I don't believe Blacks have an extra tendon. Some black people are good at certain sports for perhaps two reasons... 1. They simply work hard and train themselves well...and 2nd ... convenience. Many working class blacks do not or did not have access to tennis courts, polo fields, swimming pools, etc. However, playing basketball and running track require little or no equipment to enjoy yet they still provide some opportunity for advancement. The connection between race and sports can better be understood from studying the history of boxing in America.

    10. Blacks not swimming... its true, many black people do not swim. However a significant number of black people do swim. I was on a swim team as a teenager and I was not the only black person. Perhaps you've heard of Shani Davis of Chicago or my friend Cullen Jones both are recent Olympic competitors in swimming . Jones holds a record in swimming. FYI: Your question is actually based in some black folk lore... there is the long standing notion that blacks are intuitive fearful of water because so many blacks died in the sea during the middle passage... I personally don't believe this but the notion exists.
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    Oct 22, 2011 9:33 PM GMT
    Keith773 saidAsk a black guy ANYTHING YOU WANT
    Why are you black? Were you born that way, or did you decide to be that way later in life?
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    Oct 22, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    @FROSTEDFLAKES Black men and criminal records I can't tell if your question is trying to be funny or intentionally offensive... As I said, no judgment and no accusation of racism.

    No! It is not true that Black men are born with criminal records. No one is ever born with a criminal record. However, some blacks and some white people are born ass holes and unfunny.
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    Oct 22, 2011 9:45 PM GMT
    I've heard many black people complain about a more subtle racism. Do you believe this is true? Have you experienced this? What happened? Have you felt more empowered by Barrack Obama becoming president? Has it changed the landscape for you personally in any noticeable way positive or otherwise?

    Is the rent... in fact... too damn high?
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    Oct 22, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    @closer85
    I am more attracted to shapely guys with muscular/thick legs and ass. I've dated and fucked every type of guy. But I tend to be most drawn to a very specific type of black guy or a specific type of white, asian, or latino guy. Again, I tend to pay more attention to their build than skin color. This is just about pure attraction... not dating or marriage stuff.

    Intelligence or Looks. hmmm in what context? If referring to myself I would say intelligence then looks. I've worked at having both. In a date or partner... both are very important. I would say initially, looks are important but soon after intelligence. For the record, I have never dated a guy who was not both good looking and reasonably intelligent. Confidence and the ability to laugh at me or yourself is also very important to me.

    What scares black men?
    Many things scare black men but from my current research (I happen to be writing a book on the subject) Black men fear being publicly emasculated, humiliated or of not being viewed as a real man. Black men prize their masculinity and manhood in the worst and best ways. However, I can not speak for all black men and I won't try. This is MY opinion.

    1.Basketball,
    2. fried Chicken
    3. Rhianna

    1. Fuck
    2,marry
    3, cliff...what is this referring to ?

    1. Janet Jackson
    2. Jennifer Hudson
    3. Whitney Houston- before drug issues.
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    Oct 22, 2011 10:12 PM GMT
    @ paulflexes. smile. I know your being funny but the answer to your questions are not so obvious.

    True I was born black(a person with dark skin) but later.. perhaps as a child or maybe as a teenager I decided to be black culturally, politically, socially, spiritually etc.

    If you applying the same rationale to gay people.. then all gay people are born "homosexual." (men preferring sexy with other men). but later, when we come out, we "decided" to be "gay" politically, culturally, socially etc. I think you get my meaning.

