Older for Younger

  • no1timehookup...

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    Oct 24, 2011 9:04 AM GMT
    Why is it that the older goes after the younger? I'm talking about a big age gap. like late 40s, 50s, 60s year olds are after the 18-30 year olds.. Is it when we get older most still like the young meat, and that most of our taste still stays the same as it did when we were in our 20s and 30s? Every time I'm logged into adam4adam and manhunt it seems all I ever get looking at my profile are people well above my age.. Now that I state a age limit, I don't get as many that send a message, but I get those that continue to stare at my profile every time I log on, and I get creeped out when people do that.. Is this something that most of us have to face when we get up there? I'm in my early 30s and I notice that 35 is pushing it for my taste, but I'm getting close to that age.. I'm fortunate I guess because I still look like Im in my 20s. 27ish...
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    Oct 24, 2011 1:28 PM GMT
    This is why I think the "who viewed me" option is totally stupid. Some people think everyone who views them wants to sex them, or should send them a message, or owes them something for viewing them.

    Sorry dude, but if you're so full of yourself that think everyone who views your profile wants to sex you, maybe you should stay off the internet and away from the public.
  • no1timehookup...

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    Oct 24, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    paulflexes: I agree with the "Who viewed me" option on these sites.. No only people stalk your profile, it also leads into another game. Like we didn't have enough game players, now they have something else to add to it, also as you mentioned too.. It discuss me when logging in the same creep continues to stare, and when you message them to STOP, They continue even more..

    I see the picture of your profile views.. I was referring to adam4adam and manhunt.. Many on here don't look at profiles to see how "Good Looking" you are.. Mainly to see people they chat with on these forums...
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    Oct 24, 2011 2:37 PM GMT
    Sorry....I just had to look....:-)
  • wellwell

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    Oct 24, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    Sorry OP,

    you are no-spring-chicken @ age 31. For those who get creeped-out, RJ provides a blocking service; did you fail to notice / utilize it? After clicking "Block Him" they will no longer appear on your "Who Viewed Me."

    If you are referring to other Web-sights, why bother us here? If you don't want to be seen on other websights, why post a photo? Apparently, you are unable to accept a compliment for-what-it-is.

    Think about this instead:
    Only if you are quite fortunate, will you emulate the "Mature" ones, in terms of age. Then, you will be able to answer your own question . . .


    Every one is welcome to visit my P'file. I have friends of ALL ages; especially, the younger-crowd & I totally Love it !
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 24, 2011 3:08 PM GMT
    no1timehookups saidWhy is it that the older goes after the younger? I'm talking about a big age gap. like late 40s, 50s, 60s year olds are after the 18-30 year olds.. Is it when we get older most still like the young meat, and that most of our taste still stays the same as it did when we were in our 20s and 30s? Every time I'm logged into adam4adam and manhunt it seems all I ever get looking at my profile are people well above my age.. Now that I state a age limit, I don't get as many that send a message, but I get those that continue to stare at my profile every time I log on, and I get creeped out when people do that.. Is this something that most of us have to face when we get up there? I'm in my early 30s and I notice that 35 is pushing it for my taste, but I'm getting close to that age.. I'm fortunate I guess because I still look like Im in my 20s. 27ish...





    I just think you're analyzing it all way too much. First of all, for every older guy who is seemingly chasing after a younger one, you're likely to find a younger guy chasing after an older one. It works both ways. Secondly, a lot of the activity on this site especially, as well as others like Manhunt or Adam4Adam, are guys simply browsing, checking out profiles. That's what a profile is for, is it not? So, I think you are over-analyzing it all a bit more than necessary.
  • no1timehookup...

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    Oct 24, 2011 3:12 PM GMT
    wellwell saidSorry OP,

    you are no-spring-chicken @ age 31. For those who get creeped-out, RJ provides a blocking service; did you fail to notice / utilize it? After clicking "Block Him" they will no longer appear on your "Who Viewed Me."

