Fellow 'Out' Lifters in College

  • NerdLifter

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    Oct 23, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
    Sort of hit me while in the weight room yesterday: wait, how come I've not met a single out-of-the-closet lifter on campus? Am I the only one on a campus population of 35,000+?

    I've been lifting for over two years at the campus gym but honestly never thought about it cause I go to lift, not to socialize. But it got me thinking, and I realized out of all the out-gay men I've met in college, none of them lift or even know how.

    Anyone else feel/felt like they were in a similar situation in college? Discuss.
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    Oct 23, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    I'm in that situation right now. My university is pretty huge, but the gay population - or at least the out population - doesn't really lift. Up until recently, the gay guys who lifted seriously were me, my two workout buddies, my ex fuck buddy and my ex boyfriend. That was basically it.

    Now it's just me and my 2 workout buddies since the exes moved away lol. The other gay guys are either very closeted or don't work out.
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    I think it might be the fact they might be thinking eh... Im not here to socialize in the gym but yeah I can understand how in a world of that many people it could be unreal to met one person at least. I think alot of it has to do with many don't work out and the ones that do well its usually in the cardio room. I see lots of gay guys on my campus, thin guys, but going town on the treadmil like it was a runway at the fashion show. Really lol... not many weight lifters and the ones that do are athletes so that makes a difference. My school is also only about 3K people with a girl to guy ratio of 3:1. The guys pretty much already know each other. Good luck.
  • tautomer

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    Oct 23, 2011 7:13 PM GMT
    My school is about 24k, and it seems like nearly all of the out guys that I have encounter (mind you, not many because I have only been here for about 1.5 months now), don't work out. I did meet one or two, but they only do cardio, or "lift" to get eye candy, and they weren't desirable at all.

    I'm sure there in there, they have to be, but there's no active way to really find them. I have thought of wearing my "love = love" shirt that more or less says I'm gay while I lift to see if that does anything, but I have a feeling that might cause more problems then anything else so I haven't done that.

    Maybe I could get a rainbow bracelet or something. I don't know. It seems like at least here, a lot of the "hot" or "good" gay guys that do go to the gym simply just don't announce their presence.
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    Oct 23, 2011 7:16 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidI'm in that situation right now. My university is pretty huge, but the gay population - or at least the out population - doesn't really lift. Up until recently, the gay guys who lifted seriously were me, my two workout buddies, my ex fuck buddy and my ex boyfriend. That was basically it.

    Now it's just me and my 2 workout buddies since the exes moved away lol. The other gay guys are either very closeted or don't work out.

    How do you know? Do you know well all the guys who lift at least fairly seriously. Could there be some not very closeted, just not wearing their sexuality on their sleeve?
  • needleninja

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    Oct 23, 2011 7:24 PM GMT
    i actully did do lifting a bit last semester, and i have noticed that many of the gay guys dont even go to the fitness center. i havnt been able to go due to a lot of time being taken from college and the fact that im working on a project right now.
  • Spiritreaver

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    Oct 23, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    tautomer4314 saidMaybe I could get a rainbow bracelet or something. I don't know. It seems like at least here, a lot of the "hot" or "good" gay guys that do go to the gym simply just don't announce their presence.
    Heh, I thought about doing the rainbow bracelet things once as well. I wear my Google pride shirt around campus now and again, but it doesn't seem to have helped.

    Same situation here though. I've met one other guy from my school's gym who was out and lifted. Then he cut his membership. I'm pretty much the only guy who's out that lifts, the other gays I see pretty much only do cardio, with the exception of one guy who wanted me to train him, he lasted like a day. I think he honestly thought it was going to be a date.

    But it's whatever, I'm not looking to pick anyone up at the gym. Just there to get some progress done. It's like work to me.
  • NerdLifter

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    Oct 23, 2011 8:35 PM GMT
    Spiritreaver said
    tautomer4314 saidMaybe I could get a rainbow bracelet or something. I don't know. It seems like at least here, a lot of the "hot" or "good" gay guys that do go to the gym simply just don't announce their presence.
    the other gays I see pretty much only do cardio, with the exception of one guy who wanted me to train him, he lasted like a day. I think he honestly thought it was going to be a date.

    I had a similar experience icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 24, 2011 12:05 PM GMT
    socalfitness said
    Larkin_PLR saidI'm in that situation right now. My university is pretty huge, but the gay population - or at least the out population - doesn't really lift. Up until recently, the gay guys who lifted seriously were me, my two workout buddies, my ex fuck buddy and my ex boyfriend. That was basically it.

    Now it's just me and my 2 workout buddies since the exes moved away lol. The other gay guys are either very closeted or don't work out.

