why am i single?

  • tomdat2me

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    Oct 26, 2011 12:29 AM GMT
    ok so im 19 basically in the beginning of the prime of my life.
    dont have a hard time gettin numbers when i go out, an am always humble and thank the person that gives me compliments no matter what.
    so everytime i really start talking to a guy it seems like they end up only really wanting one thing and im sure you can guess what that might be.

    dont get me wrong im a guy and i can understand to a certain extent but at the same time im starting to wonder is there anyone out there these days.

    i mean am i not husband material.

    am i maybe presenting myself in the wrong way.

    when i go to gay events im always polite, curteous, and humble.
    i dont talk shit and i try to always be nice.

    where and how can i meet my prince charming because its really starting to hurt my moral( hope i spelled that right) that guys seem to just want to sleep with me. before they even get to know me.

    whats wrong with me?
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    Oct 26, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    19 year olds are not husband material.
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    Oct 26, 2011 1:09 AM GMT
    tomdat2me saidwhere and how can i meet my prince charming because its really starting to hurt my moral( hope i spelled that right) that guys seem to just want to sleep with me. before they even get to know me.


    This may be a part of your problem. There are no Prince Charmings, relationships are challenging, humans can be complex and fickle (one minute he wants you, then the wind changes direction and he doesn't), and there are no fairytales.

    I don't know that one can answer why any one person is single. I know of good guys who are single and some assholes who are in relationships. The best advice I can give is to stop tormenting yourself with the idea that Prince Charming is out there hiding from you, though I realize that is easier said than done.
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    Oct 26, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    you're single because you don't have a bf. deep stuff, i know!
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    Oct 26, 2011 3:27 AM GMT
    When I was 19, I also had similar values as you and similar views of the world.

    So here's what I think.

    You are still young and have alot of time to meet a good guy.

    I partly agree with unfounded7. Humans are fickle and can be unpredictable. It is easy to become jaded and pessimistic about dating and guys in general... but prince charming is out there depending on what your view of a prince charming is.

    What I can say is don't expect to meet a guy who'll take care of you before you know how to take care of yourself. What I mean by taking care of yourself, I mean, for example, you can hold a job, be financially responsible, pay the rent/mortgage, keep a house clean, build and take care of your body (not so much an issue when you're in late teen's and early 20's because your metabolism still remains fast). Basically, build character and develop "class". Thinking back, I did not have this when I was in my late teens (the beginning of the prime of my life as you say) and early 20's, I simply didn't have enough time/experience to achieve all that. Once you achieve some of it, I believe you'll have a much better chance of meeting prince charming. Also by that time, you'll have met enough people that a few prince charming's should pop up.
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    Oct 26, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    Stop worrying about it and enjoy yourself... It'll happen when it happens, most likely when you're least expecting to meet Pr. Charming.
  • jackthejock

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    Oct 26, 2011 7:03 AM GMT
    Do your friends know that you're looking for a boyfriend? Meeting somebody through friends is sometimes the best way to find a guy you're compatible with. I was single for years when I was your age because I wasn't comfortable talking with people I knew about what kind of guy I was interested in and looking for. Once I opened up to a few friends that were also single we started introducing one another to people we thought would be a good match for.
  • theone4u1212

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    Oct 26, 2011 11:59 AM GMT
    I like to be single. I dunno if i ever want a boyfriend
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    Oct 26, 2011 2:49 PM GMT
    tomdat2me saidwhats wrong with me?
    You're not horny enough.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    Come closer and I will let you in on a little secret..........you are 19. You have nothing to worry about.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    because your dramatic, stupid and haven't had enough experience to know better.

    or you could just be really really bad in the sack.
  • tomdat2me

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    Oct 28, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidbecause your dramatic, stupid and haven't had enough experience to know better.

    or you could just be really really bad in the sack.


    thanks tanker you really dont even know me. im not gonna hide behind my computer and be mean to you though. wish nothing but peace love and happiness to fill your heart icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 31, 2011 10:12 AM GMT
    Being polite, humble and courteous doesn't work these days in a gay scene, try to expose yourself a little bit more, wink to the guys while your are rubbing your right nipple and wetting your lips with your tongue. Or if you see a guy you like just approach to him and grab his balls or his ass.... also you can show them your dick as sign of interest, it never fails.

    Don't give up =)