    The simplest answer is that I am black because my Dad and Mom are black.
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    Oct 22, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    Can black people get sunburnt?
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    Oct 22, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    @mikeinslc
    Subtle racism is a fact of life and is in fact more dangerous and harmful. This is because racist and bigots are more aware of political correctness. No one.. NO ONE ever wants to be labeled a racist... not even a racist. Yes, I have experienced this a lot in my life. The most obvious example of this in the gay community is, the treatment of gay black people in predominately white social environments such as circuit parties and bars. There's a reason you don't see black people at the white party... there simply not welcome. The organizers of these events are not going to say "blacks keep out" They simply create a social environment that makes it impossible for black people or people of color to feel welcome or have fun. From my opinion, subtle racism works at ignoring blacks or latino's in the room/bar/party/restaurant etc. The idea is to prevent any place from being too black, too latino etc. But this is also why subtle racism is so complicated. Why should anyone have to acknowledge the black or latino's in the room at all? They shouldn't. I believe its possible to communicate respect and kindness without saying a word. One's actions or lack or action make subtle racism obvious. This is more obvious in a social environment but its more dangerous in work environments.

    The night Obama became President, I was at a huge election party, nearly everyone at the part was white except for me and one other black guy who I didn't know. When the announcement came across, I slowly moved to a corner and started to quietly cry. The other black guy came to the same corner and we both just stood shoulder to shoulder weeping. Our white friends where celebrating and shouting. When they turned to find us, they saw us in the corner weeping and they instantly knew how meaningful it was for us as black people. The Office of the President represents American power. Most black people secretly believe or fear that they... we had no power in this country, and that we where not wanted. We've had to find for so long just get Americans to stop abusing us so we could live. It was clear to us we weren't really apart of America..not really. Obama becoming president meant that America was truly our home..our country too.

    Now.. that the magic of the election is over. I can say that Obama being president has not changed my life as a black person in any way. I simply feel that American is more my country than I did before 2008.

    YES.. the rent is still too damn highicon_smile.gif That guy is awesome and so funny.
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    Oct 22, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    @Bale02 YES .. oh yes. black people can get sunburned.. and it hurts. Even the darkest of black people can get tanned and sunburned. Its happened to me a few times. Unfortunately, most black people don't know this or they forget so they don't use sunblock when spending lots of time in the sun.
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    Oct 22, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    Keith773 said@Bale02 YES .. oh yes. black people can get sunburned.. and it hurts. Even the darkest of black people can get tanned and sunburned. Its happened to me a few times. Unfortunately, most black people don't know this or they forget so they don't use sunblock when spending lots of time in the sun.


    I've wondered about this too. Thanks for answering!

    Here's my question: A black male intertwined with a white male in a naked wrestling match. Is that not like the hottest thing EVER? icon_wink.gif

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    Oct 22, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    Some potentially trick questions I'll pose to what the OP's thoughts are:

    Why is the theme of "interracial porn" almost always equate to the big muscled/big dick topping a weaker, thinner, smaller dicked white bottom?

    Is the above theming in that porn genre a form of racism?

    (Honestly: I'd love to see a movie where the white and black men embraced as equal lovers, but apparently the market is not driven by such an ideal)...

    Why does it seem that among straight black men, that there is a significant preference for obese white women?
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    Oct 22, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    When I was a kid, black people had ordinary names like everyone else. I went to school with black kids named Clifford and Dwight and Mary. These days there are a number of names that are unique to the black community, like LeBron, Latrelle, Shaniqua, Quantell, Devonte, etc.

    Where did those names come from? And, what gave rise to this culturally separate naming phenomenon?
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    Oct 23, 2011 12:20 AM GMT
    Keith773 said@ paulflexes. smile. I know your being funny but the answer to your questions are not so obvious.

    True I was born black(a person with dark skin) but later.. perhaps as a child or maybe as a teenager I decided to be black culturally, politically, socially, spiritually etc.

    If you applying the same rationale to gay people.. then all gay people are born "homosexual." (men preferring sexy with other men). but later, when we come out, we "decided" to be "gay" politically, culturally, socially etc. I think you get my meaning.

    The simplest answer is that I am black because my Dad and Mom are black.
    That took way too much thought.
    Just a simple LOL woulda been sufficient. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 23, 2011 12:31 AM GMT
    @yourname2000 I can't tell you how many times I've encountered this. Your question and interest in black men represent a series of complicated issues for black gay men. I'll try to do this as quickly and as objectively as possible.

