how many of you understand this "relationship" quote

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    Oct 28, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    "If someone loves another person, they will go through sacrifices to make sure that other person is happy, because when they see that person happy, they will, in return be happy themselves."

    seriously, how many of you actually understand this and how it ties into relationships?

    I know I do.
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    Oct 28, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said"If someone loves another person, they will go through sacrifices to make sure that other person is happy, because when they see that person happy, they will, in return be happy themselves."

    seriously, how many of you actually understand this and how it ties into relationships?

    I know I do.



    It's pretty easy to understand. More difficult to live it, because it's greatly over-simplified.

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    Oct 28, 2011 6:24 PM GMT
    From what I understand of the quote is that one's happiness is dependent upon the other person being happy.

    Isn't that the definition of codependency?

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    Oct 28, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    the giving tree all over again.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:16 PM GMT
    Kinda like.."if you love someone, set them free. if they return they are yours forever, if not they never really were yours.."
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    RJ is being terrorized.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    I can appreciate the quote, but the last part as deltalimen pointed out does have a negative connotation implied. Don't get me wrong, I do believe that caring, devotion, and overall selflessness is truly important. That a person can become someone that you truly and deeply care about so much that you want to see him/her happy even when it may mean your own suffering. However I don't necessarily agree that his happiness will automatically bring you happiness as well. After all not all stories can become happy endings, but that doesn't diminish their significance.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:33 PM GMT
    sbstn_frncsk saidRJ is being terrorized.


    It's being terrorized is an understatement.

    He's worse than that AC character.

    PLEASE LEAVE!
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    Oct 28, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    running11 said
    sbstn_frncsk saidRJ is being terrorized.


    It's being terrorized is an understatement.

    He's worse than that AC character.

    PLEASE LEAVE!


    Oh man DRAMA aka my life right now

    This is why I love RealMock.
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    Oct 28, 2011 11:34 PM GMT
    deltalimen saidFrom what I understand of the quote is that one's happiness is dependent upon the other person being happy.

    Isn't that the definition of codependency?




    lol...funny. wrong but funny
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    Oct 28, 2011 11:54 PM GMT
    VeinyArms saidKinda like.."if you love someone, set them free. if they return they are yours forever, if not they never really were yours.."

    I thought the end of that one was "if not, hunt them down and kill them".
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    Oct 29, 2011 12:16 AM GMT
    In order to love some one you have to supersed yourself !
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    Oct 29, 2011 12:21 AM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said"If someone loves another person, they will go through sacrifices to make sure that other person is happy, because when they see that person happy, they will, in return be happy themselves."

    seriously, how many of you actually understand this and how it ties into relationships?

    I know I do.


    No offense, Mo, but you're a little young and lacking some major experience to be acting like you know it all. I can still smell the milk on your breath from that tit. Stop with this already because you are painting a very bad picture of yourself right now.

    I have to ask but what happened to you because you sound bitter and jaded? You sound like you got hurt.
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    Oct 29, 2011 12:45 AM GMT
    I definitely lost a little faith in the RJ community by such endorsement of a clear troll character account.
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    Oct 29, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    Guy101 said
    _Mohamed_ said"If someone loves another person, they will go through sacrifices to make sure that other person is happy, because when they see that person happy, they will, in return be happy themselves."

    seriously, how many of you actually understand this and how it ties into relationships?

    I know I do.


    No offense, Mo, but you're a little young and lacking some major experience to be acting like you know it all. I can still smell the milk on your breath from that tit. Stop with this already because you are painting a very bad picture of yourself right now.

    I have to ask but what happened to you because you sound bitter and jaded? You sound like you got hurt.


    I could care two less what a community full of sluts and whores thinks of me... I have the real world - of which I can be myself and get appreciated for who I am.

    You guys here seem like you ALL got hurted and decided to give up and take the "it won't get better" route... sorry but I always get back up after I fall... and that applies to here too...

    I stand up for my beliefs, not yours and certainly not the community's beliefs.

    So, if I have to be one of the minorities on here that is the sex after we declare each other bf type of guy.. then I will happily accept my status.
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    Oct 29, 2011 7:25 PM GMT
    We don't necessarily disagree with ALL of your idealist beliefs...

    It's merely the approach that is a turn-off. Tone it down.
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    Oct 29, 2011 7:29 PM GMT
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    No offense, Mo, but you're a little young and lacking some major experience to be acting like you know it all. I can still smell the milk on your breath from that tit. Stop with this already because you are painting a very bad picture of yourself right now.


