Cash saidYou are a horrible person if you are considering dating her because you have some vague desire for attention and think you want to have children and SHE is looking to meet, fall in love and commit to a fulfilling relationship with a man who is into her on every concievable level.
If you are both upfront with one another and COMPLETELY know where you stand - it is fine.
I have known of very few women who really dream of finding a guy who wants them merely for companionship to battle their fears of aging alone and the added benefit of a uterus.
Like most human beings, they generally want to be loved and appreciated as something other than a consolation prize resulting from an empty cookie jar in Gaytown.
I don't like the disclosure process too early on. If I find out she was in a lesbionic relationship for six years it would not bother me in the least. I am very type B about just adapting to changing circumstances.
It's starting out as a mere companionship thing, just to have someone to go out to eat with and someone to buy cupcakes for. I develop feelings really quickly - so the odds are if we spend enough time together it will turn into something, unless she is horribly homophobic (not likely) or racist or one of my other dealbreakers.
I think like most well-educated professional women that are aging and the biological clock is starting to tick (she is a little older than me) they are willing to amend their Prince Charming fantasy into something a little more accessible - someone with their own career, someone supportive, someone willing to stick around and not cheat. I've had a sinking feeling since I hit puberty that I am never going to be anyone's dream-anything, but I could probably make someone pretty happy when they are ready to settle
Sounds like 2 desperate lonely people looking for ANYTHING no matter what if you ask me. If you're gay, why are you dating a woman. You can adopt kids. I think you need a) a bromance and to find friends b) to be up front with this girl... just assuming she might be Type B as well and will be like Yeah ok you used to take a D... NBD.. UN.LIKELY.
The whole situation sounds very bizarre and mildly like you;re just desperate for whatever you can get no matter what form it takes?
Thanks for the implied assertions that I am promiscuous and a bottom. Neither of which are true. But your passive-aggressive attempt to box in sexuality into a 19th century dichotomy of way-gay and totally straight, in an attempt to re-cast my serious inquiry as a ludicrous proposition, is duly noted.
I have had ten years experience of chasing after guys that want nothing to do with me - if I ever see "my type" it is pretty easy to dredge up a memory or two of nothing ever happening the way I wanted it to go, and then I can just go on living with something comfortable I could be happy settling with (assuming the feelings develop and whatnot.)
That's why I am in the "settle now" mode. That and surviving cancer earlier this year - that aged me a lot. Instead of a bunch of degrees on my wall, which mean nothing to anyone including me, I want a bunch of little spaghettimonsters running around to carry on the spaghettimonster name in case I am not so lucky the next time the big C makes an appearance.
And I like naming things. I just named my new coffeepot last night and I am out of things to name until I go buy another appliance.