Unsure if I'm ready

  • cookingitswee...

    Posts: 445

    Oct 26, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    Hey guys, as many of you know I am moving to Boston, MA from Budd Lake, NJ and am very excited about moving to the city. I have also got out of a three month relationship a few months ago with a guy who is not right for me. Since then I've been taking a look at what I want. I want a guy who will love me like my ex boyfriend, but also will be there when I need him, unlike my ex. I will not settle for less and there are other things in a man that I now important to me such as he needs to be no older than 35, not come onto other guys, and be caring. I can't wait to move, but am worried that I will not be able to find the right guy out there. I don't wanna sound sad as I am not. Just confused? I feel the type of guy that I want to be with changing. Advice apreciated, thanksicon_biggrin.gif
  • jackthejock

    Posts: 395

    Oct 26, 2011 6:59 AM GMT
    Take some time to enjoy your move and meet new friends outside of the dating scene. Once you've established some roots in your new home it is much easier to find a stable relationship because you're not looking for somebody to be your everything; you're looking for a companion, lover and partner.

    When you do start looking be smart about where you look. Meeting people online can be great or it can be terrible. Look for guys on dating sites where they are looking for a relationship not on hookup sites. Be honest with yourself and the people you go out with, when you're honest it is amazing how much better "luck" you have.
  • cookingitswee...

    Posts: 445

    Oct 27, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    Thanks, you hit the nail on the head. I know I have a lot to do when I move and finding a boyfriend is not number one on my list, while friends are pretty high up there. I don't use hook-up sites, but am on okcupid. Hopefully things go well icon_biggrin.gif