An emotional moment today during cancer treatment

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    Oct 27, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
    This morning I was taken to my 7 AM radiation treatment by a female friend, giving my partner a break, who could sleep-in (I'm not supposed to drive myself).

    While I was inside the treatment room she was in the lobby, and struck up a conversation with a guy sitting there. Turns out he had driven his sister there, also inside, waiting for her own radiation session following mine.

    He lost his gay partner of 52 years just a few months ago, also to cancer. And he's distraught his sister will also go that way.

    So I return to the lobby, and my friend introduces me to this guy, who already knows I'm gay (she told him). He'd seen my partner on my other daily visits, though not speaking to him, thinking he's my brother until our friend explained.

    And I reassured him his sister is getting the best cancer care in Florida. My partner was cured by this same doctor, and one of our best friends was, too, as I will be cured, as well. And he just hugged me and cried and cried. Well, he IS gay, after all. LOL!

    So kinda an emotional moment, that I certainly wasn't expecting. I'm gonna look for his sister tomorrow morning, and repeat what I said to her brother, to reassure her that she's in the best hands there are. My partner and our friend tell me the brother & sister both look so depressed (I never really noticed them, going directly into my own treatment each morning), that I need to change that. She's gonna be OK, as I will, and she's gotta know that. That is my project for tomorrow (Fri). icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 27, 2011 8:29 PM GMT
    you are very courageous, and i applaud you for giving a little of your courage to those around you who need it. i wish you a happy and full recovery and a lot more years with your partner. xox
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    Oct 27, 2011 8:46 PM GMT
    It's always awesome when you can be a source of strength for someone in a moment like that. Optimism is just as important in the fight as chemo or radiation! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 27, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    Dee_Editor saidyou are very courageous, and i applaud you for giving a little of your courage to those around you who need it. i wish you a happy and full recovery and a lot more years with your partner. xox

    Thank you! The last thing I am is courageous. Our brave servicemen and women serving overseas are courageous, not me.

    What I am is tough, what I have always been. I am no stereotypical gay pansy.

    But oddly, what I have learned since coming out late is that the toughest guys are also gay. Why this is I can't say.

    All I can say is that I lived a life where courage was our standard. I personally awarded many military medals for courage. And I will tell you that the average gay has more courage than most men or women I ever met in uniform.

    Do not underrate yourselves -- you are stronger than you know. And if the Obama DADT repeal is not rescinded by Republicans, you will find gays & lesbians honored disproportionately for military heroism in combat. We are heroes, not homos.
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    Oct 27, 2011 8:58 PM GMT
    Keep that great attitude! You are an example of how we can all touch each other without even thinking about it! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 27, 2011 9:26 PM GMT
    gatorball saidKeep that great attitude! You are an example of how we can all touch each other without even thinking about it! icon_biggrin.gif

    Thank you. Most of the stories I tell here are examples, very little to do about me personally. Who the fuck cares about me? I have no illusions.

    So now I've got this cancer issue. I have every expectation I'll be cured. It has nothing to do about ME, which is my business, not yours.

    Rather, I post here to give information to others, who might face the same thing themselves, or know of other men who will.

    Many guys think a posting here is all about ME, ME, ME. "Me" is near the bottom of my concerns. As it was when I was a US Army Officer. Your duty is to others, never yourself.

    My concern is YOU. As I make clear in every post here.

    I'll either survive this (I think I will), or I won't. Such is life. None of us is gonna live forever. I share what's happening to me so you know, for yourself or for others. Fair enough?
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    Oct 28, 2011 12:39 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidt. We are heroes, not homos.


    Love it. I am totally stealing this. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 28, 2011 10:55 PM GMT
    Art Deco You are a good Man & good things will come your way
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    Oct 28, 2011 11:01 PM GMT
    YOU ARE A SAINT.
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    Oct 28, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    So how did it go today!?! Also what you're doing is paying it forward. It's the simplest way of showing kindness to another person, because you too have received it from someone else. You have a good heart, sir.