    So here's my suggestion. If you see a hottie who's black, go ahead and complement his body, his smile, his voice. But leave all complements that refer to race out. Obviously your attracted to black men so there's no need to state the obvious here. Black guys hate it when you make them feel like a special project or experiment.. saying "I've never been with a black guy before" makes it sound like we're an alien or that we so strange to you. Also, saying. I've always wanted to get fucked by a black guy is also offensive.. again... as if sex with us is like fucking an alien.

    Never assume that the hot, masculine black guy your talking too is a top. Many masculine black bottoms know that white guys assume that all black guys only like to top.. not true. This does not apply to me icon_smile.gif

    Humor is a great way to break through the uber masculine image... believe me its real but its also just an image. Most black develop their masculine personae from the culture as children so for most it not act but again.. it does mean they won't act like a big ole girl sometimes.

    If you go to an all black club or bar and you try to hit on a black guy your probably going to get shot down. The assumption is that black people go to black clubs to meet other black people. So white people are simply tolerated most times. This is wrong but its also reality. If they approach you first then your good and he's into you. If you go to a black club to meet black guys, go with at least one other black friend. hanging out with a black friend says that your not out just for sex..

    If your in an all white club or bar you'll have a much better chance of talking to him and getting him in the sack. You can probably assume that any black guy in an predominantly white club or bar is also open to meeting white guys. However never assume that just because a black guy is in predominantly white club or bar that he will automatically talk to YOU. I personally hate it when a white guy assume that just because he is attracted to me that he is doing me a favor and so I must do whatever he wants.. trust this happens so don't be that guy.

    Never ever fake or exaggerate an interest in black culture. In other words, DON'T ACT LIKE A WIGGER.. unless that is really who you are.

    Remember black guys respect and like coolness and masculinity. Top or bottom... be cool, confident and masculine. Most black don't want to date or fuck just any white guy.. they want to believe the white they are with is special.. is cooler than most white guys, hotter etc.. not a "reject" or a white guy who has stop trying to be fit, neat and "together"

    Appear to be selective. This means don't talk about all the other black guys you've been with. Telling us about all the other black guys you know, does not tell us your comfortable with black guys, its translate into you acting like a slut and wanting to fuck every black guy. Even if all you want to do is get laid for the night, make the black guy your with feel like you want to be with him, and only him so ignore or don't check out the other black guys walking by... remember be cool.

    If you hit on a black guy in a white club and he's not talking back to you a lot. .don't assume he's not interested.. he may just be trying to read your level of interest.

    The best way to show how cool you are is to be impressive.. not with money, but your comfort level and confidence. Remember some black guys expect most white guys to reject them socially, this is different from having sex with us.. so being comfortable in a social setting tells us.. them that your not ashamed to be seen with us.. them.

    Last thing..... there is a "difference" between black guys who date black guys and black guys who are open to dating white guys. I would image that you would not encounter the black guys who only date black guys to often... they would not make themselves accessible to you so just know that some black guys are adamant about NOT dating or fucking white guys. Just except and move on to the next hottie.

    Last thing... I've dealt with this very issue every sense I came out and started dating. Your gut seems to be guiding you in the right direction. Most black guys hate the idea of being objectified or being seen as just a black dildo or some black porno fantasy. The only black gay image used in gay culture is the dominant big dick guy or some bitchy mouth queen. We're never allowed to be the boy-next-door, all-american, the nerd, the professional, the standard or the norm. always a specialty, a niche or fetish. The secret fear is that if a white guy complements our blackness, our dick, our lips etc..then your not really interested in us.. just our blackness and sex. We know that we are more than just black skin and a dick. We hope that you know that too. I know it sounds strange to not want to be thought of just a sexual object but if its just about sex, then when the next black guy with a bigger dick, or better body walks by they..we are dumped and left alone. Many black guys are open to dating, fucking, marrying a white guy, what we HATE is the idea that we are some fetish or experiment. Many white guys don't know this but the truth is many black guys have white guys hitting on them or having sex with them but they would never date or be seen in public with them. Its so offensive to us and it hurts to think that our dicks and bodies are good enough for you but our minds, love and personality are not good enough for you and your friends.