    How do you know? Do you know well all the guys who lift at least fairly seriously. Could there be some not very closeted, just not wearing their sexuality on their sleeve?


    The gay community is pretty tightly knit in my town... too tightly. I even know most of the guys who are "not in the scene" or whatever. But yeah I know all the guys who lift fairly seriously, gay and straight, (who aren't 19 year old frat guys).

    There just isn't a culture here of weight lifting among the gays.
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    Oct 24, 2011 12:20 PM GMT
    www.BodyBuilding.com is a pretty serious site, and there is a gay thread in their "Personals" discussion forum.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 24, 2011 12:31 PM GMT
    I attended a small christian private liberal arts college (note the "christian and liberal in the same sentence..lol) Something like that would have been
    enough to almost have you kicked out. Fast forward 15 years and I know there is much more flexibility along those lines. I know some younger graduates that were very out, one of whom is very much into fitness (and was when attending that college).
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    Oct 24, 2011 12:32 PM GMT
    Do the other lifters know you're "out?"
    You say you just go to the gym to workout and not to socialize. Maybe the other "out" lifters have the same internalized homophobia and that's why you don't notice them...because they don't notice you.
  • vintovka

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    Oct 24, 2011 12:51 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidDo the other lifters know you're "out?"
    You say you just go to the gym to workout and not to socialize. Maybe the other "out" lifters have the same internalized homophobia and that's why you don't notice them...because they don't notice you.


    +1 ^^^^

    Also, what is the percentage of people who lift on campus? The school I go to has about 25,000 students between grads and undergrads, but I think probably no more than 500 people use the freeweight section of the gym (where the "serious" lifting happens) and that may be a high number. If that's correct then multiply that by the percentage of gay people (and I assume we're talking men here) on campus so 35,000 (.5) male, (.1) gay (.02) lifters = 35gay guys who lift (assuming that the percentage of lifters is even spread out in the gay and straight population). Out of this you will be lucky to find 1 or 2 who are out in their daily lives and of those probably none are throwing their orientation out publicly at the weight room. Try posting an ad someplace maybe (like craigslist).
  • gumbosolo

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    Oct 24, 2011 1:38 PM GMT
    Three years ago when I graduated from college I had just started lifting. I was in the weight room a good bit before that but stuck to body weight exercises in the mat area for the most part. I was recently out at the time and still had a pretty negative vibe about athletes, who were the people I'd gotten the most trouble from in high school. Once I realized what a stupid reason that was to forego an entire range of exercises, though, I started spending more time there and found a whole gaggle of gays I hadn't met before. Granted most of them weren't students - Tulane's gym is one of the best in New Orleans and lots of people on staff or in the community work out there. Anyway, I imagine there are a lot of guys for whom the high school connotation around lifting is tough to overcome.
  • NerdLifter

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    Oct 24, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    vintovka said
    paulflexes saidDo the other lifters know you're "out?"
    You say you just go to the gym to workout and not to socialize. Maybe the other "out" lifters have the same internalized homophobia and that's why you don't notice them...because they don't notice you.


    +1 ^^^^

    Also, what is the percentage of people who lift on campus? The school I go to has about 25,000 students between grads and undergrads, but I think probably no more than 500 people use the freeweight section of the gym (where the "serious" lifting happens) and that may be a high number. If that's correct then multiply that by the percentage of gay people (and I assume we're talking men here) on campus so 35,000 (.5) male, (.1) gay (.02) lifters = 35gay guys who lift (assuming that the percentage of lifters is even spread out in the gay and straight population). Out of this you will be lucky to find 1 or 2 who are out in their daily lives and of those probably none are throwing their orientation out publicly at the weight room. Try posting an ad someplace maybe (like craigslist).

    To answer both questions, we have one of the best athletic and fitness facilities in the region, and out of 35,000 kids, I would estimate roughly 25-40% of the male population on campus lifts, and a significant number of women lift as well. We have multiple weight rooms located throughout the campus, some of them have multiple floors. Quarter to half of the guys in my Mechanical Engineering classes alone are bodybuilders/hardcore lifters.

    To answer Paul, for me, the gym is not a place to pick up dates. I have the mindset, like others, we are there to do quality weight training, not to try to show off or flirt. Nevertheless, I am out in fact to nearly all of the guys in the gym; I do not hide it, and they respect it, they are even a bit curious. So, no, I don't hide it, but all I am saying is it is interesting that all the gay guys I have met from this campus do not lift, and it really didn't hit me until the other day.
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:04 PM GMT
    the only person i know that lifts seriously here in Oklahoma City is Korey up there..lol, everyone else is a runner.