My right nipple hurts

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    Oct 30, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    So last night I had a great time at the Eagle in Atlanta with some friends and, since I am single, I of course had no shirt and was molested all night long. It was all good. There was a very hot younger dude on the dance floor and we were fondling etc etc...

    But when i was walking away, he grabbed my right nipple and squeezed it so @#$%^@%^#$%^@$^ hard it brought tears to my eyes.... I screamed "FFFUUUCCCCKKK" and turned and said, "WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING??"

    To his credit, he felt bad and he apologized later, but it is the next morning and it is still sore.

    I totally get that when you work out and you are in a gay bar and have no shirt on, that guys are going to be all over you... but that really isn't an excuse to be so rough that you really hurt someone. If we hadn't been dancing and getting along so well before, I probably would have punched his face in for that. Seriously, I get tweaked on the nips all of the time and this was so painful it was crazy.
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    Oct 30, 2011 3:57 PM GMT
    so was this to complain abour ur nip hurting? or for u to have an excuse to post about u being shirtless and guys being all over u?


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    Oct 30, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    This is a post about personal space. Yes, it really, really hurt. I dont need to validate myself by talking about being a bar shirtless... This is REALJOCK and there are WAY hotter guys here who i am sure would understand what I am talking about. Just because you take your shirt off in a bar doesn't mean that you give up all rights to your own body. And no matter how "big" you are, skin still has nerve endings!

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    Oct 30, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    Do u use nipple clamps?
    perhaps that would be a good wayt to like desensitize ur nips, so when someone twists ur tits, they will recover quickly.

    He was probably just being playful and thought u were a hot piece of beef and wanted to twist ur nip. Maybe he was a little drunk or whatever...didn't realize how hard he did it.
    u mentioned he apologized later on. Give ur nips a break and perhaps ice them down?
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    Oct 30, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
    He did apologize later and I have no doubt that he was trying to be playful (I think he honestly felt badly, too- he wasn't a bad guy, although he has the strongest fingers in the universe)... I have had similar situations happen in the past, but not this bad. One should be understanding that men are men and they are going to be sexually playful and adventuresome in a sexally charged atmosphere... but I guess I wanted to ask about personal boundaries? Copping a feel here or there is no big deal (flattering and hot, to be honest) but being overly aggressive or rough is beyond the boundary. I am curious if anyone else on here has ever thought about this?

    EDIT: I just remembered another example... In Miami, there was a guy at the bar who kept roughly grabbed my hands and tried to pin them behind my back... the first time I laughed and pulled away and said, "dont do that", the second time I didn't laugh and pulled away and said "stop"..... the fifth time I pushed him into a wall and said, "do that again and I will kick your ass!" I mean, once I said, "Stop" that should be enough, dont you think?
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    Oct 30, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    I lol'd at the strongest fingers in the universe hahaha.
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    Oct 30, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    my right nipple (the unpierced one) will occassionally be sore the next day or two also after me and the bf have some extended, semi-drnken foreplay.

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    as i rub one off for the next few days i'll tweak the sore nip and think of him and I together.


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    Oct 30, 2011 7:18 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle, you prolly have some bruised tissue under your nipple which will take a few days to heal. They skin is also sensitive so it's easy to make an ouchie. Either way, it'll heal soon enough.

    People in bars rarely understand personal space. During my initial training I struggled with lactic acid build up in my muscles. This was made worse by guys grabbing and groping my tender muscles. I hated it. There were numerous times where I had to say: "Touch me again and you'll pull back a bloody stump."





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    Oct 30, 2011 7:22 PM GMT
    Yeah, I don't understand that. I had a friend who complained about a guy who used to grab hot guys on the crotch, and then complainer went and BIT a friend of mine on the back of the neck!!
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    I've had guys kiss the back of my neck in a bar, but bite it?? I'd deck your effin' ass right there!icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 30, 2011 7:23 PM GMT
    Stick some ice in a tea towel & place it over the area for 20 mins. That will aid healing & reduce inflammation
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    Oct 30, 2011 7:25 PM GMT
    i agree, probably bruised under the surface. give it a few days. as long as it doesn't turn funny colors (or as long as the funny colors don't start getting darker) should be fine.

    I tell ya, the few times i've been in just regular bars i get the exact opposite, to the point of creepy. The last time i got groped it was the most terrifyingly queer grope ever. The kid (queer as the proverbial $3 bill) was hitting on me while i was waiting for my burger and all of a sudden i just feel a single finger tracing itself around on one ass cheek and i did the count to ten thing. My burger came and i left. I wouldn't mind a good ass-grab from a hot guy (he was not) but jesus F*cking christ, be a man about it and GRAB IT!
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    Oct 30, 2011 7:26 PM GMT
    Seriously guys, nipple tweaking is a serious crime.

    We should have a protest march or something!

    I'm South African, I can show you how it's done, practically a national hobby here. (Marching/rallies, not nipple tweaking).

    Although Alpha_Muscle does have great and very tweakable nipples.
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    Oct 30, 2011 7:29 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidHe did apologize later and I have no doubt that he was trying to be playful (I think he honestly felt badly, too- he wasn't a bad guy, although he has the strongest fingers in the universe)... I have had similar situations happen in the past, but not this bad. One should be understanding that men are men and they are going to be sexually playful and adventuresome in a sexally charged atmosphere... but I guess I wanted to ask about personal boundaries? Copping a feel here or there is no big deal (flattering and hot, to be honest) but being overly aggressive or rough is beyond the boundary. I am curious if anyone else on here has ever thought about this?

