Gay men b/w the age of 18-28 post only

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    Oct 28, 2011 2:35 PM GMT
    Who here is b/w 18-28 and has been in a monogamous sexual and loving relationship for over 5 years... and the following must have been done in order to have it considered a relationship:

    - spent time together more often than alone during the time you were "in the relationship"
    - slept over at each other's place at least every week...or moved in together
    - supported each other financially when needed
    - kissed and cuddled frequently
    - when you had sex, it was only with that person (your sexual desires are loyal to that person only).
    - walk around showing each other off as if your partner means the world to you.

    So, anyone under 28, that has experienced
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    Oct 28, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    Mohamed. You have posted SEVERAL threads with similar topics, about frustration, flakes, young people and relationships, etc.

    Sometimes a rut makes one feel hopeless... Don't give in to this feeling.


    Just RELAX. Focus on life, living, bettering yourself. It WILL come! Don't place your bets on every single guy you communicate with. Don't expect change tomorrow, this week, this month. Just hope for the best, expect nothing, take things as they come. Be happy!

    Disclaimer: The advice given is merely an opinion from an unqualified youngster. It is not meant to be taken to heart completely, but merely read and considered.

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    Oct 28, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    I did all of that except the last point. We were very discreet. It was great while it lasted. We were together since I was 20...we broke up 3 years ago and still remain good friends. So yes, young people are into LTR.

    I'm starting to think that you are right at how other people think that it's OK to imposed their lifestyles on others. If that wasn't the case, these men wouldn't be attacking you. It's like you hit a nerve.

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    Oct 28, 2011 3:15 PM GMT
    _Mohamed_ saidWho here is b/w 18-28 and has been in a monogamous sexual and loving relationship for over 5 years... and the following must have been done in order to have it considered a relationship:

    - spent time together more often than alone during the time you were "in the relationship"
    - slept over at each other's place at least every week...or moved in together
    - supported each other financially when needed
    - kissed and cuddled frequently
    - when you had sex, it was only with that person (your sexual desires are loyal to that person only).
    - walk around showing each other off as if your partner means the world to you.

    So, anyone under 28, that has experienced


    Dude just chill out. Nobody wants these things but you and maybe 2% of other guys. When I look at you, I see a lot of myself. I am not used to not getting what I want.

    There are so many things in life that you can just plow your way through them until they change into what you want them to be. But the one thing you will never be able to bend to your will is the gay world. As fucked up as it is, it's not changing anytime soon, and its not going to change for you.
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    Oct 28, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    Well I'm kind of at your cut off, 28 and been in a relationship for coming up 5 years. Before that, I was in a relationship for about 2.5 years from age 18.
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    Oct 28, 2011 3:21 PM GMT
    Even us "old timers" have experienced that in our 20s. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 28, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    I've never been in a relationship with a guy....They all left me at the starting gate.

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    Oct 28, 2011 3:44 PM GMT
    I had all that once, before I was 28. But it only lasted three years so I guess that still makes me an invalid.

    Still holding out for it to happen again too.

    Ps. Considering what's happening in the other thread, YOU KNOW your post is passive-aggressive and that you're not asking an open-ended question in good faith. It is, for you, a rhetorical question and you are looking for answers that you want to see.

    Funny I just repeated my advice from my first post in your other thread. Now where's that tomato???
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    Oct 28, 2011 3:51 PM GMT
    _Mohamed_ saidWho here is b/w 18-28 and has been in a monogamous sexual and loving relationship for over 5 years... and the following must have been done in order to have it considered a relationship:

    - spent time together more often than alone during the time you were "in the relationship"
    - slept over at each other's place at least every week...or moved in together
    - supported each other financially when needed
    - kissed and cuddled frequently
    - when you had sex, it was only with that person (your sexual desires are loyal to that person only).
    - walk around showing each other off as if your partner means the world to you.

    So, anyone under 28, that has experienced


    Before you go asking others of this could you please answer this yourself because I don't think you've even done half of what you are asking others to answer.

