Honoring and Respecting self.

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    Jul 17, 2007 1:13 PM GMT
    I was just wondering how other gay men take the time to honor and respect themselves, caring for self, besides the usual excerise and diet routine.
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    Jul 17, 2007 10:03 PM GMT
    I feel honoring and respecting one's self is very important.

    I do the diet and exercise, with my goal being to get bigger. For me, weight lifting is a bit of a spiritual experience. While not inherently so, I find a lot of peace in focusing my energy to push myself harder and farther than I have ever been.

    In everyday life, I try to stay true to myself and others. I think a lot about what I say. I tend not to say things like 'See you tomorrow!' if I don't plan on seeing them tomorrow. I feel that is ultimate respect. While not necessarily making me popular with everyone, at the very least I am real with them, and myself. I find this leads to less problems in the long term.

    I keep myself entertained. My mama always told me,'Being bored is an insult to yourself'. I live by those words. I may not always be out running laps, but I am never bored, no matter how dull my situation.

    However, my favorite thing to do for myself is to smile. I learned from a young age, no matter how bad I felt, miserable I was, if I just smiled, I would be happy. I find it can be infectious, and it's a disease I am willing to spread.

    Good post, would like to see what other people have to say.
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    Jul 17, 2007 11:45 PM GMT
    I believe that everything you put into your body comes out in some form. (Not trying to be gross, really). People who abuse their bodies really hard will eventually show it on the outside.

    I've mentioned that I work in an emergency department. I see the effects of patients that suffer from alcohol and drug abuse. All the ill effects related to smoking.

    I know it is cliche to say "Your body is your temple" but your body is the only one you've got.

    I'm am just coming out of years of depression where I gained a lot of weight. Don't drink heavy nor do I smoke but I abused my body with the wrong foods. I sabotoged my body. I am to to blame for that. I am correcting that. I've lost 30 pounds with a goal of losing another 20 to 25.

    Point of all this. Got to take care of yourself because no one else is.



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    Jul 18, 2007 9:40 AM GMT
    Nice topic and great replys.
    I honored and respected myself this week by taking a break from my usual Gym-Yoga-Bike-Hike routine; I allowed myself quality time with friends and time alone - so nice to sit still and feel the quality of air, Breath, and gratitude for the life it gives us.
    Tonight I skate boarded to one of my favorite parks and laid myself on the ground after skating for a bit. It was the first time in a week or so that I got to take in the starry night. I followed the patterns and connected as many stars as I could, and dreamed of the day when my folks used to take me as a child to see the fourth of July fireworks and how magic it was to see the colors explode on the night sky. The memory cleaned away a few cobwebs, and I was able to come home ready for rest.
    It is so nice to prepare one's self for sleep with good thoughts lingering.
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    Jul 18, 2007 10:58 AM GMT
    Being alone is one of the best ways to honor self. Observing silence allows us to self-reflection and clear up negative engery. I use running and right before I go to bed as my time for self-reflection.