    EDIT: I just remembered another example... In Miami, there was a guy at the bar who kept roughly grabbed my hands and tried to pin them behind my back... the first time I laughed and pulled away and said, "dont do that", the second time I didn't laugh and pulled away and said "stop"..... the fifth time I pushed him into a wall and said, "do that again and I will kick your ass!" I mean, once I said, "Stop" that should be enough, dont you think?


    One of my biggest pet peeves in a bar. I get that with a couple of drinks guys are going to be a little more adventurous and aggressive, but 100%, if someone tells you to stop, even with a polite smile, back the hell away.

    Of course, I've also had to step in on a buddy of mine to prevent him from getting his ass kicked b/c he was doing the same thing when he was hammered so...
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    Oct 30, 2011 7:29 PM GMT
    If you twist the left one really really hard, maybe it'll balance your nipples out and they'll stop hurting.

    It's just a theory.
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    Oct 30, 2011 7:41 PM GMT
    earthsearch said
    People in bars rarely understand personal space.


    ^ this!

    I've been on the receiving end of similar unwelcome nipple tweaks - incidentily at the NY Eagle - I get that some guys like the nips tweaked rough - really roughly - but I am not one of those guys. I don't need you to tweak my nip with every bit of strength in your being to get my attention - if that's all you have to offer, you can piss the fuck off.
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    Oct 30, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    Note To Self:
    Protect nipples while at gay bar.
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    Oct 30, 2011 7:46 PM GMT
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    earthsearch said
    People in bars rarely understand personal space.


    ^ this!

    I've been on the receiving end of similar unwelcome nipple tweaks - incidentily at the NY Eagle - I get that some guys like the nips tweaked rough - really roughly - but I am not one of those guys. I don't need you to tweak my nip with every bit of strength in your being to get my attention - if that's all you have to offer, you can piss the fuck off.


    Is it just me or do gay guys not know how to approach nipple tweaking in a proper way?

    I've lost all sensitivity in my nipples because of over zealous tweakers. I now ride the sexual shortbus to school. *sob*
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    Oct 30, 2011 7:59 PM GMT
    earthsearch said
    NYBeef said
    earthsearch said
    People in bars rarely understand personal space.


    ^ this!

    I've been on the receiving end of similar unwelcome nipple tweaks - incidentily at the NY Eagle - I get that some guys like the nips tweaked rough - really roughly - but I am not one of those guys. I don't need you to tweak my nip with every bit of strength in your being to get my attention - if that's all you have to offer, you can piss the fuck off.


    Is it just me or do gay guys not know how to approach nipple tweaking in a proper way?

    I've lost all sensitivity in my nipples because of over zealous tweakers. I now ride the sexual shortbus to school. *sob*


    ^ I agree 100% Earthsearch!

    I was with this one guy for a few months and no matter how many times I told him, hell, even demonstrated on him (and he loved the demo, I might add!) he just could not get it right - my nips were a mess from his fingers and mouth and like you Earth, my nips were no longer the sensitive source of pleasure they once were icon_cry.gif

    The sensitivity eventually returned - after a l-o-n-g while - and I was loathe to let anyone touch, tweak or play with them until this one bloke came along and lets just say, he knew what he was doing, knew how to respond in his play to my responses, defo taught me a thing or two and well, you know... icon_biggrin.gif

    I think you just need someone to help you bring back the sensitivity Earth! icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 30, 2011 8:04 PM GMT
    NYBeef said
    earthsearch said
    NYBeef said
    earthsearch said
    People in bars rarely understand personal space.


    I think you just need someone to help you bring back the sensitivity Earth! icon_wink.gif


    Oh that would be a happy dayicon_smile.gif
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    Oct 30, 2011 8:05 PM GMT
    Did it crust over yet?
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    Oct 30, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
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    endo saidIf you twist the left one really really hard, maybe it'll balance your nipples out and they'll stop hurting.

    It's just a theory.
    That would require getting back with strongest fingers in the world.


    Yes, or perhaps a mountain climber/concert pianist. Someone who has biceps for fingers ...
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    Oct 30, 2011 8:14 PM GMT
    Yeah, mine got a little over-done last night. Although in fairness, I did not complain at the time. Still, I was a little scared to look in the mirror this morning and see what was left.
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    Oct 30, 2011 8:17 PM GMT
    Trollileo said
    earthsearch said
    Trollileo said
    endo saidIf you twist the left one really really hard, maybe it'll balance your nipples out and they'll stop hurting.

    It's just a theory.
    That would require getting back with strongest fingers in the world.


    Yes, or perhaps a mountain climber/concert pianist. Someone who has biceps for fingers ...
    I'm not a concert pianist, but pretty damn close. My fingers got super ripped playing cymbals in marching band. All that rimming, sucking, clamping, etc... (These are actual terms for cymbal playing, by the way.)

    Oh wait. This would require me touching someone who's too good for me. That's disgusting.


    Hearing about cymbals in marching band makes my underwear go tighter.
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    Oct 30, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
    Funny thread. I've had a couple guys do that to me and I've shoved them for that. Also have had a couple guys bite me, which I ended pushing off the bed. Like the OP, they all apologized profusely and seemed to feel really bad about it. Seriously, whatever happened to asking "what are you into?" before you go acting out scenes from Hostel.
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    Oct 30, 2011 8:43 PM GMT
    earthsearch said
    NYBeef said
    earthsearch said
    NYBeef said
    earthsearch said
    People in bars rarely understand personal space.


    I think you just need someone to help you bring back the sensitivity Earth! icon_wink.gif


    Oh that would be a happy dayicon_smile.gif



    You ever get to NYC? icon_wink.gif