I can't get it .. Explain please ?

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    Oct 26, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    Why i find that its easy for a girl to hook up with another girl or w.e .. i mean why its more acceptable in the community than being gay ? ( man to man )

    and if u gonna ask how did u know ... most of the shows i found .. like 90210 .. when the girl said that there another girl is into her ... they simply said go hook up with her as its normal thing .. and mostly i found its like that in most of the tv shows i saw .. as it was something in girl's life n she should do it .. even here .. girls r normally hooking up together :C

    is that right ? is there something am missing about gays which is not in lesbians ?
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    Oct 26, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    Yes, simply put it is ok for a girl to hook up with a girl because, in the world of straight men, they are doing it for the straight man's pleasure. So that he can see the two of them go at it.

    In the world of man on man sex, it is not for the straight man's pleasure, it is for the gay man's pleasure. Plus, the idea of a man taking in a dick is the "female" role to the straight men, thus being ok with it is being ok with an effeminate male (in his mind) which attacks his masculinity. Its not ok for men to be feminine in this world.
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    Oct 26, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    I think Chainers hit it on the head. It is interesting to me that, in general, our culture spends very little time on the psyche of the straight male and seems to accept a sort of bull-headed macho as the norm. I think the real battle that society as a whole has in accepting gay men is its own lack of willingness to see straight men with any depth. Straight men are so used to assuming their role that they are severly threatened by anything that does not fall in line with it.

    "I gotta be the unchallenged ruler or I am insecure." is one way to put it. Women hooking up does not challenge the straight male role.
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    Oct 28, 2011 12:53 AM GMT
    Aha ... lucky them ... :/
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    Oct 28, 2011 12:56 AM GMT
    Well said Chainers! Also its common for men to fantasise about two women having sex but the thought of two men having sex doesn't rate with women generally I have found.
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    Oct 28, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    Lesbians are no threat to straight men, who, in the pyramid of sexuality, reside at the top. In the minds of straight men (many, not all), gay men pose a challenge to the top of the sexual food chain, thinking they themselves are prime beef. I think it's that simple. Additionally, there's a fetishizing of hot lesbians among straight men imagining that they can please a woman the same way a woman instinctively can (who inherently knows better how to please a woman than does a man). Lastly, I think that a straight guy getting off on hot lesbian action probably wet dreams himself sucking his own cock.
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    Oct 28, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    In a male dominated society, having girl on girl did not detract the 'manliness' of a guy. Whereas man on man, they assumed at least one would have to be the more 'effeminate' role.
    Same how a girl sleeping around is branded negatively but a guy sleeping around is not generally.

    Similarly it's how people call me the "male nurse" but they don't call women the "female nurse" just nurse. It's not like you say male accountant and female accountant, but the reason they say that about nurses is because there is a generalised overview that nursing is mainly a woman's job.

    For crying out loud one of the doctor's I work with is soooo old school he still refers to the nurse as the 'sister'. So when I call the patient into the treatment room they say "oh no I'm waiting for the sister" to which I have to explain the doctor meant me.