Meeting people in a new city.

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    Oct 22, 2011 10:49 PM GMT
    Just moved to Scottsdale a couple months ago and came out right before then so a complete new start for me. Hooked up with a few guys before I came out but never dated anyone or really hung out with gay guys as friends. Don't know anyone in my new city so feel a little uncomfortable just going to a bar by myself and trying to butt into people's conversations.

    Tried a bunch of online social networking things (grindr, adam4adam, realjock) but it seems like the majority of the people are just looking for hookups, even the ones who say they want friends. Any guys have any advice on some ways to meet some good, gay friends.

    I know this is kind of vague, so if you have any questions feel free to ask on here and I will answer as soon as I see them.
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    Oct 23, 2011 3:30 AM GMT
    http://www.meetup.com/opendoorsaz/members/
  • waccamatt

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    Oct 23, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    Phoenix is a big city - get involved in some organizations that fit your interests - you'll be much more likely to make friends in settings like that as opposed to in a bar.
  • Gymbear45

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    Oct 23, 2011 7:15 AM GMT
    I agree with waccamutt...see if Scottsdale has any community groups that do the things you like. I live in Calgary, Alberta and there is everything from GLBT rodeo dances to bowling to drag charites.
    One other thing to suggest, is there something you've wanted to try but haven't yet? Seems like you are starting a new, clean slate in your life. Try something different...for me, I just came from a bodybuilding competiton and have a program and gym all prepped for Monday morning to start a physical transformation!
    All the best to you!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 23, 2011 9:53 AM GMT
    All the cool kids in Scottsdale go to B.S. West. It's an all audiences, very gay friendly type of joint...


    Avoid Thursdays. Thursdays tend to be douchey there in my opinion. (Okay, so SCOTTSDALE is douchey... but it leaks into BS West on Thursdays for some reason)
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    Oct 23, 2011 10:18 AM GMT
    Good luck to you. I live in scottsdale, but I'm too old to be able to tell you where to go..haha. Since moving to Scottsdale myself a couple of months ago (from elsewhere in the Phoenix area), I have found the gay population to be very high.
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    Oct 23, 2011 11:56 AM GMT
    Try okcupid? Ive been on it and had some intresting conversations with a few guys. Havent met anyone but if anything the convo has been. Maybe it will lead somewhere. But yeah.. Grindr and the sort seem to be just for hooking up and I completely feel you there... I'm looking for a hell of a lot more than a fling.
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    Oct 24, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    waccamatt saidPhoenix is a big city - get involved in some organizations that fit your interests - you'll be much more likely to make friends in settings like that as opposed to in a bar.


    This here.
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    Oct 25, 2011 5:08 AM GMT
    I lived in Phoenix for 19 years, in the Ahwatukee foothills area. There really isn't a set "gay scene" in Phoenix. The gay bars are pretty much one one street just north-central of downtown Phoenix (if I remember correctly).

    Anyways, the best way to meet people is to get involved in some sort of group activity, and even better if its focus isn't on homosexuality. Social networking is the key to meeting new people, even gay people. You don't have to be friends with a gay person to meet other gay people. Go out there and try and join a club and meet other open-minded individuals, and the gay friends will come!
  • cookingitswee...

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    Oct 26, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    I'm moving to Boston from Budd Lake, NJ in two weeks and am doing the same thing. I am both excited and nervous to be living in a new place for the first time of my life.