Any pluses to an out of state relationship...

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    Oct 24, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    Keeping in mind I am LTR and monogomy oriented. Seems I am establishing some good connections with a lot of out of staters. Would not be my ideal, but moving is not an option for me for at least 6 years at best. Just wondering how others have dealt with i.
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    Oct 24, 2011 6:08 AM GMT
    I'm really curious as to what the replies will be like on this thread too. I am just feelin like I am in the same boat...but I am going to make more of an effort to meet the guys in state first haha.
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    Oct 24, 2011 11:58 AM GMT
    A lot of guys replied to the thread about Long Distance Relationships and that may help you.

    My feeling is that yes, it can work and be fulfilling. You just need to be more patient and more secure in yourself and your relationship than you would really need to be if the other person were present. There are going to be miscommunications. There are going to be hurt feelings sometimes. There are going to be really lonely moments when you can't see him. But it can and does work. Among my friends, the relationship I respect the most is between my buddy (who lives here in Florida) and his boyfriend in New York... who started dating my buddy when he lived in New Zealand.

    So yes: it can work and it can be good.
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    Oct 24, 2011 8:14 PM GMT
    Larkin's post is true. If you are patient and secure, long distance relationships can work. It's not easy but if you are like what Larkin said, they help make them successful.

    I hope things work out with you and your special guy.
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    Oct 24, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    you have to be able to communicate and give up your pride/know when to apologize/the basics of all functioning relationships, to a higher degree. It can be stressful being away from them but it's possible.

    Moving must be an option at some point.
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    Oct 25, 2011 4:05 AM GMT
    Thanks guys. I guess another plus is, given all the changes in my life this year, having some alone time to transition out of married life would also be good.

    Larkin - you have a good head on your shoulders my friend.
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    Oct 25, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    Thank you Alexxandro for making me smileicon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 25, 2011 5:06 AM GMT
    I used to look worldwide as well, since I am monogamous relationship oriented. But, I've had a really bad experience with someone who I kept in contact for over a year < the fact is we at least use phone/text/skype each other for at least 3 hours a day > and i personally traveled to toronto to meet him. anyways ever since then I only wanted to look locally.

    Unless you have a lot of cash and time to burn I guess you can try looking worldwide.
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    Oct 25, 2011 5:31 AM GMT
    apisces89 saidI used to look worldwide as well, since I am monogamous relationship oriented. But, I've had a really bad experience with someone who I kept in contact for over a year < the fact is we at least use phone/text/skype each other for at least 3 hours a day > and i personally traveled to toronto to meet him. anyways ever since then I only wanted to look locally.

    Unless you have a lot of cash and time to burn I guess you can try looking worldwide.


    Wow my friend. World wide. That is ambitious. The guy who is ringing my chimes is an hour away by plane, or 5 hours by car. I also have the advantage that I run a global project and can basically work from anywhere, for weeks at time. What keeps me tethered to the LA area is my kids. Can't live away from them.