For those with racial hangups (aka preferences), how do you do it?

  • groundcombat

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    Oct 28, 2011 10:37 PM GMT
    It's a slow Friday at work and I suddenly got curious to see if I could think of a race/ethnicity where I didn't find any one of them attractive. So naturally I started googling images for "hot (insert race/ethnicity) guy" and I saw so many different guys I'd jump into bed with. Granted I wasn't particularly scientific about it but I also didn't have to try all that hard either. It blows my mind how people can wholesale say they're not into a race/ethnicity.

    "Hot Asian Guy"
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    "Hot White Guy"
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    "Hot Black Guy"
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    "Hot Indian Guy"
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    "Hot Mexican Guy"
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    Oct 28, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
    You forgot Native American
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    Oct 28, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    ricky1987 saidYou forgot Native American


    Haha, I googled that too. But I just didn't post it.

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    Oct 29, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
    groundcombat said
    ricky1987 saidYou forgot Native American


    Haha, I googled that too. But I just didn't post it.

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    this guy is mixed-race (a "breed" in the vernacular). he may be enrolled, but he is def not the best example of a hot NdN. i'd post some pics, but i don't think my buds would like their pics on a gay site.
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    Oct 29, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIt don't matter what race/ethnicity a guy is ... and even if they are the hottest looking guy on the planet ... if they have a terrible personality ... everything they got is a waste.


    This is very true, but for a lot of men, this doesn't matter because if someone is shallow enough to look at people only based on physical traits, they usually don't give a flying rat's rear end about anything else pertaining to the person; until the looks/body fade and they have to find a "newer version" of their "ideal man."
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    Oct 29, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    BluEyes077 said
    AMoonHawk saidIt don't matter what race/ethnicity a guy is ... and even if they are the hottest looking guy on the planet ... if they have a terrible personality ... everything they got is a waste.


    This is very true, but for a lot of men, this doesn't matter because if someone is shallow enough to look at people only based on physical traits, they usually don't give a flying rat's rear end about anything else pertaining to the person; until the looks/body fade and they have to find a "newer version" of their "ideal man."


    There is nothing shallow about not being sexually attracted to a certain race. I am self-admittedly not sexually attracted to Asian men. I can certainly see how an Asian guy like in the pic above has a great body just as I can see how a woman might have a great body but that's where it ends.It's inate so how is that shallow when there's nothing I can do about it?
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    Oct 29, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    As someone who tends to prefer asian guys, I will just say this: only one of the guys you posted didn't have to shave his chest for the pic. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 29, 2011 4:58 AM GMT
    beneful1 said
    BluEyes077 said
    AMoonHawk saidIt don't matter what race/ethnicity a guy is ... and even if they are the hottest looking guy on the planet ... if they have a terrible personality ... everything they got is a waste.


    This is very true, but for a lot of men, this doesn't matter because if someone is shallow enough to look at people only based on physical traits, they usually don't give a flying rat's rear end about anything else pertaining to the person; until the looks/body fade and they have to find a "newer version" of their "ideal man."


    There is nothing shallow about not being sexually attracted to a certain race. I am self-admittedly not sexually attracted to Asian men. I can certainly see how an Asian guy like in the pic above has a great body just as I can see how a woman might have a great body but that's where it ends.It's inate so how is that shallow when there's nothing I can do about it?


    No, it isn't shallow. There are a lot of black men not attracted to white men, and Asian men not attracted to black men, and so forth. It just is what it is. It's better be open about what you are attracted to than not, otherwise the heartache hotel of misinterpreted longings is open for business, lol!

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    Oct 29, 2011 5:12 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    beneful1 said
    BluEyes077 said
    AMoonHawk saidIt don't matter what race/ethnicity a guy is ... and even if they are the hottest looking guy on the planet ... if they have a terrible personality ... everything they got is a waste.


    This is very true, but for a lot of men, this doesn't matter because if someone is shallow enough to look at people only based on physical traits, they usually don't give a flying rat's rear end about anything else pertaining to the person; until the looks/body fade and they have to find a "newer version" of their "ideal man."


    There is nothing shallow about not being sexually attracted to a certain race. I am self-admittedly not sexually attracted to Asian men. I can certainly see how an Asian guy like in the pic above has a great body just as I can see how a woman might have a great body but that's where it ends.It's inate so how is that shallow when there's nothing I can do about it?


    No, it isn't shallow. There are a lot of black men not attracted to white men, and Asian men not attracted to black men, and so forth. It just is what it is. It's better be open about what you are attracted to than not, otherwise the heartache hotel of misinterpreted longings is open for business, lol!



    Agree. People really overthink the race issue. Bottom line, attraction is (at least at first) primarily physical, and racial classifications are based in large part on physical characteristics. So it's only natural that people will tend to favor one race over another.
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    Oct 29, 2011 5:19 AM GMT
    samseattle said
    meninlove said
    beneful1 said
    BluEyes077 said
    AMoonHawk saidIt don't matter what race/ethnicity a guy is ... and even if they are the hottest looking guy on the planet ... if they have a terrible personality ... everything they got is a waste.


    This is very true, but for a lot of men, this doesn't matter because if someone is shallow enough to look at people only based on physical traits, they usually don't give a flying rat's rear end about anything else pertaining to the person; until the looks/body fade and they have to find a "newer version" of their "ideal man."