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    Goddamn! Haha
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    Oct 29, 2011 7:32 PM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said
    Guy101 said
    _Mohamed_ said"If someone loves another person, they will go through sacrifices to make sure that other person is happy, because when they see that person happy, they will, in return be happy themselves."

    seriously, how many of you actually understand this and how it ties into relationships?

    I know I do.


    No offense, Mo, but you're a little young and lacking some major experience to be acting like you know it all. I can still smell the milk on your breath from that tit. Stop with this already because you are painting a very bad picture of yourself right now.

    I have to ask but what happened to you because you sound bitter and jaded? You sound like you got hurt.


    I could care two less what a community full of sluts and whores thinks of me... I have the real world - of which I can be myself and get appreciated for who I am.

    You guys here seem like you ALL got hurted and decided to give up and take the "it won't get better" route... sorry but I always get back up after I fall... and that applies to here too...

    I stand up for my beliefs, not yours and certainly not the community's beliefs.

    So, if I have to be one of the minorities on here that is the sex after we declare each other bf type of guy.. then I will happily accept my status.


    Like all those that came before him, he too will hurt - Anonymous
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    Oct 29, 2011 7:35 PM GMT
    I do 100%. I would give my boyfriend my all.
  • stratavos

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    Oct 29, 2011 7:40 PM GMT
    It's relatable in many different ways, but... The problem lies in finding something "worthy" of that level of devotion.
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    Oct 29, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said
    Guy101 said
    _Mohamed_ said"If someone loves another person, they will go through sacrifices to make sure that other person is happy, because when they see that person happy, they will, in return be happy themselves."

    seriously, how many of you actually understand this and how it ties into relationships?

    I know I do.


    No offense, Mo, but you're a little young and lacking some major experience to be acting like you know it all. I can still smell the milk on your breath from that tit. Stop with this already because you are painting a very bad picture of yourself right now.

    I have to ask but what happened to you because you sound bitter and jaded? You sound like you got hurt.


    I could care two less what a community full of sluts and whores thinks of me... I have the real world - of which I can be myself and get appreciated for who I am.

    You guys here seem like you ALL got hurted and decided to give up and take the "it won't get better" route... sorry but I always get back up after I fall... and that applies to here too...

    I stand up for my beliefs, not yours and certainly not the community's beliefs.

    So, if I have to be one of the minorities on here that is the sex after we declare each other bf type of guy.. then I will happily accept my status.


    WTF does this even mean Mohamed?

    Enough already.

    In regard to your quote, "sacrifice" is not a requirement in a healthy relationship. Sometimes it occurs - but shouldn't be a part of the plan. If your goal is "sacrifice" as some sort of proof of devotion - you are missing the mark TREMENDOUSLY.

    Here is another thought for you - the person you love will set boundaries and limits on how much you "sacrifice" on his behalf because he does not WANT to see you bleed for his sake. If he (or you) does - yer in trouble. Big time.

    Your happiness CAN NOT be based on sacrificing for another person regardless of how much you believe it is in the name of love. The other guy deserves to be with a whole, happy man...not an empty shell trying to fill a void through self sacrifice and increasingly impossible-to-meet demands as a method of proving loyalty.

    You may be a teenager still but the world of grown men is in your face and like it or not you will have to find a way to function in it without killing yourself emotionally, smothering to death everyone who so much as buys you a drink or, even worse, THOROUGHLY IRRITATING THE GUYS WHO ARE ON YOUR SIDE and finding it increasingly difficult to explain your behavior to everyone else who thinks you are a psycho troll from Hell.

    Real Life is NOT a passage from 1001 Nights. Your passion for fables is admirable in a youg boy but disturbing in a man.

    Lighten the fuck up MO - we are all on your side, most of us have already been through what you are experiencing. Take advantage of what is being offered to you and move on Dude!!!
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    Oct 29, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    I thought one of the most wisest things I could say at this point in my life is

    "I don't know."
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    Oct 29, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
    <--- Shakes head.

    One of these days Mohamed, your "karma" will "run over" your "dogma."

    I understood what THAT meant when I was 18, and it is something I try to reflect on from time to time.
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    Oct 29, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    Is unconditional love. Very rare. If you are very fortunate, you will experience it once or twice in your life.
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    Oct 29, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    _Mohamed_ said


    I could care two less what a community full of sluts and whores thinks of me... I have the real world - of which I can be myself and get appreciated for who I am.



    If the RJ forums are "a community full of sluts and whores" and you "have the real world"...

    why exactly are you here?

    Just asking.