Why are all the young gay guys so stupid

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    Oct 23, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    Not saying I'm a genius but it would be awesome to meet a smart boy my age who was able to hold a good conversation about more than his lats or lady gaga.
    Are there any out there? Are they Extinct? I think In NYC they are.

    Are there any on this site icon_wink.gif

    No one shows me any love because I'm new.
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    Oct 23, 2011 5:31 PM GMT
    You're also invisible... People don't tend to talk very long to someone with a bag on their head icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 23, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidYou're also invisible... People don't tend to talk very long to someone with a bag on their head icon_wink.gif


    or a chip on their shoulder
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    Oct 23, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    tailgater_3 said
    Larkin_PLR saidYou're also invisible... People don't tend to talk very long to someone with a bag on their head icon_wink.gif


    or a chip on their shoulder


    This.
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    Oct 23, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
    All of this coming from a person with no photos.

    Attack Of The Troll II

    jk but if you want a little advice it could be your attitude
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    Oct 23, 2011 5:57 PM GMT
    Edward22 saidAll of this coming from a person with no photos.

    Attack Of The Troll II

    jk but if you want a little advice it could be your attitude


    +1

    To the original poster:
    Your profile is not filled in at all. You have no photos. You have no character or personality whatsoever on this site. Being new has nothing to do with it - we have nothing to go on as far as mutual interests.
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    Oct 23, 2011 5:58 PM GMT
    Haha, relax man. All good things take time. That includes making bonds with people on and off of here, and also finding others to have great conversations with.

    I personally understand what you mean however. On here, I've been looking for sparring buddies and longterm friends in Philadelphia. Yet hardly anyone replies or even says hello.

    Sadly it comes down to people looking at a book's cover first before looking at its contents. Though we all do that. It's human instinct. But don't mind it dude. Just have some patience. If you would like to have a nice conversation, I'm always all ears.
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:00 PM GMT
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  • dancedancekj

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    Oct 23, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    I love talking about lats and Lady Gaga. Mostly on the techniques on how to get bigger latissimus dorsi, and on how Lady Gaga was once Stefani Germanotta and the symbolism of Christian imagery in her music and Gagaism.

    Doesn't mean that I'm stupid and young (although that is all a matter of relativity).

    Focus less on the content, and more on the style of the convo, you may be surprised icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    Good guys can't be found so easily and we all know this to be true. If you're running into too many flakes, you're looking too hard.
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    dancedancekj saidI love talking about lats and Lady Gaga. Mostly on the techniques on how to get bigger latissimus dorsi, and on how Lady Gaga was once Stefani Germanotta and the symbolism of Christian imagery in her music and Gagaism.=
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    Oh shit, the only things I could make sense of was Lady Gaga = Stefani Germanotta. Does this mean I'm stupid?

    But seriously, I'm young but I don't think I'm THAT dumb if I were to flatter myself. Maybe you just need to be more open to others' interests. I wouldn't mind talking to a not-so-smart person who is at least knowledgeable/passionate in their specific interests.
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    Kloud_Kannon saidNot saying I'm a genius but it would be awesome to meet a smart boy my age who was able to hold a good conversation about more than his lats or lady gaga.
    Are there any out there? Are they Extinct? I think In NYC they are.

    Are there any on this site icon_wink.gif

    No one shows me any love because I'm new.


    Well, if you are talking with them at the bar, I don't blame them for talking about that.

    I'm 25 and am only several months away from having my MD, so, by most standards I am "smart" or whatever. However, when I go out, the last thing I wanna do is have a serious conversation. I'm going out to have fun - if I bring up my career and the guy I'm talking to is unable to stop talking about medicine..or decides that it's now a good time to talk about politics, it's game over and I'm moving on. When i go out to a bar or club, I want frivolous, fun and superficial conversation - that's why I go - it's an escape.
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:22 PM GMT
    Kloud_Kannon saidNot saying I'm a genius but it would be awesome to meet a smart boy my age who was able to hold a good conversation about more than his lats or lady gaga.
    Are there any out there? Are they Extinct? I think In NYC they are.

    Are there any on this site icon_wink.gif

    No one shows me any love because I'm new.


    What about just talking about my pecs and Ke$ha?




