When was your last date and how did it go?

  • suedeheadscot

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    Oct 27, 2011 9:01 AM GMT
    My last date was (embarrasingly) a few months ago. Didn't go that well despite the fact I liked the guy. Guess I need to get to get the Gaydar profile and join the social groups again *sigh*....
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    Oct 27, 2011 10:31 AM GMT
    Although my heart is in one place (Yes, a man stole my heart awhile back but doesn't live here and 'time takes time'. I favor him much.), I have gone on way too many dates in the last three to four months to occupy my mind not my dick. Boring, boring, boring. . . Same thing over and over. . . My life is at this point and your life is at this point; they don't and will never intersect.

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    The guy that works 90+ hours a week for health benefits, has a bad back, a father that died of alcoholism, and can't understand why his life is taking him no where.

    The politically affluent guy that travels probably nine months a year for work, is in impeccable shape but has never worn sunscreen and it shows, dresses sharp, great conversationalist, but is still wondering why a guy can't be faithful to him (HINT: he's in love with his career).

    The guy ten years younger that exclaimed he was mature for his age, but had starred in some pornographic movies recently, was trying to 'get famous', and could talk about nothing but cocaine parties and bar hopping. Such a young pup.
  • suedeheadscot

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    Oct 27, 2011 11:21 AM GMT
    ^ All of a sudden I feel better for not landing any dates recently!!!
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    Oct 27, 2011 11:40 AM GMT
    suedeheadscot saidMy last date was (embarrasingly) a few months ago. Didn't go that well despite the fact I liked the guy. Guess I need to get to get the Gaydar profile and join the social groups again *sigh*....


    same here....

    I'm kinda waiting to get excited about dating again; at the moment I just don't really care.
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    Oct 27, 2011 11:56 AM GMT
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  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 27, 2011 12:15 PM GMT
    suedeheadscot saidMy last date was (embarrasingly) a few months ago. Didn't go that well despite the fact I liked the guy. Guess I need to get to get the Gaydar profile and join the social groups again *sigh*....
    ha ha ha humm my last date was two weeks ago. my date went very well. we had a really good time. however, it ended with my date drinking a little to much and me putting them in a cab home. ha ha ha
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    Oct 27, 2011 12:50 PM GMT
    My last date was about a month ago... The date itself was fine, the guy was attractive and engaging and we talked for a long time. Which is why I was so disappointed that I didn't really get any sparks from him... I know what it feels like when I want to date someone and I know it on the first date. If I'm not already imagining the next time I see you while we're on the first date, it's not happening... and I can't explain the magic that really gets me to that place icon_neutral.gif
  • fitartistsf

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    Oct 27, 2011 1:02 PM GMT
    Date? Date? What is this word...Date??? Is it a new word? A new slang word from the streets, or something the youth culture has started saying? Can't say I have ever heard of this word... what does it mean?????
  • shirty

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    Oct 27, 2011 1:06 PM GMT
    Pretty boring. It's come to the point where I purposely schedule things for an hour or two after the said date so I have an escape route. Less awkward.
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    Oct 27, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
    My last date was a WHILE ago. We went to a movie then grabbed a drink. The spark definitely was not there for me. He tried to make out with me in the car so I basically ran away. For me, every time I get to know a guy in a dating fashion, he quickly turns out to be very very different that he first acted.

    Recently this guy that likes me keeps telling me he wants to take me out and make me dinner at his place, etc etc. But I think in reality he is a whore so I am avoiding it. He is hot as hell, but one night will get me to cuddle with him and say he likes me and wants to date me, then the next day will say he in no way wants to settle down. Guys are crazy haha
  • masculumpedes

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    Oct 27, 2011 1:58 PM GMT
    Last weekend....9:00 phone call....11:00 text ....1:00 lunch and an invitation to his next swim meet. He was so handsome in his lime-green shirt...Ok, see you later. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 27, 2011 2:31 PM GMT
    It was four nights ago and it was GREAT! Smart, has a good job (yay!) is good looking, romantic, a bit short compare to me but his looks and intelligence compensate for that and the best part was there was good chemistry between us. The only bad thing is he's too busy. His job have him traveling all over the world and who knows when he'll be back.

    When I met him I introduce myself by shaking his hand but once we got inside he took me by surprise when he hug me and kiss me in the cheek and he notice my reaction but it was OK. Then by the end of the date we kiss and he said "see you again, baby" and off I went.icon_biggrin.gif


    (I Hope I don't get bored with this one.)
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    Oct 27, 2011 2:34 PM GMT
    My last date was over 4 years ago. It resulted in my present partner. I would have to assume the date went well. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 27, 2011 2:36 PM GMT
    Im not sure I would call it a date. I would hardly consider a mens room stall as a date destination. I didnt know his name. He didnt ask mine. Our conversation consisted of him "do you swallow?" Me: "grggrg mmm hmmm grgggrl" Him: Thanks dude that was awesome.

    So I guess it went well.
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    Oct 27, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    My last date was about a month ago. It was more of a blind dinner date and I was clearly unaware of it. It was set up by my friends, who were also there, and it did not go well.