    Remember to have fun
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    Oct 23, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    @ jpBITCHva

    No we don't taste like chocolate but sometimes I wish we did.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 23, 2011 12:45 AM GMT
    Keith - have you noticed certain black RJ member(s) a) who always bring up racial issues, even with that was not specifically being discussed, b) act as a victim, claiming they cannot be successful because the cards are stacked against them too much, and c) claim whites cannot know the black experience, yet are fully cognizant of how "easy" whites have it, i.e. the "white privilege".

    If you have noticed this, what is your opinion of it?
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    Oct 23, 2011 12:52 AM GMT
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    Smile.. yes... a hot white guy wrestling with a hot black guy... very hoticon_lol.gif
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    Oct 23, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
    @alphatrigger The theme of most interracial porn is not about equality or love, but inequality and simple fucking.. not love, not romance and certainly not marriage, just sex . Its all one dimensional in the worst way... with black men playing the ultimate top to the weaker white bottom. Of course you and I both know this is a lie but for many outside of the black community this is how they want to think black people have sex with white people...rough, almost violent and always with the black guy as the top. The reason you see this is the same reason you don't see black men on the cover of gay magazines or mainstream gay sites. Black men are for many a niche, a specialty and a fetish. Its easier to view them as just a big black penis instead of a real person. Black men or latino's for that matter are never considered the standard, never all-american, never the boy-next-door or a boyfriend...these are the type of guys you kiss, and date and take home to momma....with porn.. the black guy is the guy fucking you hard and quick in the alley... a secret. This is the dynamic in interracial porn that makes blacks so attractive as the top and white twink as the ideal bottoms or opposite of black men.

    I agree with you, there should be more mutual embrace... but Porn, is like TV, movies and art ..it has a way of reflecting reality and shaping it at the same time. What makes the dominant black top fucking the weaker thin, white bottom so common is that in the gay community we use different signals to represent dominance vs passiveness. Its when we mistake every short thin feminine small dicked guy for a bottom and every tall, masculine big dicked guy as the top. porn is suppose to be easy and obvious. I know you get my meaning. Sexually, black men appear to have a lock or a perceived mastery of sex and fucking.. for some the stereotype of black men as dominant, rough big dicked tops is a major turn on..the only turn on... thus 1 dimensional guys whose only attribute is a big hard dick and the example of the ultimate top.. its also the only way most want to see black men. So yes, its a form of racist.. but its also porn... a fantasy. thus not real... a fact many seem to forget when interacting with black people in real life. I know some black people who make the mistake of assuming that every white guy interested in black guys wants to be the bottom. This is so wrong and built upon the ugly big dick black guy stereotype.

    Your right again, when people are looking at porn, their looking to get off, not analyze racial dynamics. The porn market creates this type of porn because its what gets people off. A porn fantasy is not suppose to be offensive or racist, the goal is to get you off... that's it. But it also has a strange way of mirroring the racial problems in the gay community and in our country. I don't get to watch porn that much but ; I also find offensive the scenarios black guys are put into in black or interracial porn. The black guys is always a thug, a street kid, some big dominant black daddy... that's the fantasy many have about black men.. while in all white porn, their situated in romantic relationships, at the office, a ski trip, restaurants, at the gym.. all the places white people apparently don't want to see black people. This is my opinion. Now the internet is huge so I'm sure you'll easily find exceptions to all of this but you have pointed out an obvious theme in interracial porn

    As for Black men and fat white women. ok.. I'll just say it... this is a class dynamic. A wealthy black guy would never hook up or marry an over weight white women... just think about any black ball player with a white wife or entertainer... these women are hot, fit, models etc. The idea that all black men or even some black men want to hook up with a fat white women is just
    crazy. Their with a fat white women because that all they could get. If they could fuck Heidi Klum or Elin (Tigers ex) they would.

    On a completely different subject... YOU HAVE A HUGE PENIS... DAMN!