Admit one of your biggest insecurities.

  • kaccioto

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    May 27, 2008 8:59 PM GMT
    Let's try not turn this into a sapfest about whether we'll find the perfect dude and keep it about ourselves.

    Part of my work ethic is fueled by my very "humble" upbringing. Regardless of my sick East River views, and great portfolio despite the domestic market, I fear none of my colleagues can really relate with my past and I try to over-compensate for that fact with my work, most times subconsciously.

    The kicker is that my idea of "upper class" has been exponentially blasted ever since I came into this city. The holdings of the old money crowd make the Hamptons/Beverly Hills/Alpine set seem minute in comparison.

    I know I shouldn't care about any of this, but sometimes my past gets the best of me and I try to prove something that's not worth the effort/outcome in the end.
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    May 27, 2008 9:06 PM GMT
    My weight (I was chubby from about 8 to 19) and my lack of coordination (better then it was but still not great).

    I work out every day and try and watch my diet in order to control my tendency to gain weight.

    The klutziness is hard to control and comes and goes much to my (and my partner's) frustration.
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    May 27, 2008 9:16 PM GMT
    My being Filipino.

    I hate to say it but it's as honest as it gets.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    May 27, 2008 9:33 PM GMT
    How I look.
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    May 27, 2008 9:39 PM GMT
    as a child, I was forced to take steroids for my allergies which were terrorized as we moved to the Houston area. I wasn't very fit or active thanks to the Sega Genesis, so I ballooned up.

    I've never actually been at an ideal weight since then, and even though I've been going to the gym for about two years now, and have made gigantic strides in my physical appearance (so much as the pizza guy who I went to school with showed up the other day and hardly recognized me) I still haven't lost my belly fat; and I absolutely abhor it.

    I want to do that 12 week thing and post the pictures of the progress, but I'm so turned off by the fact that I'd have to put a picture of me without a shirt on, with stomach in full view, that I haven't begun to try.


    *sigh*

    In other words; I wish I were an ectomorph.
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    May 28, 2008 1:48 AM GMT
    For me, it is not fitting in with the person next to me. I was born in the US, but both my parents are from China. I grew up in a predominantly white town, went through K-12 in schools with the white population never dipping below 75%. And so, I would subconsciously try everything I could to fit in and just be the next kid. I think I dropped any hint of an accent by 3rd grade. I've even been teased by my cousins as being "too white" if that was possible. But I just can't help continuously distancing myself from my ethnic background and embracing more of what is average, normative, and common.

    Not really related, but lately when I tell someone that both my parents come from China (and look like it) I get some surprised looks.
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    May 28, 2008 1:51 AM GMT
    I was involved in a really bad car accident in my 20's involving two fatalities (the other driver and my infant-nephew). The accident did a number on my face and my mental stability (having been the lone survivor).....anyway, I've had 7 reconstructive and 3 cosmetic surgeries on the right side of my face, so I tend to be really insecure about exposing that side of my face in pictures or even in face to face conversation....if I think someone is looking @ the right side of my face for too long, I start to get really ancy and try to get away....icon_neutral.gif
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    May 28, 2008 1:52 AM GMT
    I'm told by my friends and family that I'm not a very forgiving person. I don't see it as an insecurity but then again I don't put myself in situations that require me to forgive myself either.
  • Timbales

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    May 28, 2008 1:55 AM GMT
    I am always in fear my social skills are totally out of sync with the situation that I am in.
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    May 28, 2008 3:06 AM GMT
    Timberoo saidI am always in fear my social skills are totally out of sync with the situation that I am in.


    Well, look, as long as you don't beg at the table, and you wipe your paws on the mat before tracking dirt into the house, I'd say you were doing all right.
  • ShawnTX

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    May 28, 2008 3:12 AM GMT
    When I get a flare-up of my seborrheic dermatitis my face goes beet red and I break-out along my orbital bones and hairline. Somedays I don't want to look in the mirror.

    Other than that I'm super-fabulous and most people are jealous of me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 28, 2008 3:14 AM GMT
    ShawnTO saidWhen I get a flare-up of my seborrheic dermatitis my face goes beet red and I break-out along my orbital bones and hairline.


    ummmm....do you have a pic of that? ... icon_eek.gif
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    May 28, 2008 3:37 AM GMT
    Being in love with someone and having them reject me.

  • ShawnTX

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    May 28, 2008 3:37 AM GMT
    Hell no...bitch!
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    May 28, 2008 3:48 AM GMT
    My lack of abs. icon_cry.gif
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    May 28, 2008 4:04 AM GMT
    Having to deal with fact that I've always been number two to two million. Never being the first choice, the best, and constantly living in the shadow of someone better than me. I'm fine on my own, but put me in a group of others and I will undeniably feel competitive with the obvious alpha male types and try to alienate myself because of that. I've always ended up trying too hard and end up being second best and getting angry about it that I avoid situations that force people to stand out in a crowd. Whew.