    Long story short... the guy they had attempted to set me up with showed up late and didn't even seem apologetic about it. No biggie I guess. I don't need an explanation since I don't know him. The conversation was back and forth and actually pretty decent. Then the conversation took a 180 and he focused on my background. Again, no biggie. So I tell him I'm blk-mixed with a diverse background and he just nodded and gave me "Ummmhmms" and O.K.'s". What's that about?

    After that quick moment, the conversation went back to normal (I guess). Here's where it goes sour. After all of us eat, laugh and have a few drinks, the guy asks me "Are you enjoying yourself?" to which I reply "Yes, actually." I was enjoying myself. I was in the company of good friends at a nice restaurant and, more importantly, I was in the company if a very attractive man who seemed interested in me. I was interested in him at least. So we get back to talking and then all of a sudden the guy just says "Hey. I think you are really awesome and I dig your style but you're Black and that kinda bothers me."

    WHAT THE FUCK!!! Who says that to someone on a blind dinner date in front of mutual friends? Apparently that guy does. So not only did he say it but he didn't miss a beat in saying it and just continued talking like nothing happened. The table went completely silent. Everyone heard him and we were all just gasping. I excused myself and said I was going out for a cigarette. I don't smoke.

    So I'm outside and my female friend and her husband come out and they are apologizing like crazy to me. Apparently the guy they attempted to hook me up with is a mutual friend/co-worker and they figured I'd be a good match for him and if nothing else maybe just a good friend. I just laughed and said it was ok. It's not their fault. So we all go back inside and you can feel the silence. I sat back down across from my blind date and acted like it wasn't a big deal. From my understanding of the silence, while my female friend, her hubby and myself were outside everyone else at the table had been talking about the comment he had made. So we come back in and it's just quiet til someone breaks the ice and we everyone goes back to a more relaxed state.

    Well it's getting late and I decide to leave so I pay for my portion. I had a $94 meal and left $50 as a tip. My blind date sees this and then says in a surprising tone "You tip and well?" Again, WHAT THE FUCK!!! Everyone just looks at him again in shock and he finally catches on to what he just said and how he said it and then stands up and apologizes to me. I just smiled and said "It's ok. Not a big deal." and then I just leave.

    By far one of the worst dates I'd ever been on and it reaffirmed why I don't like my friends attempting to match me up. They had good intentions and I'm grateful that they have my interests in mind but that was one date I could've dealt without. We laugh about now.
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    Oct 27, 2011 3:45 PM GMT
    Guy101 said...So we get back to talking and then all of a sudden the guy just says "Hey. I think you are really awesome and I dig your style but you're Black and that kinda bothers me."

    His saying that bothers me, too. As does your leaving a $50 tip on a $96 check! That's over 50% -- I range between 20 & 30%, depending on the service and whether I know the server. Are you like mega-rich?

    Well, back on topic: what an ignorant & offensive thing for him to have said. Were it me (he would have had to say my being White bothers him) I likely would have punched him out. I don't tolerate racial prejudice very well, nor sexual orientation intolerance, either. I'm impressed by your self-restraint.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 27, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidMy last date was about a month ago. It was more of a blind dinner date and I was clearly unaware of it. It was set up by my friends, who were also there, and it did not go well.

    Long story short... the guy they had attempted to set me up with showed up late and didn't even seem apologetic about it. No biggie I guess. I don't need an explanation since I don't know him. The conversation was back and forth and actually pretty decent. Then the conversation took a 180 and he focused on my background. Again, no biggie. So I tell him I'm blk-mixed with a diverse background and he just nodded and gave me "Ummmhmms" and O.K.'s". What's that about?

    After that quick moment, the conversation went back to normal (I guess). Here's where it goes sour. After all of us eat, laugh and have a few drinks, the guy asks me "Are you enjoying yourself?" to which I reply "Yes, actually." I was enjoying myself. I was in the company of good friends at a nice restaurant and, more importantly, I was in the company if a very attractive man who seemed interested in me. I was interested in him at least. So we get back to talking and then all of a sudden the guy just says "Hey. I think you are really awesome and I dig your style but you're Black and that kinda bothers me."

    WHAT THE FUCK!!! Who says that to someone on a blind dinner date in front of mutual friends? Apparently that guy does. So not only did he say it but he didn't miss a beat in saying it and just continued talking like nothing happened. The table went completely silent. Everyone heard him and we were all just gasping. I excused myself and said I was going out for a cigarette. I don't smoke.

    So I'm outside and my female friend and her husband come out and they are apologizing like crazy to me. Apparently the guy they attempted to hook me up with is a mutual friend/co-worker and they figured I'd be a good match for him and if nothing else maybe just a good friend. I just laughed and said it was ok. It's not their fault. So we all go back inside and you can feel the silence. I sat back down across from my blind date and acted like it wasn't a big deal. From my understanding of the silence, while my female friend, her hubby and myself were outside everyone else at the table had been talking about the comment he had made. So we come back in and it's just quiet til someone breaks the ice and we everyone goes back to a more relaxed state.