    If you are referring to other Web-sights, why bother us here? If you don't want to be seen on other websights, why post a photo? Apparently, you are unable to accept a compliment for-what-it-is.

    Think about this instead:
    Only if you are quite fortunate, will you emulate the "Mature" ones, in terms of age. Then, you will be able to answer your own question . . .


    Every one is welcome to visit my P'file. I have friends of ALL ages; especially, the younger-crowd & totally Love it !



    I'm talking about sex, NOT friends.. Obviously you didn't read the whole post, or you would not have mentioned RJ as I was referring to other places..
  • no1timehookup...

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    Oct 24, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidi
    I just think you're analyzing it all way too much. First of all, for every older guy who is seemingly chasing after a younger one, you're likely to find a younger guy chasing after an older one. It works both ways. Secondly, a lot of the activity on this site especially, as well as others like Manhunt or Adam4Adam, are guys simply browsing, checking out profiles. That's what a profile is for, is it not? So, I think you are over-analyzing it all a bit more than necessary.


    Nah the percent of younger guys after older guys is very low compared to vica-versa.. and there's also a BIG percent in alot of cases if the younger guy is after the older guy, usually they want $$, or a sugar daddy to freeload off of.. Sorry but it's true...
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    Oct 24, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    Guess what.. when you're over 40, 50 you are going to be one of those same old "creepy" guys looking at the 18-35 y.o. who disgust you so much now. Why? It's a given in that you already have ingrained age parameters now. They're likely not going to change as you age. They might but it's highly unlikely.
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    Oct 24, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    Spend a bit more time filling out your profile and worry less about who's viewing who.

    I have always dated guys younger than me [by about 6-10 yrs]. Any greater age difference and we don't have much in common other than fitness and the fact we're both dudes.
  • no1timehookup...

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    Oct 24, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    beneful1 saidGuess what.. when you're over 40, 50 you are going to be one of those same old "creepy" guys looking at the 18-35 y.o. who disgust you so much now. Why? It's a given in that you already have ingrained age parameters now. They're likely not going to change as you age. They might but it's highly unlikely.



    That's probably true.. It's a common thing you mentioned.. Nothing new.. btw, not all guys up in age are creepy.. but the ones that act creepy are the guys that are older.. I don't see many young creepy guys, though they do exist
  • wellwell

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    Oct 24, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    OK, so I'll ask a 2nd time:

    If you are referring to other web-sights, why are you bothering us here ??
    Let me get this str8 . . .
    You feel sexually assaulted because an "old guy" visited your p'file,
    on-some-other-sight, multiple times . . .?
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    Oct 24, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    I am 41 and one of the things that shocked the hell out of me was all of the hits I got when I decided to get myself back into circulation and joined gay chat sites . I am not into boys . The thought of being a sugar daddy makes me want to barf . Yet the majority of the hits I got was from younger dudes . My responses to contact from these guys have always been negative and less than encouraging to them . One dude patiently wore me down and I did talk to him and realized that older dudes is where his tastes are and regardless if I accept or reject him , he will find a man like me because thats what does it for him. I am always amazed reading such judging responses by folks on websites to many issues people list . It is like morality is set up with a cookie cutter mentality and it is just not that simple . If you are blessed enough to have a man come across your way that truly interests your mind and fills your heart than that is all that matters regardless of the age or body type . Life is not a vogue runway .
  • no1timehookup...

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    Oct 24, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    wellwell saidOK, so I'll ask a 2nd time:

    If you are referring to other web-sights, why are you bothering us here ??
    Let me get this str8 . . .
    You feel sexually assaulted because an "old guy" visited your p'file,
    on-some-other-sight, multiple times . . .?