    And now the fruity oaty bars commercial:
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:24 PM GMT
    nanidesukedo said
    Kloud_Kannon saidNot saying I'm a genius but it would be awesome to meet a smart boy my age who was able to hold a good conversation about more than his lats or lady gaga.
    Are there any out there? Are they Extinct? I think In NYC they are.

    Are there any on this site icon_wink.gif

    No one shows me any love because I'm new.


    Well, if you are talking with them at the bar, I don't blame them for talking about that.

    I'm 25 and am only several months away from having my MD, so, by most standards I am "smart" or whatever. However, when I go out, the last thing I wanna do is have a serious conversation. I'm going out to have fun - if I bring up my career and the guy I'm talking to is unable to stop talking about medicine..or decides that it's now a good time to talk about politics, it's game over and I'm moving on. When i go out to a bar or club, I want frivolous, fun and superficial conversation - that's why I go - it's an escape.


    When I run into a philistine at the bar I go the other way. I don't want to talk about top 40 music or the weather. I want to talk about something substantive, even if it begins with Paula Deen cookbooks it is still going somewhere highly technical and serious.

    We have different styles. I am more of a serious person ... looking for another serious person.
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:25 PM GMT
    idk...but Im honestly starting to think the type of person I've been in search for doesn't exist. Which is quite depressing. Don't fret, its statistically known that males have maturity problems, especially in our 20's. A lot of us (i'd like to think I'm not included in this...however Im still alone, so who knows?) but like I was saying, A lot of us are teenagers in grown men bodies...so thats were the immaturity comes in at...I'm sure you'll find someone. No one shows me any love either, on the internet or otherwise (then again Im a very unique case in a number of ways). Perhaps if you post a pic you'll get more attention.
  • nanidesukedo

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    Oct 23, 2011 6:30 PM GMT
    spaghettimonster said
    nanidesukedo said
    Kloud_Kannon saidNot saying I'm a genius but it would be awesome to meet a smart boy my age who was able to hold a good conversation about more than his lats or lady gaga.
    Are there any out there? Are they Extinct? I think In NYC they are.

    Are there any on this site icon_wink.gif

    No one shows me any love because I'm new.


    Well, if you are talking with them at the bar, I don't blame them for talking about that.

    I'm 25 and am only several months away from having my MD, so, by most standards I am "smart" or whatever. However, when I go out, the last thing I wanna do is have a serious conversation. I'm going out to have fun - if I bring up my career and the guy I'm talking to is unable to stop talking about medicine..or decides that it's now a good time to talk about politics, it's game over and I'm moving on. When i go out to a bar or club, I want frivolous, fun and superficial conversation - that's why I go - it's an escape.


    When I run into a philistine at the bar I go the other way. I don't want to talk about top 40 music or the weather. I want to talk about something substantive, even if it begins with Paula Deen cookbooks it is still going somewhere highly technical and serious.

    We have different styles. I am more of a serious person ... looking for another serious person.



    Paula Deen definitely falls under my frivolous and superficial category...it's fun...If a man talked to me about Paula Deen, I would be all over him - for real. I can talk about Paula Deen and cooking fatty, fried food for ages..lol
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:32 PM GMT
    Wow...seriously OP? Not all young gays are stupid...it just depends who you surround yourself with. As for me, I lost 65 pounds, attending one of the best business schools in the country...does that make me stupid to? Just because I am 20 and gay?

    I REALLY hate people who make judgements on young gays i.e. all twinks are gold diggers with daddy issues. That pisses me off to no end. Honestly, YOU are STUPID for making such a comment for your (most likely) lack of experience with young gay men.

    PS.

    Should probably post a picture before you judge people. Otherwise you are just a damn troll.

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    ^--this is you OP
  • dancedancekj

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    Oct 23, 2011 6:38 PM GMT
    nanidesukedo said

    Paula Deen definitely falls under my frivolous and superficial category...it's fun...If a man talked to me about Paula Deen, I would be all over him - for real. I can talk about Paula Deen and cooking fatty, fried food for ages..lol



    Fuck Paula Deen, she's the worst thing that happened to the Food Network with her branding and fake-ass smile.

