Some mother fuckas just need to stay they ass home...

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 23, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    So, I went on a date? (well, call it 2 guys meeting up) with someone last night who was wanting to meet up with me for a little while. In the past, I was a bit ambivalent about going forward with it for a couple of reasons. But few months passed by and I gave it a shot.

    So I meet the guy at a local bar. Already when I walked in I kind of seen he wasn't exactly my type, but I tried to just have fun anyway. So we go to the dancefloor area and I ask, so do you dance? "Naaah" he replies. okaaaay...

    Actually, before that...I ask him, "would you like something to drink?" he replies, "no I don't drink". I'm like, ugh...okay one of those. They come out to a free bar and then don't buy shit.

    Anyway, we're in the area of the dancefloor. 15 minutes goes by and we chat a little bit. And I mean a little bit. Most of the time was spent sitting in a dark, creepy corner watching other hoes on the dancefloor do their thing and him saying stuff like, "ooo, that White boy has rhythm."

    I was almost considering taking him elsewhere and maybe seeing if we could chill more but that fell flat almost immediately. I thought to myself, why the hell did you invite me to a bar if you aren't going to drink and just watch other people dance. Dammit, I ain't drive all the way downtown just to damn people watch. This ain't no damn Times Square!. BORING!

    Needless to say, I told him I had to get going and pretty much left the building. It was NOTHING like my date last weekend which I pretty much accepted the fact that this weekend was not going to be anywhere near as fun as last weekend. But then after that I met up with some friends and came home at 7 am!!!!
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 23, 2011 3:55 AM GMT
    On the contrary. He needs to get out more.


    He's just shy.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 23, 2011 3:59 AM GMT
    If not drinking is a deal breaker maybe it's not he who has a problem? I'm not saying you're an alcoholic, OP, I'm saying that calling somebody who abstains "one of those" isn't the best reflection on you. Drinking isn't essential for good times. But I'm with you 100% on the dancing part. If meeting up with this guy was to include that he definitely flaked on you and I'd be pissed too.

    Sounds like one of those situations where the voices of reason and caution were ignored, but hey, we've ALL had that situation happen. Just chalk it up and write the guy off.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 23, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    To me it seems like it would be bad practice to ditch your client in the middle of a date he's paying for, amirite?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 23, 2011 4:02 AM GMT
    MuslNorganLikr saidIf not drinking is a deal breaker maybe it's not he who has a problem?


    If you don't want to drink, then don't invite me out to a bar. Invite me to the park. On top of that, he wasn't even driving! Even if he was driving, a man can have 1 or 2 beers and still be within legal limits.

    You don't go to the gym to watch people work out and drink gatorade. You go to workout and drink gatorade. A bar is to drink/dance like a gym is to workout/drink.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 23, 2011 4:03 AM GMT
    Or maybe there should have been more communication prior to the date. Ya know.. if he said he was taking you to a bar/club, then there should have been some dialogue regarding the type of music/dancing the both of you like. Then you would have known that he doesn't dance.

    Also, bars/clubs are the worst places for a date. Maybe dinner first, where you guys can talk and get to know each other first. And then hit the bars after. But if the bar is the only plan for the night, then it sounds more like you guys were just hanging out and killing time.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 24, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
    I can kind of feel your frustration but people can go to bars and have fun without drinking alcohol. I do slightly agree with the dance part. No point in going to a club if your just going to sit around but like another comment said, he might have been shy. I remember when I went to my first club, I was shy and hesitant to dance but I ended up dancing and had fun and I was sober so yeah.

    And yeah, if this really was intended to be a date, bars/clubs aren't the best place to have them...