    If you're bothered, Please excuse yourself from this topic. I don't recall asking you specifically to join.. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 24, 2011 4:19 PM GMT
    happytomd saidI am 41 and one of the things that shocked the hell out of me was all of the hits I got when I decided to get myself back into circulation and joined gay chat sites . I am not into boys . The thought of being a sugar daddy makes me want to barf . Yet the majority of the hits I got was from younger dudes . My responses to contact from these guys have always been negative and less than encouraging to them . One dude patiently wore me down and I did talk to him and realized that older dudes is where his tastes are and regardless if I accept or reject him , he will find a man like me because thats what does it for him. I am always amazed reading such judging responses by folks on websites to many issues people list . It is like morality is set up with a cookie cutter mentality and it is just not that simple . If you are blessed enough to have a man come across your way that truly interests your mind and fills your heart than that is all that matters regardless of the age or body type . Life is not a vogue runway .






    Yep, same with me, most of the interest is from young guys. One I met in real life was very persistent and communicative and we have been together a year now.
  • wellwell

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    Oct 24, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    Were the questions (4 of them) so complex?
    You are "stumped" already?

    (that makes 6...)
  • no1timehookup...

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    Oct 24, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    wellwell saidWere the questions (4 of them) so complex?
    You are "stumped" already?

    (that makes 6...)



    Nope not at all.. I prefer NOT to answer stupid questions.. Thankyou come again, you know you will. icon_smile.gif winky winky.
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    no1timehookups said
    wellwell saidWere the questions (4 of them) so complex?
    You are "stumped" already?

    (that makes 6...)



    Nope not at all.. I prefer NOT to answer stupid questions.. Thankyou come again, you know you will. icon_smile.gif winky winky.


    Obvious troll is obvious. Dont feed him guys.

    To add to the topic off of what Alpha and HappyTomD said about younger guys going after them, I will say that as a younger guy who likes older, I tend to not go for the guys who prefer to have a younger one. Reason being is I get pigeonheld by my age as opposed to personality. If a guy doesnt mind younger guys but actively goes after mid 30s and such, I tend to find him attractive. Plus, with those guys who always chase after 20 year olds, Im not going to be 20 forever, and they tend to drop guys for younger ones as well.
  • no1timehookup...

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    Oct 24, 2011 5:19 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    no1timehookups said
    wellwell saidWere the questions (4 of them) so complex?
    You are "stumped" already?

    (that makes 6...)



    Nope not at all.. I prefer NOT to answer stupid questions.. Thankyou come again, you know you will. icon_smile.gif winky winky.


    Obvious troll is obvious. Dont feed him guys.

    To add to the topic off of what Alpha and HappyTomD said about younger guys going after them, I will say that as a younger guy who likes older, I tend to not go for the guys who prefer to have a younger one. Reason being is I get pigeonheld by my age as opposed to personality. If a guy doesnt mind younger guys but actively goes after mid 30s and such, I tend to find him attractive. Plus, with those guys who always chase after 20 year olds, Im not going to be 20 forever, and they tend to drop guys for younger ones as well.


    Not a troll at all.. It's true. you are one of the few whom prefers older guys. I go out, I see what goes on in this world. And you all ganging up is not going to change the fact that more older are into younger, than younger into older.
  • Hothouse

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    Oct 24, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    I'm an older gay man.
    I like men, and age isn't a factor for me - a hot man, of any age, is a hot man.
    I'll check out a guy's profile if his picture catches my atttention, or a forum post he made, or if he checked out my profile.
    And, yes, I'll check out the profile of a guy that is half my age.
    It doesn't mean I want to sleep with him, or it could mean that I do - at least in fantasy - but I'm not gonna stalk him or show up on his doorstep - or even send a message to him. I've commented on a lot of guys pics - young and old - it's just a comment - a compliment, and shouldn't be taken as anything more than that. If you're going to put a profile and pic on a site like this, then guys are gonna look at it.
    If I pop up in your "viewed me" list - then take it as a compliment that I was interested in seeing what you had to say, or what pics you posted.
    And, there are "creepy" older men - and there are "creepy" younger men. I've encountered my share of both - and have probably been viewed that way myself. I've received attention from young guys that are into older men, and I've been "creeped out" by a few too - you just can't take this stuff too seriously.
    When a much younger man pays me a compliment or gives me some attention then I've extremely flattered. When a guy my age or older does, it's flattering too.
    I do think that as we get older, we're less inhibited about approaching someone, or initiating contact - so that's why it may seem that older guys will hit up younger guys more often than the other way around. I've also noticed that more older guys will state that they're interested in casual sex - I just think we reach a point where we're just more honest with ourselves. At least, it's just an observation on my part.
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    For the same reason that the sun rise in the east and water runs downhill.

