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    Oct 28, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
    TA said "In our current cultural practice, this means that in hetereosexual relationships, the presence of a female partner means that the male is less likely to stray as most women will not tolerate promiscuity in a mate and demand monogamy.
    Gay homosexual relationships lack the "settling down" female influence. So gay men tend to (not always, but tend to) "flake" on each other -- that is, look for other partners."

    By his definition ... then I am the "woman" in the relationship.. and I completely fine with that... b/c i don't tolerate promiscuity and demand monogamy.

    Just thought I would share it with you guys...

    This is why most gay men I meet run away from me lol.
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    Oct 28, 2011 6:14 PM GMT
    _Mohamed_ saidTA said "In our current cultural practice, this means that in hetereosexual relationships, the presence of a female partner means that the male is less likely to stray as most women will not tolerate promiscuity in a mate and demand monogamy.
    Gay homosexual relationships lack the "settling down" female influence. So gay men tend to (not always, but tend to) "flake" on each other -- that is, look for other partners."

    By his definition ... then I am the "woman" in the relationship.. and I completely fine with that... b/c i don't tolerate promiscuity and demand monogamy.

    Just thought I would share it with you guys...

    This is why most gay men I meet run away from me lol.


    Eh...I think you might be oversimplifying it a bit. Plenty of gay men want monogamy in their relationship, and it has nothing to do with a feminine gender role. Besides, the heterosexual relationship isn't a static and concrete defined relationship applicable to everyone...most of the 'sluttiest' people I know are straight girls. Seriously. They get waaaaay more than any of the gay people I know. A little bit jealous, really.
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    Oct 28, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    All of this nonsense about heterosexual relationships being more ideal is laughable. In the US, 50% of marriages end in divorce. That doesn't take into account all of the relationships that end before marriage. They don't have it any easier.

    If anything, I'd say that the presence of a female partner motivates a guy who's going to cheat to be more cunning about it. I find it extremely difficult to believe that there are hetero male cheaters out there who will remain monogamous simply because their female partner may not tolerate promiscuity.
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    Oct 28, 2011 6:54 PM GMT
    Are you sure that's why people run away from you? From your internet personality, I'd guess that the real life you is just a way bit too intense.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:02 PM GMT
    Seriously, more threads about this?

    As my girl, Rachel Zoe would say. . . .shut it down, sh-sh-sh-shut it down.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    Jesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    You seam a lil bit too possessif guy bro you need to calm down and live your life you know it good to care for the guy you love but you need to let him breath and it's the same for you give some space to keep a relationship in a sain way and stop to think too much about this kind of stuff if it happen it happen if not well it's not the end of the world after all !!
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:05 PM GMT
    Someone's in deep...
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:05 PM GMT
    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    Yes, stir more shit please. I love these flamewars!
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:07 PM GMT
    From a few of the recent posts I've seen, it sounds like you're having problems (/freaking out about) finding a steady, committed, monogamous partner.


    YOU'RE FUCKING 18 YEARS OLD.
    CALM DOWN AND BE PATIENT.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:10 PM GMT
    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    +1^∞
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:15 PM GMT
    Buddy, you're gonna have to kiss many frogs until you find your prince. This frog you just used a little bit too much tongue, that's all. Let it go. There will be other frogs



    unfounded7 saidAll of this nonsense about heterosexual relationships being more ideal is laughable. In the US, 50% of marriages end in divorce. That doesn't take into account all of the relationships that end before marriage. They don't have it any easier.


    This is well said. Agreed.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:16 PM GMT
    Mohamed just calm down and enjoy your life a little. You have just come out of a relationship that did not work out the way you thought it was supposed to (although EXACTLTY the way the it was meant to). Congratulations. You have taken yet another step into the wide world of manhood - a journey EVERY SINGLE ONE of us is constantly on.

    You will dig yourself into an early grave demanding absolute answers and rock-steady rules and regulations that govern the human psyche and spirit. There are none. Keep an open mind, be who you are and try to enjoy yourself. You seriously come across as a bitter 40-something cougar still reeling from her 5th divorce and hoping scotch, cigarettes and more make-up will make it all better. You are too young to not be enjoying what life has to offer.

