Question about friendship

  • Nayro

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    Oct 30, 2011 10:16 AM GMT
    If you are jealous a friend is kissing a girl, should you still be friends?...

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    Oct 30, 2011 10:22 AM GMT
    Is this a friend you are intimate with? Is he bisexual? Not enough information???
  • Nayro

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    Oct 30, 2011 10:25 AM GMT
    We haven't been friends for too long. But I like him more than just a friend. I'm very attracted to him. And he is giving mixed signals.. I think he might be bisexual. But he says he's straight.. But he is giving me more attention than a normal straight friend would do.. Im kinda confused
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    Oct 30, 2011 10:33 AM GMT
    Sounds like you have fallen a bit for him and if he says he's straight and he's kissing a girl; well that's what it is. Does he know you're gay? It sounds like you want him to be kissing you. Continue to be friends, but try to back off a little where your feelings are concerned.
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    Oct 30, 2011 2:30 PM GMT
    vincent7 saidSounds like you have fallen a bit for him and if he says he's straight and he's kissing a girl; well that's what it is. Does he know you're gay? It sounds like you want him to be kissing you. Continue to be friends, but try to back off a little where your feelings are concerned.


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  • Nayro

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    Oct 30, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    vincent7 saidSounds like you have fallen a bit for him and if he says he's straight and he's kissing a girl; well that's what it is. Does he know you're gay? It sounds like you want him to be kissing you. Continue to be friends, but try to back off a little where your feelings are concerned.


    I have, I know I have. And its bad. He doesnt know im gay. But he is just keeping on giving mixed signals. Sending me lots of texts. I dunno just a bit confusing. Guess I'll just have to w8 whats gonna happen..
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    Oct 30, 2011 4:56 PM GMT
    Daelin said
    vincent7 saidSounds like you have fallen a bit for him and if he says he's straight and he's kissing a girl; well that's what it is. Does he know you're gay? It sounds like you want him to be kissing you. Continue to be friends, but try to back off a little where your feelings are concerned.


    I have, I know I have. And its bad. He doesnt know im gay. But he is just keeping on giving mixed signals. Sending me lots of texts. I dunno just a bit confusing. Guess I'll just have to w8 whats gonna happen..

    Sounds like he might be trying to figure you out and you're not letting him. He's probably as confused as you are. Open up to him and see what happens. It might be something good!
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    Oct 30, 2011 5:00 PM GMT
    I love guys like that.. not.

    Did an emotional tango with a guy like that for a year or so and finally had to back away. He knew about me and I think he was still sorting things out although he ID'd as straight.

    It is possible to have a close emotional bond to another guy and not have it turn physical (see also: Bromance) but you both have to be on the same page. If one guy thinks he's developing a strong friendship and the other is reading his overtures as a mating effort, it tends to get awkward and/or hurtful.

    You might want to start by being honest with him about your sexuality as it may help him understand how his signals (or what you are interpreting as signals) are being read. Some guys are completely clueless about these things. Or, if he senses you are attracted to him, he may be enjoying the attention, but still is really hetero, and/or wants to keep that identity while exploring with guys too. An honest conversation is the only thing that's going to resolve this, but you have to be prepared for the possibility that you won't get what you want.
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    Oct 30, 2011 5:11 PM GMT
    lol ... well jealous in what way ? like being in love .. or just jealous cuz he is kissing and intimate and u want to be like him ...

    and what kind of not being friend with him .. do u mean to just cut the connection or trying to make him love u which its impossible ..

    and no i don't think u should stop the being friend with him ... u will get over it
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    Oct 31, 2011 10:07 AM GMT
    Just do what you're heart wanna do , before everything it too late like me

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    Oct 31, 2011 10:15 AM GMT
    Daelin saidWe haven't been friends for too long. But I like him more than just a friend. I'm very attracted to him. And he is giving mixed signals.. I think he might be bisexual. But he says he's straight.. But he is giving me more attention than a normal straight friend would do.. Im kinda confused



    u got kinda limited point of view, if u understand me......"..but he is giving me more attention than a normal straight friend would do..."
    if you are best friends, or close to be best friends, then trust me there isnt any signal for what u r hoping for;)
    its normal for guys to be close when ur best friends;)
  • Nayro

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    Oct 31, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    Thing is, I havent known this guys for too long. Literally 2-3 days and we are instantly very close. I never had that before.

    Today we met and just talked about random stuff and I guess there were some mixed signals again. Though when we started talking about family and age and such it came up that we were 2 weeks born apart from eachother so we are both the same horoscope sign. So he said this is probably why we get along so well.

    Thing is he is a model and I get the feeling he just enjoys attention from every side he gets it. But I don't know f its just a friendship or might be more. He has been talking about a girl very obvious though but also made some playful comments.. I really dont know how to explain. Its probably me and im probably misreading it all. But I think I start to feel more than I should and I should back off before I hurt myself more than I already am.. I know I wont though since we text a lot.. Just a weird situation.
  • Nayro

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    Oct 31, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    oh and Im not out.. so thats a big issue too..
  • Nayro

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    Oct 31, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    Cairo_M saidlol ... well jealous in what way ? like being in love .. or just jealous cuz he is kissing and intimate and u want to be like him ...

    and what kind of not being friend with him .. do u mean to just cut the connection or trying to make him love u which its impossible ..

    and no i don't think u should stop the being friend with him ... u will get over it


    Jealous cause he was kissing an ugly girl and not me icon_razz.gif And yes I would cut him out of my life. Try to at least.. If its the best solution. Easier said than done though.. We really get along well :/
  • Nayro

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    Nov 01, 2011 5:07 PM GMT
    well thanks anyway, I guess time will tell..
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    Nov 01, 2011 8:55 PM GMT
    Daelin saidIf you are jealous a friend is kissing a girl, should you still be friends?...



    Um... If you are jealous of someone else, then you are more of an acquaintance than a real friend.