    Let it go, Mo. Just breathe :-)

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    Oct 28, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    oh for the love of god icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 28, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidoh for the love of god icon_rolleyes.gif


    +1
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    Much like Selena Gomez' song, "Love You Like a Love Song". I've heard too much of you, you're living in fantasy, and you're too young to get this much attention when you demand it. Damnit, I thought that one was gonna be positive. Grrr.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    Mohamed, am I wrong or you're posting all those topics for others to help you feel miserable about your life?
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    I think that the chance of someone getting into a serious, 5-yr monogamous relationship—gay or straight—at the age of 13 is extremely small. So your low end of 18 years old for this topic is somewhat ridiculous.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidMuch like Selena Gomez' song, "Love You Like a Love Song". I've heard too much of you, you're living in fantasy, and you're too young to get this much attention when you demand it. Damnit, I thought that one was gonna be positive. Grrr.


    and you are the one who determines who gets what attention at what age right?

    fuck off.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    sbstn_frncsk saidMohamed, am I wrong or you're posting all those topics for others to help you feel miserable about your life?


    no.. I am posting these topics becuase I need it to be known within the greater population of the gay community that as a young gay man who is looking for monogamy, I am UNHAPPY with the way things are.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    YOU'RE 18!! You're making your life sound like this is the end all. You have no clue how much your life is gonna change. None. Your ideals, your thoughts, your lives & dislikes are gonna change A LOT. Hell, even the tattoo you have now. You may like it now, but MAYBE in a few years, you will hate it!

    My advice ... GO TO COLLEGE, get a career and live your life for you and no one here on RJ.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:03 PM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidLive the life you want to live. icon_rolleyes.gif


    but I can't, because too many guys are not looking for the same thing.

    is that understandable?
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:05 PM GMT
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    sbstn_frncsk saidMohamed, am I wrong or you're posting all those topics for others to help you feel miserable about your life?


    no.. I am posting these topics becuase I need it to be known within the greater population of the gay community that as a young gay man who is looking for monogamy, I am UNHAPPY with the way things are.


    I'm a bit out of your age range, but yes, I did have all of the things you've listed (and more) for about 6-7 years. Does it help in any way??
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    BrownsTown saidI think that the chance of someone getting into a serious, 5-yr monogamous relationship—gay or straight—at the age of 13 is extremely small. So your low end of 18 years old for this topic is somewhat ridiculous.


    I see what you did there.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:07 PM GMT
    YOU'RE 18!!

    You're making your life sound like this is the end all. You sound like you have no self esteem at all.

    YOU HAVE FREE WILL!

    You have no clue how much your life is gonna change. None. Your ideals, your thoughts, your lives & dislikes are gonna change A LOT. Hell, even the tattoo you have now. You may like it now, but MAYBE in a few years, you will hate it!

    My advice ... GO TO COLLEGE, get a career and live your life for you and no one here on RJ.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:08 PM GMT
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    _Mohamed_ said
    sbstn_frncsk saidMohamed, am I wrong or you're posting all those topics for others to help you feel miserable about your life?


    no.. I am posting these topics becuase I need it to be known within the greater population of the gay community that as a young gay man who is looking for monogamy, I am UNHAPPY with the way things are.


    I'm a bit out of your age range, but yes, I did have all of the things you've listed (and more) for about 6-7 years. Does it help in any way??


    yea.. it does help, because now I have people I can go to for advice.

    If I want to find out how to make a relationship last for 6 to 7 years... who will I go too now?
    you and the others that have posted in here...because I know the advice you will be giving is not to break things apart, but to mend things since we both value long term relationships.


    Well, I don't know if you value that now... but you at least have been there done that.
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidYOU'RE 18!!

    You're making your life sound like this is the end all. You sound like you have no self esteem at all.

    YOU HAVE FREE WILL!

    You have no clue how much your life is gonna change. None. Your ideals, your thoughts, your lives & dislikes are gonna change A LOT. Hell, even the tattoo you have now. You may like it now, but MAYBE in a few years, you will hate it!

    My advice ... GO TO COLLEGE, get a career and live your life for you and no one here on RJ.


    I am in second year university...i'll be out in two years with my degree in forensic toxicology.

    wanna make any more assumptions?
  • SoDakGuy

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    Oct 28, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
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    I give up.

    You can lead a horse to water ...
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    Oct 28, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
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    SoDakGuy saidYOU'RE 18!!

    You're making your life sound like this is the end all. You sound like you have no self esteem at all.

    YOU HAVE FREE WILL!

    You have no clue how much your life is gonna change. None. Your ideals, your thoughts, your lives & dislikes are gonna change A LOT. Hell, even the tattoo you have now. You may like it now, but MAYBE in a few years, you will hate it!

    My advice ... GO TO COLLEGE, get a career and live your life for you and no one here on RJ.


    I am in second year university...i'll be out in two years with my degree in forensic toxicology.

    wanna make any more assumptions?


    Youve already decided on that? Its really intersting