Hard Times for Gay Retirement Havens

  • metta

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    Oct 31, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    Hard Times for Gay Retirement Havens


    http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/29/us/gay-retirement-communities-struggling-in-the-recession.html


    I would like to see a major builder build a proper retirement community. One without the ridiculous fees that many retirement communities charge. They should offer an HOA to pay for upkeep of community facilities. And if the facility is large enough, it would be nice to offer a community restaurant where residents could get fairly priced meals located within the community lodge/pub, possibly with some of the food grown from a community garden.

    I think the homes should be designed with several master bedrooms so that each person has a nice size private space while sharing space, similar to the Golden Girls.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Oct 31, 2011 6:25 AM GMT
    They won't be voting for Mr. Obama!
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    Oct 31, 2011 2:53 PM GMT
    I think the homes should be designed with several master bedrooms so that each person has a nice size private space while sharing space, similar to the Golden Girls.

    I think Blanche was the only one with her own bathroom. The others argued about sharing it all the time. WTF why do I know this? LOL
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    Oct 31, 2011 5:38 PM GMT
    I read that the other day. They offer a little tease about "a facility near portland" but never identify it. I wonder if maybe these enterprises really need someone who is more experienced in the retirement hive business model. The ones that succeed seem to be fairly ruthless though. (I've been trying to place a parent over the last few years. And some of my minimum-wage relatives have been working at those places off and on over the years.)

    One problem is that by the time most people check into one of these places, they really can't take care of themselves any more, so it takes a lot of staff. And some facilities seem to get a lot of the staff right off the street - people who are not particularly competent or respectful.

    There is another model, at least in Oregon. I think it's called 'adult foster care' or something. It's like a mini-nursing home operated in a large private house. Basically two or so caregivers and six or eight clients. It's regulated by the state, but in a much lower-cost model than a nursing home or retirement village. I've never heard of one of these set up for gay people, but I wouldn't be surprised if there are a few out there. (Can't help imagining a boarding house full of lecherous old codgers with a couple of shirtless houseboys serving their meals and counting out their pills.)
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    Oct 31, 2011 6:24 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidCan't help imagining a boarding house full of lecherous old codgers with a couple of shirtless houseboys serving their meals and counting out their pills.)


    LOL that can't end well. Get em all loopy then make them get married and change the will.

    Is another (good news) possibility that -- with changing social attitudes -- the need to ghettoize yourself into an all-LGBT community may be waning? The article says the Florida community was only half-gay; I'm assuming the rest are people who just support the idea of a welcoming, safe community (which means that such places won't always need to be created from scratch).

    I have heard that the 99%-LGBT Metropolitan Community Church, which was founded and thrived when most churches were unwelcoming, is really struggling now because a.) LGBT folks don't produce kids at the rate that hets do and b.) those who do are not by definition LGBT and thus may not feel like they belong. Now that most mainline denominations as well as many independent/evangelical churches are changing their tune on gay inclusion, they are no longer the only option. They are struggling to figure out who they want to be next in the changed environment. When being LGBT is the only thing you have in common, it makes agreement on other things hard. Kind of like on here.

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    Oct 31, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    Hey, if I can't get a little pole-dance with my prune juice, what's the point?

    Can I get my social security payment in dollar bills?