    And PLEASE be wary of advice spewed out by guys with little life-experience, limited RL social skills and who count a handful of brief, disappointing encounters at the local gay bar as "wisdom." They tend to rely on home-spun anecdotes and occasional literary quotes to justify their lonliness rather than just going out into the world and owning a little piece of it.

    Now, with THAT being said, I return you to the regularly scheduled programming that is quickly diminishing the relevance of RJ and driving members out of sight in droves...

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    Oct 28, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    And - as Dan Savage says - every relationship fails. Until one doesn't.

    You have no way of knowing whether you have a relationship that will stand the test of time until you give it a try. That's life.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:32 PM GMT
    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    It's like shut the fuck up already. No wonder you don't have anyone.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:32 PM GMT
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    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    It's like shut the fuck up already. No wonder you don't have anyone.


    Stir more shit, stir more shit!

    You gonna let him say that Mohamed? Go get him!
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:33 PM GMT
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    running11 said
    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    It's like shut the fuck up already. No wonder you don't have anyone.


    Stir more shit, stir more shit!

    You gonna let him say that Mohamed? Go get him!


    Please come and get me- he quoted my bf after all... it's like, you're barking up the wrong tree buddha!
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:34 PM GMT
    running11 said
    Chainers said
    running11 said
    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    It's like shut the fuck up already. No wonder you don't have anyone.


    Stir more shit, stir more shit!

    You gonna let him say that Mohamed? Go get him!


    Please come and get me- he quoted my bf after all... it's like, you're barking up the wrong tree buddha!



    Ohhh fat burn! Where are you to defend yourself mohamed. He practically called you a home-wrecker there!
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:35 PM GMT
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    running11 said
    Chainers said
    running11 said
    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    It's like shut the fuck up already. No wonder you don't have anyone.


    Stir more shit, stir more shit!

    You gonna let him say that Mohamed? Go get him!


    Please come and get me- he quoted my bf after all... it's like, you're barking up the wrong tree buddha!



    Ohhh fat burn! Where are you to defend yourself mohamed. He practically called you a home-wrecker there!


    omg I'm seriously rofl-ing right now.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:37 PM GMT
    running11 said
    Chainers said
    running11 said
    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    It's like shut the fuck up already. No wonder you don't have anyone.


    Stir more shit, stir more shit!

    You gonna let him say that Mohamed? Go get him!


    Please come and get me- he quoted my bf after all... it's like, you're barking up the wrong tree buddha!


    He partially quoted it, thereby taking the point completely out of its context.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:40 PM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    running11 said
    Chainers said
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    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    It's like shut the fuck up already. No wonder you don't have anyone.


    Stir more shit, stir more shit!

    You gonna let him say that Mohamed? Go get him!


    Please come and get me- he quoted my bf after all... it's like, you're barking up the wrong tree buddha!


    He partially quoted it, thereby taking the point completely out of its context.


    that's because he's a dumbass.
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    Oct 28, 2011 7:52 PM GMT
    I didn't realize he was 18. Everything seems so much more intense when you're 18.

    You're gonna go thru several more breakups before you meet the person you end up being with. That's how it works. And every one of 'em feels like shit. I probably had 6 or 7 heartbreaks before I got hitched for good. I'm just glad the internet wasn't around then so no one could see me wallowing in them.
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    Oct 29, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    running11 said
    Chainers said
    running11 said
    endo saidJesus. How many of these woe-is-me failed relationship threads are you going to start?


    It's like shut the fuck up already. No wonder you don't have anyone.


    Stir more shit, stir more shit!

    You gonna let him say that Mohamed? Go get him!


    Please come and get me- he quoted my bf after all... it's like, you're barking up the wrong tree buddha!


    so what if I quoted your bf? He made a point that no one else had made in that thread.

    It seems as though you are so upset that you and your bf got pulled into this.

    cry me a river.
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    Oct 29, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
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    It seems as though you are so upset that you and your bf got pulled into this.

    cry me a river.


    Well, time to go!

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    Oct 29, 2011 5:23 PM GMT
    Go date a girl. Seriously. I am guessing vagina seriously tastes like a mixture between Lysol and sardines, but at least you'll be in one of those happy monogamous heterosexual relationships with a female influence that you seem to want so badly.