    Well it's getting late and I decide to leave so I pay for my portion. I had a $94 meal and left $50 as a tip. My blind date sees this and then says in a surprising tone "You tip and well?" Again, WHAT THE FUCK!!! Everyone just looks at him again in shock and he finally catches on to what he just said and how he said it and then stands up and apologizes to me. I just smiled and said "It's ok. Not a big deal." and then I just leave.

    By far one of the worst dates I'd ever been on and it reaffirmed why I don't like my friends attempting to match me up. They had good intentions and I'm grateful that they have my interests in mind but that was one date I could've dealt without. We laugh about now.
    holly shit dude. how the hell did you not cuss his ass out. dude, i would have rip him a brand new ass hole
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    Oct 27, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    I can't say I remember the last time I went on a real date. I guess it was back in mid august and it went pretty well until the guy told me that I wasn't really worth his time to date, but we could still be friends.

    Guy101: I am very sorry you had to deal with that guy at all honestly. It hurts my heart to see things like that going on :/
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    Oct 27, 2011 5:10 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidMy last date was about a month ago. It was more of a blind dinner date and I was clearly unaware of it. It was set up by my friends, who were also there, and it did not go well.

    Long story short... the guy they had attempted to set me up with showed up late and didn't even seem apologetic about it. No biggie I guess. I don't need an explanation since I don't know him. The conversation was back and forth and actually pretty decent. Then the conversation took a 180 and he focused on my background. Again, no biggie. So I tell him I'm blk-mixed with a diverse background and he just nodded and gave me "Ummmhmms" and O.K.'s". What's that about?

    After that quick moment, the conversation went back to normal (I guess). Here's where it goes sour. After all of us eat, laugh and have a few drinks, the guy asks me "Are you enjoying yourself?" to which I reply "Yes, actually." I was enjoying myself. I was in the company of good friends at a nice restaurant and, more importantly, I was in the company if a very attractive man who seemed interested in me. I was interested in him at least. So we get back to talking and then all of a sudden the guy just says "Hey. I think you are really awesome and I dig your style but you're Black and that kinda bothers me."

    WHAT THE FUCK!!! Who says that to someone on a blind dinner date in front of mutual friends? Apparently that guy does. So not only did he say it but he didn't miss a beat in saying it and just continued talking like nothing happened. The table went completely silent. Everyone heard him and we were all just gasping. I excused myself and said I was going out for a cigarette. I don't smoke.

    So I'm outside and my female friend and her husband come out and they are apologizing like crazy to me. Apparently the guy they attempted to hook me up with is a mutual friend/co-worker and they figured I'd be a good match for him and if nothing else maybe just a good friend. I just laughed and said it was ok. It's not their fault. So we all go back inside and you can feel the silence. I sat back down across from my blind date and acted like it wasn't a big deal. From my understanding of the silence, while my female friend, her hubby and myself were outside everyone else at the table had been talking about the comment he had made. So we come back in and it's just quiet til someone breaks the ice and we everyone goes back to a more relaxed state.

    Well it's getting late and I decide to leave so I pay for my portion. I had a $94 meal and left $50 as a tip. My blind date sees this and then says in a surprising tone "You tip and well?" Again, WHAT THE FUCK!!! Everyone just looks at him again in shock and he finally catches on to what he just said and how he said it and then stands up and apologizes to me. I just smiled and said "It's ok. Not a big deal." and then I just leave.

    By far one of the worst dates I'd ever been on and it reaffirmed why I don't like my friends attempting to match me up. They had good intentions and I'm grateful that they have my interests in mind but that was one date I could've dealt without. We laugh about now.

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  • mv03

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    Oct 27, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    Years ago. It was just alright.
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    Oct 27, 2011 5:43 PM GMT


    It was a few months ago, and I wouldn't consider it a date... We hung out the entire day and we had a great time together... We shopped and had great food.... I only wish we could hang out more often :/
  • NerdLifter

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    Oct 27, 2011 6:06 PM GMT
    I'd rather not go into detail. Suffice to say, this was dude #7 or 8 to vanish into thin air after the date. My track record since I came out hasn't been great. Just gotta put one foot forward, put on your best smile, and keep trying.

  • Oct 27, 2011 6:12 PM GMT
    My last date was supposed to be yesterday, for lunch, after about 8 month break. The guy just didn't show up. And disappeared from the radar, too. WTH?
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    Oct 27, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    About a month ago. We went to grab a drink. We were the same age, he was very attractive. The conversation was decent. He kept getting text messages throughout. After he finished his drink he said he had to step outside to make a quick phone call and he'd be right back. I worked on finishing my drink and asked for the check. After 5 minutes I knew he wasn't coming back. He didn't.

  • jim_sf

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    Oct 27, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidLast night I had a date and I just got home. It lasted about fifteen hours.

    It went pretty well. icon_smile.gif

    I get another one this weekend. Looking forward to it. icon_twisted.gif


    Pfft. Pics or it didn't happen.

    Kidding, of course. Glad it went very well for you!