    The result is that I have horrible self image and a load of false confidence.
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    May 28, 2008 4:09 AM GMT
    that no matter how much success i garner in life, the rug will somehow be pulled from under me.
  • justjk

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    May 28, 2008 4:13 AM GMT
    Had to have a triple bypass when i was 26, due to diabetes and bad genes, so i have a huge scar down the middle of my chest that i truely don't care for.
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    May 28, 2008 4:25 AM GMT
    Biggest insecurity for me has to be rejection. Because of the fear I over compensate and have become extremely competitive. I also keep myself in a shell and dont let people in. If someone was nice to me I would think what do they want.

    Second has to be my upbringing. I was always ashamed of it being born to a very low class family. I worked hard learned the secrets of the educational system got my degrees and as long as the economy doesnt totally collapse should retire comfortably at 40. Only a couple of friends and my husband have met my family. I still feel embarrassed when I go back to visit them with my husband. The main part that bothers me is I feel like there is a language barrier because I have to dumb things down. Think Doctor trying to have a conversation with bush, he has a better chance of conversation putting sesame street on for bush to watch.
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    May 28, 2008 4:38 AM GMT
    Like many others on here, I'd have to say my weight. I've struggled with my weight since I was a child and always been ridiculed for it. Up until recently, I've always been focused on education and career, so I just tried to maintain without becoming massively huge. Now I'm really trying to educate myself on proper nutrition and exercise and it's starting to pay off.

    But, the damage is done really. Since I was always ridiculed for my weight, I never wanted to be ridiculed for being gay too, so I never came to terms with that. I came out to everyone but my family eight years ago, but I think that's my second biggest insecurity. It's hard enough being gay, but when you're an overweight gay, it makes it that much harder.

    I just hope as I approach my goal weight, people are more accepting.
  • badtouch

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    May 28, 2008 5:15 AM GMT
    this is: a. huge. can. of. worms.

    now, like many, i have some neurotic dysmorphia, never feeling quite right about my physical appearance. additionally i have a myriad of other insecurities that are intense and insane. but, hey, i grew up inside the LA bubble and these things are to be expected.

    but mostly...

    i operate under the general assumption that i fade into the background, sort of invisible-like. it's not severe, it's realistic.

    we all pass people daily, without really thinking about the complexities under the skin, interact -- possibly even regularly, as with distant coworkers -- and yet forget.

    but if someone were to see me, really see, and dislike that person, the whole person, everything considered and balanced. that would be awful.

    so i always take my minor insecurities and equivocate on instinct, due to this grander fear. as such, everything has a counterpoint and it causes me to seem argumentative when really i just have a deep-rooted desire to prove something.

    and even that habit makes me insecure. haha
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    May 28, 2008 5:20 AM GMT
    How white I am...
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    May 28, 2008 7:00 AM GMT
    That I will never fit in. When I was pretending was in the closet and in denial about my sexuality I always felt like i was different than everyone because I had these feelings.... then when I came out I feel like I dotn fit in with anyone in the gay community. I am masculine and not very fem, not a whore, care about love and romance, love cars, working out, and sports. Once again I feel like I am an outcast like i dont fit in..... I have come to deal with that I will never truly fit in and that I am on my own in life... but every once in a while it catches up to me and makes me feel really alone and depressed..... I am tired of living to the beat of my own drum...
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    May 28, 2008 7:03 AM GMT
    justjk saidHad to have a triple bypass when i was 26, due to diabetes and bad genes, so i have a huge scar down the middle of my chest that i truely don't care for.

    I see that as a constant reminder of a challenge you overcame. Others cannot say the same. You are an inspiration to many. Relish the scar and know that scars make the body more interesting.
  • EricLA

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    May 28, 2008 7:16 AM GMT
    badtouch saidthis is: a. huge. can. of. worms.

    now, like many, i have some neurotic dysmorphia, never feeling quite right about my physical appearance. additionally i have a myriad of other insecurities that are intense and insane. but, hey, i grew up inside the LA bubble and these things are to be expected.

    but mostly...

    i operate under the general assumption that i fade into the background, sort of invisible-like. it's not severe, it's realistic.

    we all pass people daily, without really thinking about the complexities under the skin, interact -- possibly even regularly, as with distant coworkers -- and yet forget.

    but if someone were to see me, really see, and dislike that person, the whole person, everything considered and balanced. that would be awful.

    so i always take my minor insecurities and equivocate on instinct, due to this grander fear. as such, everything has a counterpoint and it causes me to seem argumentative when really i just have a deep-rooted desire to prove something.

    and even that habit makes me insecure. haha


    I can totally identify, Badtouch