    There is nothing shallow about not being sexually attracted to a certain race. I am self-admittedly not sexually attracted to Asian men. I can certainly see how an Asian guy like in the pic above has a great body just as I can see how a woman might have a great body but that's where it ends.It's inate so how is that shallow when there's nothing I can do about it?


    No, it isn't shallow. There are a lot of black men not attracted to white men, and Asian men not attracted to black men, and so forth. It just is what it is. It's better be open about what you are attracted to than not, otherwise the heartache hotel of misinterpreted longings is open for business, lol!



    Agree. People really overthink the race issue. Bottom line, attraction is (at least at first) primarily physical, and racial classifications are based in large part on physical characteristics. So it's only natural that people will tend to favor one race over another.



    Some will, many won't. Each can be afforded some respect, I think. Attraction is so entirely subjective. I met men who were not attracted to to tall skinny men. Thank god they told me. icon_wink.gif

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    Oct 29, 2011 5:59 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]meninlove said Thank god they told me. icon_wink.gif

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    If you are referring to the "No Blacks" or "No Asians" or "No Chubs" type personal ads, I agree that is a bit of an asshole move. But I don't see anything with saying you have preferences.
  • cookingitswee...

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    Oct 29, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    Honestly I'm sooo over guys doing the "no black" "no Asiains" "no fems" and "no fats" crap. It's absolutely awful. I am looking for a boyfriend who is fun, loving, and treats me well and one that I can laugh with, have fun with, and who will be there for me when I need him. I see attraction in every race and nationality and think anyone who plays that game is limiting himself from a great guy. Guys acting like they're ordering a pizza when choosing a hook-up/boyfriend "ripped abs, no asains, no fems, 6 foot tall"! Does he have to only wear blue boxers too? Unbelievable!
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    Oct 29, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    all are hot
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    Oct 30, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    Just my 2 cents:

    In general, when I hear someone saying "no blacks" or "no Asians" I don't think they don't like them not because they are black or Asian per se, but because they don't have European features.

    That's why many times whites will go after Latinos and not blacks/Asians. Since Latino/Hispanic is a CULTURAL and geographic conation and not a racial one, many Latinos can be ethnically white yet still culturally Latino. Whenever a white person says they love Latinos, they really mean a Latino that is exotic enough to not look like themselves, yet not too different where he looks black or Asian. No offense.

    The stereotypical "hot Latino" that white guys want would look something like this:

    Mexican Actor Aaron Diaz:

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    or this; Spanish Model Miguel Iglesias
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    Not like George Lopez.

    Hispanic is the term used for the cultural influence of the Spanish (Spain) in the Western Hemisphere.

    Someone from Spain would be Hispanic.Enrique Iglesias, Penelope Cruz, would be Hispanic, but not Latino.


    Latino is more of a geographic term used for Latin America. So it pretty much includes everything south of the US and the Caribbean. (Except Haiti (French) Jamaica (British) and a few others.)

    A Brazilian would be Latino, but not Hispanic, since Brazil was not a Spanish colony. (It was Portugal)

    Most of the times the terms are interchangeable, but most Latinos/Hispanics would know the difference. That's why calling someone from Spain a Mexican or confusing Cuba and Puerto Rico will get you an eye-roll from Latinos. It would be like calling an American a Canadian.icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 30, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    beneful1 said

    There is nothing shallow about not being sexually attracted to a certain race. I am self-admittedly not sexually attracted to Asian men. I can certainly see how an Asian guy like in the pic above has a great body just as I can see how a woman might have a great body but that's where it ends.It's inate so how is that shallow when there's nothing I can do about it?


    It's not necessarily shallow. However, the term "Asian" is more diverse than what is normally meant when "Asian" is used colloquially. The hot Indian guy above is technically Asian (South Asian). Russian men are technically "Asian".

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    Oct 30, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    Well a Russian, although located in Asian, would be genetically White (or European). You are right about the South Asian though.
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    Oct 30, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    I am more about the person. Not so much about race. I look at guys by individual case. In the OP, the only guy I would want to have sex with is probably that Indian guy. He's hot. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 31, 2011 10:02 AM GMT
    Hot is hot in white, black, mocha, red, purple, fuchsia, green and electric blue, so the colour doesn't matter
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    Oct 31, 2011 10:53 AM GMT
    If I have certain preferences I tend to think they're more cultural than racial. That said, I have yet to date just a normal American white guy for more than a week lol.

    Even so, let's be real: the penis does the picking. I reject the idea that having an ethnic preference makes someone necessarily racist in any capacity. I have a gender preference as well and that doesn't make me misogynist.
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    Nov 01, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
    Larkin_PLR saidIf I have certain preferences I tend to think they're more cultural than racial. That said, I have yet to date just a normal American white guy for more than a week lol.

    Even so, let's be real: the penis does the picking. I reject the idea that having an ethnic preference makes someone necessarily racist in any capacity. I have a gender preference as well and that doesn't make me misogynist.


    Normal American White Guy? What's that supposed to...never mind.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 07, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    Hmmm. I dunno. I didn't find any of those guys incredibly attractive.

    It just depends on the person. *shrug*