In need of some advice!!!

  • dantheman88

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    Oct 31, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    Ok, so I met this really cute guy on friday night randomly at a bar. We hit it off instantly and well i ended up going back to his place..and no we didnt have sex..we just had ate, watched a movie, cuddled and made out. The next day it wasnt like "ok man, nice hooking up with you ill see you later". Im just surprised that the chemistry has been so strong in such a short amount of time! Well anyways, we ended up having dinner the next day and he introduced me to his best friend...ah its so weird cause we acted so couply..like holding hands.lol. That night I partied with him and his friends and went back to his place again. He told me he liked me a lot as did I..but we havent asked each other out on a date. So this is where it gets confusing...we are not official at all..so do any have the right to hook up with other people..or to be even flirt? also, is it ok to be feel jealous? or would that mean that the person is getting way to ahead of himself?
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    Oct 31, 2011 6:22 AM GMT
    radicalguy saidOk, so I met this really cute guy on friday night randomly at a bar. We hit it off instantly and well i ended up going back to his place..and no we didnt have sex..we just had ate, watched a movie, cuddled and made out. The next day it wasnt like "ok man, nice hooking up with you ill see you later". Im just surprised that the chemistry has been so strong in such a short amount of time! Well anyways, we ended up having dinner the next day and he introduced me to his best friend...ah its so weird cause we acted so couply..like holding hands.lol. That night I partied with him and his friends and went back to his place again. He told me he liked me a lot as did I..but we havent asked each other out on a date. So this is where it gets confusing...we are not official at all..so do any have the right to hook up with other people..or to be even flirt? also, is it ok to be feel jealous? or would that mean that the person is getting way to ahead of himself?


    Wait a few more days,, you'll have your answer.
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    Oct 31, 2011 12:22 PM GMT
    Ok. First - a connection is a connection, whatever that connection may be, so they can be powerful and fast and consuming.

    Why haven't you asked him on a date? What do you mean by a date? Take the pressure off and don't think about it that way. Just ask him to do something with you. Dinner, hiking, something, whatever.

    Second. Yes, you both have a right to hook up with anyone. That said, would you want to? If not, and he feels the same, he prob doesn't want to either. And if you do, what does that say about how you feel about him. In my eyes, if I just met someone then found out they're hooking up all over the place it wouldn't really help me to form a greater connection with them!

    Third. It is ok to BE jealous. It shows you want something. It is not ok to SHOW that you are jealous. It's early days. You'll come off needy and potentially a bit of a freak show.

    Finally. Try to just be yourself. Go with how you feel. Don't engage in fake behaviour or games. Games hurt. Falsifying who you are will lead to pain as ultimately he will work out you've been putting up a facade!

    Good luck! And above all. Enjoy! The chase is half the fun!!!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 31, 2011 12:25 PM GMT
    I would say that it's pretty early to have it all figured out..... it will before long.
    I would say, you can do whatever you want at this stage until it becomes a little more "official".. and then it depends on what you both want.
    But if you choose to see others, he certainly has the right to do the same,thus you need to approach it in a grounded (non jealous) manner.
    All pretty new and laid back yet. I would say, don't set boundries until
    you agree to them.
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    Oct 31, 2011 12:35 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI would say that it's pretty early to have it all figured out..... it will before long.
    I would say, you can do whatever you want at this stage until it becomes a little more "official".. and then it depends on what you both want.
    But if you choose to see others, he certainly has the right to do the same,thus you need to approach it in a grounded (non jealous) manner.
    All pretty new and laid back yet. I would say, don't set boundries until
    you agree to them.


    sound advice!