    +50 points for sphagettimonster using "phillistine"

    But, my main point is - isn't one man's frivolous (or lowbrow) conversation another man's dissertation?
    If you eliminate conversation based on subject, I think you miss out. I'm more concerned with how the person talks about the subject. One could talk about Ke$ha's role as a horrible model for teenage girls, or that her album photo is so airbrushed she is unrecognizable, or the pervasiveness of autotuning hides the fact that she cannot hold a pitch, or the fact that she has, for some unexplainable reason, pervaded the minds and hearts of gay men everywhere, to the point where she is a guilty pleasure of mine despite knowing that she is the most base example of awful music, rather than the subject itself.
    Or, I could talk to a person who is highly educated and talking about something like genetically modified organisms, and they could be absolutely boring me to death and making all sorts of fallacies in their arguments.

    Talk to me about Ke$ha with her Tik and also Tok instead icon_smile.gif
  • nanidesukedo

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    Oct 23, 2011 6:41 PM GMT
    I'm a firm believer in the phrase: If you take yourself too seriously, no one else will...

    What I look for in a guy is someone who is educated, with goals, and a good job (or on the path to one) who is able to have some fun and separate his work and professional life from his personal and social life! Don't get me wrong...nerd speak is attractive, but if I'm going out to dance, I don't want our pre or post dance conversation to be on when to introduce statins based off CAD equivalents and risk factors.
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:42 PM GMT
    nanidesukedo saidI'm a firm believer in the phrase: If you take yourself too seriously, no one else will...

    What I look for in a guy is someone who is educated, with goals, and a good job (or on the path to one) who is able to have some fun and separate his work and professional life from his personal and social life! Don't get me wrong...nerd speak is attractive, but if I'm going out to dance, I don't want our pre or post dance conversation to be on when to introduce statins based off CAD equivalents and risk factors.


    He's right bub. You have to keep your ego in check or people will label you before you even say hello.
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:44 PM GMT
    "Why are all the young gay guys so stupid"

    Speak for yourself.
    It's not their age; it's YOU.
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:44 PM GMT
    im young and interesting..there
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:46 PM GMT
    dancedancekj said
    nanidesukedo said

    Paula Deen definitely falls under my frivolous and superficial category...it's fun...If a man talked to me about Paula Deen, I would be all over him - for real. I can talk about Paula Deen and cooking fatty, fried food for ages..lol



    Fuck Paula Deen, she's the worst thing that happened to the Food Network with her branding and fake-ass smile.

    +50 points for sphagettimonster using "phillistine"

    But, my main point is - isn't one man's frivolous (or lowbrow) conversation another man's dissertation?
    If you eliminate conversation based on subject, I think you miss out. I'm more concerned with how the person talks about the subject. One could talk about Ke$ha's role as a horrible model for teenage girls, or that her album photo is so airbrushed she is unrecognizable, or the pervasiveness of autotuning hides the fact that she cannot hold a pitch, or the fact that she has, for some unexplainable reason, pervaded the minds and hearts of gay men everywhere, to the point where she is a guilty pleasure of mine despite knowing that she is the most base example of awful music, rather than the subject itself.
    Or, I could talk to a person who is highly educated and talking about something like genetically modified organisms, and they could be absolutely boring me to death and making all sorts of fallacies in their arguments.

    Talk to me about Ke$ha with her Tik and also Tok instead icon_smile.gif


    I think we are all saying the same thing in slightly different words.

    We have all been in a conversation with someone at the bar that goes like "Omgah did you see her outfit? Total betch!"

    Quite different than a piercing look at pop music stars' pervasive impacts on the youth as "role models" even though they are typically not formally educated (britney,) exhibit flagrant word poverty in songs (christina,) incentivize risky behavior (kesha,) or promote promiscuity as a virtue (gaga.)

    But conversations about hip-hop are the best - someone can impress my pants off if they know who Big L is and/or why Notorious BIG is so superior to Tupac icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    Cash saidhuman-centipede-2-full-sequence-trailer.



    Ba-HAHAHAHAHA! I love how this antagonist from the nasty HUMAN CENTIPEDE 2 film has become the poster boy for "trolls/trolling" icon_twisted.gif

    Funny stuff!
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    Oct 23, 2011 6:54 PM GMT
    They are there... I would just expand your social circle. As my friend quicly realized when he came out, there are many different kinds of gays and how they interact with each other and the world around them. Sound like you just need to meet more like minded ones. Step back and reflect on the situation around you and your friendships. That could be a big part of it.