Welp, I'm starting to feel pretty worthless

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    Oct 28, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    been unemployed going on 5 months, had a really good interview yesterday, thought I would hear back today, but nothing..
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    Oct 28, 2011 11:42 PM GMT
    Yeah, I don't mean to sound impatient. The interview really did go well. About 2 hours, I'm just really surprised not to have heard back from him. Well I guess all I can do is keep my fingers crossed.
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    Oct 29, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    Yeah, well, hope you dont reach the one year mark like i have.
    I totally understand man, im feeling quite worthless myself.... icon_sad.gif
  • LJay

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    Oct 29, 2011 12:14 AM GMT
    18 months here and it is not looking good.

    Have been lucky to get by.

    Keep at it guys. I listen to the news swing back and forth from story to story about the economy, but things are SLOWLY getter a bit more solid.

    Keep an open mind and keep looking. Good luck.
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    Oct 29, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    Keep at it- my dad was unemployed for nearly 3 years---
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    Oct 29, 2011 12:21 AM GMT
    mikeinslc saidbeen unemployed going on 5 months, had a really good interview yesterday, thought I would hear back today, but nothing..


    Try being essentially unemployed (not counting any job that pays under $30k a year as employed) for 3 years.
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    Oct 29, 2011 12:32 AM GMT
    I understand what you are going through. I was unemployed for 18 months. I moved back to Michigan from Phoenix last December and got a job within 2 weeks. I got it because all the other interviewees did not show up because it was snowing out really hard and I basically got the job by default. I just left that job for a much better one. I know how hard it is, so keep your chin up and try and stay positive.
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    Oct 29, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    mikeinslc saidYeah, I don't mean to sound impatient. The interview really did go well. About 2 hours, I'm just really surprised not to have heard back from him. Well I guess all I can do is keep my fingers crossed.

    Recommend trying to avoid emotional peaks and valleys. Realize it is a long process. Good to be confident about the interview and hopeful for good results - but remember they are probably interviewing other candidates as well.

    Hey - don't judge yourself by your job situation. Many good people are unemployed. Your thread title about feeling worthless should be banished from your thoughts completely.

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    Oct 29, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    Its all how you define yourself.

    Consider this: You are not unemployed, but rather self-employed. You are an employment agency. Your project is to find the best possible job for a very important client - YOU! icon_wink.gif

    This may sound too obvious, but I'm sure you know that finding a job is hard fucking work. Don't for a minute discount what you are doing. In your new "job" you are a high ranking executive with a lot of responsibility. You are the CEO of your life and career. You need an office where you can schedule time for phone calls, research and client contact through email and letters. You are also busy on the road with sales canvassing. And, you set aside time for creative thinking, strategy sessions and planning. Marketing materials must constantly be updated to better convey your USP and get maximum exposure in the marketplace. Of course, all successful top executives practice positive visualization, where they get motivated by seeing tremendously positive outcomes from their business efforts.

    As you can see, you work harder than most "employed" people. You have to push yourself harder, as you have no boss outlining goals and wanted to be kept informed.
  • KissTheSky

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    Oct 29, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    Just thought I'd mention that every job I've ever had took at least a week between interview and hiring decision... and it was usually a few weeks. Big companies often make decisions like that very slowly. I once interviewed for a job three separate times over the course of three months -- but then I got it.

    I think online marketing is a really good field to be in right now. Are you looking outside your geographic area, too?
    Have you thought about promoting yourself as a freelance consultant... (i.e. charging by the day or the hour?) Basically every company in the U.S. needs to be doing online marketing and most of them don't know how. Maybe if they're afraid to hire someone full-time, they would hire you on a project-by-project basis.

    Good luck
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    Oct 29, 2011 2:33 AM GMT
    KissTheSky saidJust thought I'd mention that every job I've ever had took at least a week between interview and hiring decision... and it was usually a few weeks. Big companies often make decisions like that very slowly. I once interviewed for a job three separate times over the course of three months -- but then I got it.

    I think online marketing is a really good field to be in right now. Are you looking outside your geographic area, too?
    Have you thought about promoting yourself as a freelance consultant... (i.e. charging by the day or the hour?) Basically every company in the U.S. needs to be doing online marketing and most of them don't know how. Maybe if they're afraid to hire someone full-time, they would hire you on a project-by-project basis.

    Good luck


    That is a great suggestion. You have consultants working for you already.
  • benarw

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    Oct 29, 2011 4:07 AM GMT
    mikeinslc saidbeen unemployed going on 5 months, had a really good interview yesterday, thought I would hear back today, but nothing..


    I'm in a similar situation. Have a had a couple of good interviews but the waiting to hear back is so stressful! And I live in NYC so there are like a million people applying for one position.

    You just got to have faith. And keep applying for jobs. And continuously ask everyone you know if they know anyone hiring. I had a conversation with a friend from an old job today who might be able to hook me up with something to get me through the holidays. At this point I'll take what I can get.

    My suggestions are make sure you take time to do the things you love. Working out, seeing theatre, hanging out with friends, etc, all these things help me retain my sanity while I'm unemployed.

    Good luck on your job search!
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    Oct 29, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    mikeinslc saidbeen unemployed going on 5 months, had a really good interview yesterday, thought I would hear back today, but nothing..



    Man, have I been there. Hang tight!

    -Doug
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    Oct 29, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    Be patient and keep your mind focused on the job you want, but don't dwell on it. I remember interviewing for a job and going through 7 interviews in 2 weeks with every level of management. You would think after that many interviews, it would be a given, right? Well, they made me wait 3 months before finally telling me that they went with someone else.
  • mybud

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    Oct 29, 2011 6:52 AM GMT
    Babe...your self worth doesn't hang on a job....Just remain positive that your perfect position will come...If you will it...it will be so....All the best...BUD
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    Oct 29, 2011 8:00 AM GMT
    I think everybody feels pretty shit, and rejected while unemployed. Just remember that it's just a feeling, you are qualified and there are lots of reasons why the companies you have interviewed with went for someone else.
    And I'm pretty sure that you'll get this one but as someone who went to the interview for the dream position, thought it went really well and was told I would hear back in two weeks, I suggest that you apply for more jobs right now. Because it took them more than 6 weeks to get back and the answer was no. And if you go to other interviews you can mention that you've interviewed with so and so but they haven't gotten back to you yet. For some people the whole "somebody else wants him" is really important. Especially if it's someone ahead of them in the marketplace. It's a bit tricky though because if you sound like a dick about it they may just think to themselves "fine, whatever-company can have him".
  • shred_thegnar

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    Oct 29, 2011 8:15 AM GMT
    it will happen. I always find when you make different plans the original plan works out. Happened to me this summer when I was unemployed, about to start summer school and scored one of the top internship/summer employment at a major bank. All about perseverance esp. at this time.

  • SomeSiciliano...

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    Oct 29, 2011 9:19 PM GMT

    Hang in there Mike....all of the above are good points. At the end of the day....we are much more than our careers. The only people I know of who have their job titles on their gravestones are Presidents.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Oct 30, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    Keep at it Mike. Read What Color is Your Parachute- good book.

    Nobama 2012-this will help even moreicon_idea.gif. 4 more years of him and the country is sunk!!!
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    Oct 30, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    I've been unemployed for almost five years now. Because i've never been employed full time i've been told i can't apply for unemployment. If it weren't for my family i'd be out on my ass. I was told once that i was overqualified. In this city, i'm not surprised icon_sad.gif