CuriouslyBi saidHi Guys.
Okay, so Im strugling a lot with this.
I've been trying to accept the fact that I'm gay, but I just cant seem to do it. I've dissapointed my parents, family etc, even my phyciatrist told me to go sleep with a girl. Not helping, while the phsycologist told me it's okay to be gay though..
Even after JO or random play, I feel fcking guilty,,
So any advice on how to make life easier?
Exactly why do you feel guilty? Religious background? Conservative family upbringing in general? BTW, ditch the shrink you have now and find another that doesn't think heterosexuality is normative (i.e., what you "should be.")
Family expectations, even if they're not fundamentalist nutcases, can be a difficult burden to bear. If your parents are worried about you being gay for non-religious reasons, their anxieties usually center on the following:Fear that you will not be happy due to social stigma or isolation
Most parents want their kids to be happy and satisfied with their lives. They want them to marry, settle down, have families, live in peace. Explain to your parents that this is possible as a gay man, though it is admittedly harder. Explain that progress is being made toward acceptance, and that you will be happier if you feel that they are on your side in pursuing happiness with another man.Fear of AIDS
The gay community does an OK job of educating itself on HIV, but straight people a generation or older, and even some younger, know almost nothing more about it than "gays get it." They think you can get it from kissing, they think you can get it from a sneeze, and they think YOU
are going to get it. Explain to them how it is transmitted, and how you do not engage in any behaviors that will put yourself at risk. http://www.cdc.gov/condomeffectiveness/latex.htm
I came from a very conservative religious background. I had to go through quite a bit of agonizing self-reflection to begin accepting my homosexuality. Even after I consciously chose to be with men, I still had twinges of guilt for years. Nightmares of being dragged to hell, even. Those only go away by steady exposure to gay relationships and self-critical reflection.