    Because that's the way it is.

    If you don't like it, don't date outside your arbitrarily established age range.

    Next stupid question!
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    Oct 24, 2011 5:53 PM GMT
    I'm 32 and I like to look at guys from 26 to 45. For me it all depends on personality, body type and what they want in life. If a guy is 26 to 32 is attractive, has a pleasant personality and knows what they want and is not into the drama and club scene I will be willing to date them. Now with guys above 32 to 45 I find myself more drawn to them because they already know what they want in life, but they have to be attractive not just with there body but personality. I know some 40 year olds that still think they are in their mid 20's and never had a long term relationship. So I am one of those young guys that like older men to an extent.
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    Oct 24, 2011 6:12 PM GMT
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    Not a troll at all.. It's true. you are one of the few whom prefers older guys. I go out, I see what goes on in this world. And you all ganging up is not going to change the fact that more older are into younger, than younger into older.


    [Citation needed]

    Facts aren't facts without evidence.

    I think we need to explore why you have this opinion..
    The obvious answer is that you are one of these younger guys that is easily irked... You only see one side of this equation because you want to play victim, and obviously you are not an older man (Or all older men, for a more accurate sampling), and cannot see how many younger men are interested.

    Now let's look at why SOME older men are attracted to younger men.
    1) Let's look at attraction from an animal instinct level. In heterosexual attraction, humans typically go for mates with superior genetics, and good health. A young and strong mate would serve best... Why should homosexual mating practices be different?

    2) There's also the opinion that younger = more innocent or impressionable. Now this could be the predatory aspect of it. They want to defile, or to "teach", or to explore uncharted lands... Which, really, isn't that harmful if both parties are willing.

    3) Tight little butt-holes.


    I'd say MY opinion is that some older men continue to go for younger men because they are trained to do so. The younger men are mutually attracted to them a considerable % of the time... So the old man keeps coming back! WHY THE FUCK NOT? It's their ideal sex partner, and they know they can get it! FUCK. Sexual attraction is not rocket science!



    P.S. Your picture and username are so fucking contradictory... I threw up in my mouth a little thinking that you're out in this world making your mark in any way.
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    Oct 24, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    No1timehookup, I am all for your preference for guys your own age . More power to you but your statement that it does not change that it is more older for younger than the other way around is really such bull . The best part of your statements seem to imply that somehow you younger guys are getting victimized by the older creepers . Dude really ? Lmao Maybe you need mommy to patrol your profile for you since another mans attraction seems to make you feel uncomfortable. There are creepers of all age but your idea that most older guys desire younger dudes over guys our own age is such projection on your part .
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    Oct 24, 2011 6:26 PM GMT
    happytomd saidNo1timehookup, I am all for your preference for guys your own age . More power to you but your statement that it does not change that it is more older for younger than the other way around is really such bull . The best part of your statements seem to imply that somehow you younger guys are getting victimized by the older creepers . Dude really ? Lmao Maybe you need mommy to patrol your profile for you since another mans attraction seems to make you feel uncomfortable. There are creepers of all age but your idea that most older guys desire younger dudes over guys our own age is such projection on your part .


    I dont think he said that older guys prefer younger guys, but he said that their are more older guys who exclusively go after guys in their 20s than their are guys in their 20s exclusively going after guys in their 30s and 40s.